Working The Japan Way

I was mentioning how the end of a chapter spells another beginning back last month. Time sure flies and I'm already near 3 weeks into my job. I must say, I'm rather impressed with myself, at how fast I managed to adapt to this whole new working environment. But definitely, I wouldn't have done it without the support of my girlfriend, that's for sure. She made me realized what's 'pillar of my life'. Aside for the relentless support, if not for the fact that the culture shock this Japanese company brings, I wouldn't even dare to consider it as a huge feat.

Interestingly, I got a culture shock on my first day of work. I don't know to feel glad or sad to be honest. The fact that I got a shock made my first few days of work tough, real tough. I reckon if I would have come from a more Asian and open company prior to this, things would probably be slightly easier for me. Perhaps comparison was at fault for this shock.

Therefore, I make a survival manual as to what you could possibly expect working in a Japanese company.

Unique Working Environment

You get low partition between each other  in this huge space in a single floor. In this classroom style working environment, you get literally low or NO privacy at all. Everyone can see what you are doing at your desktop. Everyone can see when you're the first person to leave the office. Everyone can see if you doze off during your work. And when I mention everyone, I really mean EVERYONE, all 100++ of them.

Because of this unique style, my boss sits just beside me, and he's probably just half an arm away from me. Oh, did I mention the only person who has a room in this entire company in the president? Yes, you hear me right, even Vice President, General Managers and Bosses sit in such open environment, so it's a literal truth that everyone can see what you are doing, even your big big big big big boss.

'The Phone Plays Music?!' 

This is definitely something new. And possibly the only thing you'll experience only if you are in a Japanese company. Our office phone is apparently customized so that our phone will ring at 9am (which is our official working start time), 12pm (lunchtime), 1pm (end of lunchtime) and lastly 5.45pm (official working end time). They will play such nice melody for a mere 30 seconds before it stops and the phone is definitely very punctual. Unchained melody?

Cleanest Toilet Award 

Yes. You guessed it. How can I leave toilet bowl out. They see toilet as importantly as any other equipment or accessory in the office. And you won't be able to find a single squatting platform anywhere in the office. There's only toilet bowls. They are cleaner than most toilets you find in Singapore. And trust me you know you're in a Japanese company when each time you enter the toilet, the cover is closed. You open it up when you want to use it, and you close it back when you are done using it. Speaking about toilet manners. A good way to start from here definitely

Company's Greatest Asset

No doubt, when you are in a Japanese company, you get one of the most amazing mentality you could possibly see in the workforce. Thankfully, I was able to be part of this. We have seen how Japanese had the never say die attitude when they fought the war back in our grandpa days. We have seen how Japanese worked together with each other to tide over the major earthquake last year. This is the spirit within them. They instill a mindset that each and everyone has a part to play in everything they do. This is no different in this company. If I fail in what is expected of me, it means my boss has failed. This is also the reason why bosses here never gives up on you easily. Call it ego if you want, but to them, if they are the ones who hire you, it means they have to prove that they have made the right choice, else, it will reflect badly on them. That is why, employees here are always learning because their bosses is willing to teach. This way, it attributes to us employees being a great assets of the company.

Workaholic

Japan, being where they are today with such advanced technology and economy, is by no means easy feat. The reason why they climb so fast on the economics ladder is because people there worked hard, literally. When I was back in Japan few years back, 11pm and I was in the bus coach cruising by office towers by the highway, all I see inside the building are brightly lit window panes. Indeed, people are still working at those hours. Their high suicide rates is also caused by the tremendous stress from work. Japanese worked hard. The employees in my company is the same. To them, a hardworking or good employee is one who works till late. Never mind if you are not doing your work efficiently or effectively, so long as you leave the office LATE, you are a good worker. Period. Dangerous for me, who still firmly believe in work life balance. 

Manners

Manners to the Japanese is extremely important and it has to be observed in the work place. Mobile phones has to be switched off, no speaking loudly, be considerate towards colleagues and superiors alike..etc...the list goes on. The way the bosses (Japanese mainly) speak to each other already shows how much manners mean to them. To them, what manners you display shows alot about yourself. A good place for me to turn less couth I suppose.

