Selfish or Selfless. Think Again.

Many times, we seek convenience in our daily lives so much so that we seek it at the expense of others, directly or indirectly. Quality of life has caused us to take many things for granted. Things such as not needing to climb the stairs to your house because there’s always a lift serving you to your heart-warming home, or even a sheltered bus stop to shelter you from hot burning sun rays or hard splashing rain pour.

Learnt from a lesson as simple as the recent accident which caused innocent lives, it is totally uncalled for. This should never have happened if people were more considerate. Imagine how your patience could come a long way. Surely few seconds doesn’t kill. Dashing the red light and causing innocent lives, how will that go with you for the rest of your life if you are still alive? Luckily and deservingly in a way, he paid a price which I’m glad he did anyway.

There, you don’t only take away the lives of the innocent people but also the loved ones that is involved. Imagine how the family can survive long term with the sole breadwinner gone just like that. It’s a harsh reality that’s definitely hard to take. Even an outside like me finds it hard to swallow. All I felt deep in my heart is unbearable pity and heart-wrenching emotions.


Sometimes, I wish we could be more humane to spare a thought for others. I had my personal frustration too. A smoker happily smoking in the lift while I’m inside too, can you imagine the amount of 2nd hand smoke I inhale in that enclosed area? At times, I just feel like confronting that person, but then again, many times, by the time I realized it, that idiot has already left the lift while I’m happily stuck in there inhaling what I shouldn’t have. Will it kill you to either finish your cigarette before you take the lift, or smoke only after you exit the lift? I’m definitely not against smokers like how some people curse “Smokers Die Young!” but I’m definitely a “Inconsiderate Smokers Die Young’ person.

Show more patience, show more consideration, spare more thoughts and perhaps, this world can be a better place for everyone to live in. Isn’t it?

Diminishing Single-hood

Love. Till now, this word remains a complicated one. Behind the façade of this four letter word, there lie tons of complications definitions behind it. This word carries some of the most painful emotions on earth, yet at the same time, it unleashes some of the greatest moments of one’s life.

I’m one foot into ‘marriage’, unofficially, although I passed my ‘fairy tale’ dream of getting hitched at the tender age of 24. In just a few mere few years time, I will not be able to enjoy the freedom of Single-hood, along with other ‘perks’ that Single-hood brings.

Nobody will fully understand the importance of this Single-hood until they are totally exempted from it. I guess that’s the irony of life. When you are single, you wish you were attached. When you are attached, you hope you are single. There is no best of both worlds in this harsh reality.

 I’m still very much a single person even though I’m attached. I guess the day I considered myself NOT SINGLE (how scary!) will be the day I wore that wedding band and say my wedding vows meaningfully.

With our very own beloved abode bought and we very much know what’s next. For me, it contains a larger responsibility to ask for her precious hand, because this would mean a lot to not just the two of us, but those who loved us and we love. Our topic nowadays revolves around the milestones that are so near yet so far.

We realized and learnt a lot about what’s in store for us, still, at the back of our mind, we have, there’s definitely more that we are unaware off. The thing about marriage is, it’s not that simple as we used to think it is. It involves a lot, and a lot more if you are someone who wants to make it even more memorable and enjoyable.

Marriage talks and seminars opened out mind, widen our perspective and definitely aid in some of the planning. I long forgo the want to lavish the whole process but I still acknowledge the need to make this milestone worth the tag of ‘once in a lifetime’. They say marriage is a huge responsibility which acts as a test to a couple, and if that is the case, I would say getting married is a pre test, a pre-requisite that a couple has to pass before embarking on the lifelong journey together. And for this, I’m all prepared.

Weird Office Rules

I’m pretty sure every single one of us has a ‘dream boss’ in our heart. One whom had the heart of graciousness and one who showed empathy towards you while at the same time, provide guidance and utmost patience in whatever you do. BUT, that can only exist in dreamland.


The truth is, we are always stuck with imperfect boss. There are a lot of types of bosses. Some good, some bad and some, beyond hopeless. More often than not, it is the rules or guidelines laid down by the bosses that reflect greatly on the type of boss they are or can become.