Punctuality

Punctuality matters more than anything else. Every seconds counts here. If you're late, be prepared to be on the target list of your superior. The Japanese are VERY VERY particular about punctuality. To them, if you cannot even observe punctuality, how are you even to manage your work. To them, if you have poor time management, chances are, you are not going to be good at managing the tasks and responsibilities entrusted to you. This is definitely no joke, especially for someone like me.

I'm sure there's more to what was mentioned here but basically, the gist of it is here. And if you noticed, most of which actually attributes one to be a better person, not just a better employee. I'm sure this workplace will expose me to much more than I can learn and hopefully, I can really be a better employee and person through this valuable opportunity given to me.

Before It's Too Late

Have you ever been fall into the trap of procrastinating? Have you said these sentences such as "this can wait", "maybe later" or "perhaps next time then" to yourself before? Have you ever imagine the consequences that it brings if we don't perform certain action or said certain things on/at that very instance we wanted to?

As we walked our very next time, breathe in the very next breath, utter our very next words, the clock ticks. Time is a silent killer that carefully robs time from us. We grew older every single seconds, and as much as many wish, most yearn to grew wiser, smarter, prettier, much more loving etc, all by the seconds. But, the harsh truth is, we all age. We all become forgetful and full of wrinkles when we grow old. No denial. That is the normal and rightful process we all will go through.

But, what if the unwanted and unexpected struck? For example, an accident, a disastrous calamity or a terminal illness strikes. No one human being has the capability or ability to stop that from happen, because we are no magicians. And when that happens, will "this can wait", "maybe later" or "perhaps next time then" be too late? Think again.

If you want to tell that person you love him or her, say it, even if you are surrounded by eyes looking at you. If you want to buy that favourite food for someone who loves it and patiently waits for you back at home, do it. If you need to finish that work just so you can go home on time to accompany your family, finish it. Time waits for no one. Like I've said, we may be no magicians yet, what we can do or say can make magic to the loved ones that we care so much for.

For if we wait to do something, it might really prove to be a little too late. Live the moment and indulge in it, and not live the future with regrets. I'm a firm believer of expressing my love through actions and words, because I don't wish to take time for granted. If I am not sure if I can live the next minute, I'd better say what I would feel and wish to say for the next minute, before it's too late...

Transition Period

It's been slightly more than a week since I left my company of three years. Life has been pretty much slack. It's been really months since I last updated about my life. Everything has been pretty much mundane and it's more on work that I can talk about rather than anything else happening around me.

Me and the girl celebrated our 2nd year together. It was a long way coming around and we are more certain than before to really make our future work out. You can say we are already planning for our marriage and we have already started saving for it. It could be happening as soon as late this year, that's how FAST time flies, actually. 

Dates has been rather routinal. It's either movies or simply just slacking out butts off TV shows and foods. That's how boring Singapore is as you can see, and that's the reason why we always can't wait to get out of this small boring island. The girl would definitely be the happier one to do so but because of our marriage, this will have to wait as well. But we were at least heartened with the fact that we have a short trip to Kuala Lumpur coming up and a long one in the last quarter of this year, most likely to be Korea. (Can I see my Ji-Yeon in Korean please?? =p).

Job was postponed till 19 Mar. That gave me a huge reason to let go of things a little and go wild. And look what I did to my hair. I've always wanted to tried an ash dye on my hair, and finally, I went ahead to do it, after much consideration and hesitation. It turned out fine in fact, although the bleach apparently scares off some of my ex colleagues and friends.

It has been quite a large amount of me time. Definitely making up for the loss of that largely due to the heavy workload leading up to NATAS. I'm definitely glad it has all ended now. For sure, I'm missing the fun I had with my colleagues and it will be on my agenda to visit them soon, before I start work of course. Like I've said, I've spent more time sleeping, catching up on my shows and soccer. Now I'm so free, I feel like doing something. Something productive and add on value to myself.

I've always wanted to start something on my own. Through my own ideas. Had a few here and there every now and then, but never had the time to execute it. Perhaps, it's high time I kick start it and hopefully it leads me to somewhere somehow.

Meanwhile, at the back of my head, I'm eagerly waiting for my new job to start. I'm excited of it, at the same time, feeling that little bit of worrying deep down inside my heart. I'm not sure how this new job of mine will affect my lifestyle and life as a whole, probably due to the fact that I know I might need to work late and work overseas more often than before. But it is something I'm confident would fly my career higher and I'm certainly hoping it would. Probably, it could already be the start of everything....

Taking Granted

I'm pretty sure most of us had fallen in the trap of 'taking things or people for granted'. It's probably one of the worst thing that can ever happen to a human being, because for all we know, the consequences could prove disastrous.


I was once a victim of this trap. An incident that has nearly cost a hefty price tag. We often live in the world where love are easily obtained by those around us, from our parents, our significant other half, our friends etc. But little did we realize that it's hard maintaining a relationship/friendship/kinship and finding one.

It sometimes hit me how I could boss my mother around and she willingly does everything for me, all because she love me. It's a simple as that. My duty could too be as simple as showing her the amount of due respect and appreciating what she has done for me. Being the most important person of my entire life, I know that should I ever take her for granted, I'll definitely live with regrets. I've learnt to stow down a little and start to appreciate what she has done and in return, hoping to make her happy too.

All I'm trying to say here is, don't take someone you love for granted, be it someone as close as your mother or someone who's merely a friend. It takes two hands to clap. I've seen and personally encountered how fragile friendship can be once tested, but once a friendship can passed that, there hardly exist any boundaries at all.

Friendship takes efforts from both party. If it's just a one way traffic, it ain't going to work and at times, it's going to turn ugly. People always say sometimes, it's better to be late than never. I agree but one has to acknowledge that if you do it late, things will probably never be the same again.

Know who's staying the truest to you and give this person your all. Show your ugly self and you bound to get distance for sure....think about it..

End of the Chapter

As I left that very door, I looked back once more, imagining the life after the very next step that I was about to take. I knew it's going to be different, and uncertain, yet it paints a positive greener pasture for me. I left that place of three years plus with a tinge of mild emotions, yet leaving behind are the awesome colleagues whom have accompanied through the toughest times of my stint there.

As I carefully craft my farewell email, memories flowed through my mind endlessly, as though reminding me how much I had gone through, alongside the fellow warriors who fought tirelessly with me. Carefully not to miss anyone important people out, I acknowledge the fact that if not for these people whom I've worked closely with and for, I wouldn't be where and who I am today, my girlfriend included.

Perhaps, it couldn't be more timely that I choose to leave this time, having done my final battle (NATAS) with my fellow colleagues. It was a huge relief, to be able to complete it after much struggle, which brings me the heart to pity whoever is taking my helm, for I know the route the next person is going to take, won't be an easy one.

But then again, blame it on the management or the superiors if one must. If not for the lack of leadership and management, probably, things would take a brighter turn. Still, on a positive note, it is this negative circumstances that forces me to learn things the hard way, allowing a deeper understanding of what I ought to know, at the same time, making me realized I'm a much stronger person than what I thought I am, and eventually, leading to my departure to seek for better prospects and opportunities.

Three years plus is not a long time, neither it's a short one. I've met countless people and worked with many out of which, I"m glad there are colleagues who turned friends and I cherish this relationship for it is them who made my stay in there an awesome one. Finally, this chapter has ended. I'm sure it is time now, to take this short period of time to reflect and appreciate, before I start on my next new chapter...

Till then...