Allow me to share some of the weirdest rules laid by bosses which bound to either nod autonomously or simply just let out a sign of relief:-

 - Your boss doesn’t allow you to take MC: WTF is such rule. Obviously, the reason why one is taking MC is because he or she is sick, and you expect the poor soul to work even though he or she is sick? And what’s worse, he or she could spread the virus to everyone else including you. Definitely something a Boss shouldn’t allow!

 - Your boss doesn’t allow employees to date with anyone within the company: Frankly speaking, this is reasonable to a very small extent but then again, it’s human rights than it being violated here. We are living in a 20th century where we are FREE TO LOVE. There’s no stopping when the cupid comes knocking isn’t it. Are you telling me you are control the number of times you sneeze or yawn per day? DUH!

 - Your boss insist you not talk AT ALL during work: How is that even possible in the first place? Unless you are telling me you are working in a workplace where voice or noise will cause harm or death, if not, that is ruinously rubbish.

 - Your boss doesn’t allow you to go toilet for big or small business: So what? Am I doing to pee into your mouth or shit on your face?

- Your boss doesn’t allow the usage of mobile phone AT ALL: Yes, your boss is going to take every single responsibility should something happened at home, NOT! Crap.

 - Your boss insists you work OT very single day: Your boss must be thinking just because he has no wife means that his employees shall not be allow spending time with their loved ones too. Simi Sai!

- Your boss will only allow your to change your stationary only if it is completely spoilt (beyond usage) and completely used up: Imagine your boss ensure your ink has been used up completely before he stingily allow you to replace it with just one pen.

- No personal belonging on workdesk or anywhere visible in the office: You’re telling me to be naked in the office, isn’t it? LOL! Now every cubicle and employee will look the same.

- You have to answer your office phone within one ring: This sound like a test for policeman who needs to be trained for alert and agility. Now, even if you are shitting, you can’t shit with a peace of mind.

Somehow, I’m glad none of the above happened to me and I really do hope it will never happen to me. And for those who encountered any of the above, probably, it’s time you head for a greener pasture, because I’m pretty sure for you, the grass is definitely greener on the other side.

Carrying Girlfriend's Handbag - Gentleman or Gay?

It caused such a huge uproar not long ago when some Stomper (apparently, too free to mind his/her own business) stomped into STOMP with pieces of evidences of a guy carrying his girlfriend's handbag,

Comments from Netizens soon followed, most of which were supportive of the perception of this Stomper. Whether these comments comes from a girl or guy, to me, it doesn't make much of a difference. It's these comments that make me feel, pathetic.

I grew up feeling loved. Loved for the fact that my mum carried my school bag to school for me, whether it is fetching me home or fetching me to school. This gesture, to me, is love. The love that parent gave to the child, for not needing to carry this physical burden.

Likewise, I grew up with this mentality - when I do grow up, it will be my rightful duty to carry my mother's handbag when she's older, and when what used to be her role, is switched to my duty now. Even if it's for a moment of seconds where she just needed someone to carry her bag for her, I'll gladly do so.

I brought this perception along with me as I enter into my relationship. To me, it's only right to carry your girlfriend's handbag, or rather, it's only right to ask if she needs you to help her with her handbag. It's a GENTLEMAN to do so in fact. To me, it's listed under one of the many etiquette to do. I never knew it could be such a big deal for showing love in the most gentlemanly manner.

Imagine this, guys like us don't usually carry a bag when we are out, and so, whenever we brought along with us for that date (such as water bottle, cardigen etc) are all thrown into HER handbag. And so, there you go, walk as freely as you can while she has one of her hands holding that useless hand of yours and the other hand tussling with the physical burden of that handbag.

I can't imagine how guys could abandon the thought of even helping your girlfriend with her handbag when it's utterly heavy just because of your seemingly ego and pride. To me, not helping your girlfriend with that is ever a bigger deal (a disgraceful one).

For once, I hope I could see more Gentlemen on the streets rather than pitiful girls with red marks on their shoulders (as if carrying your future child isn't bad enough). As for me, I stand by my belief that being a gentleman to your girlfriend is far more important than the intangible pride and ego that cost almost nothing.



PS: I'm a proud handbag carrier!