An Ending Spells Another Beginning

Alright, it’s confirmed. I’m finally moving on. It’s such a huge relief that nothing could explain my feelings when I did two things that further affirms that – penning down my signature on that employment letter and sealing that fatal letter and finally throwing it. I remembered how everything turned and proved too much for me last September and I’ve decided to source for a greener pastures after the last NATAS. I remembered quoting the exact words ‘Time to move on’ on the status on my then, Live Messenger window. For the past 5 months, I’ve been seeing that without any avail or progress in my job hunting. And now, finally, I can change that quote, to something more meaningful, something more positive and definitely something which I know can best describe how a chapter can end beautifully to make way for another chapter of challenges. In probably less than 30 days time, I’m going to leave this place where I’m actually grew attached to during my stint here for the past three years. As much as I hated the management, the managers and some unnecessary people, I realized I’m going to bring along with me a lot more that I can ask for when I leave this place in less than 1 month time. Till then, I shall recollect myself, to piece each memory back one by one, good or bad, in the midst of preparing for NATAS and prepare myself for this milestone to come.

Time to move on, finally?

To be honest, I never thought it would be that tough. Times like this are hard to bite the grit to move on. I always thought finding a job is as easy as 1,2,3 or A,B,C. Perhaps, the reason why I developed this perception is because finding job had been an ease for me through my life. From part time job through job agency to finding my first full time job within two interviews. In another words, it was smooth sailing. And it is also because of that, I realized the hard and harsh truth of working life. In such a competitive environment like Singapore, everyone wants a piece of everything. We, Singaporeans move on faster than most people from other parts of the world. Scandals and rumors get diminished very fast, consumerism changes its trends faster than ever seen before and we Singaporeans are hungrier and greedier than before as well.

Even employers see things the way the world is viewing, but the only difference is, in a more competitive manner. In Singapore, nobody is indispensible. Even my new boss says that. The fact is, there are companies who view their employees as assets, and for some, employees are just workers, workers who are just err…workers. Sad to say, where I am from, employees are viewed and treated in a biased manner. More often than not, many of us felt under-appreciated. But, there's nothing we can do about it. It's rice bowls that we can talking about here. However, having said that, there lies a boundaries no matter what. Employers are spoilt for choice. Imagine a position with almost 20 over candidates, and frankly speaking, do you even think if you get the job, you're the real one who can fit and live up to that job perfectly?

That is why interview is so important. Same goes for resumes and the countless versions of cover letter you have to come up with for job hunting. I realized resume plays a huge role in getting yourself even a chance to be noticed. Imagine just a minor word can make your resume nothing but a worthless piece of document. And once you got that chance, interview is the next big hurdle. It's all about selling yourself. Selling yourself tactically so to speak. No one asks you to speak on how shitty or badly your company is. No one asks you to say how many flaws and bad habits you actually have. The thing is, it's all about striking a balance between boosting your strengths and experience adequately and briefly mention your flaws and how it can actually be a strength at the same time.

After going through so many interviews, I've learnt. I've learnt that job aren't easy to find and it is very important that the next job you're going to get is a good one. I'm sure no one will go looking for a job with the intention of working for just one year or so, definitely not me at least. I'm looking to stay committed, and to get the best and most out of it. Afterall, working is a learning experience, one that adds value to your own self.

Probably, that is why I'm careful with my job search. And now, I'm hit by difficult choices, or so I thought. But no matter what, I'm kind of set on what I want, come what may, I'll take it with a positive note and bent on making and improving myself as a person, adding values to myself through the exposure and experiences I'm going to face. Whatever it is, I'm glad I'm finally leaving the shit hole I'm in, because where I am now, is full of poor management, poor working environment, poor leadership. If there's anything that would make me stay, that's probably the good colleagues that I've made over my stint there.

But having said that, I'm sure whatever my choice is, my colleagues will support me, same for those who cared and shared their most honest opinion with me. I too hope if it's time for one to leave, they can garner the courage to do the same as me. I've come to learn that there is simply no point sparing any thought for a company who doesn't appreciate and acknowledge the efforts of the employees, because ultimately, no one is going to care if at the end of the day, your bowl will be filled with rice for your tummy. It's literally a fight for your own self, in this harsh reality. With that, I prayed for a good year ahead and seriously hope my life will change the moment next week arrives.

End of 2011 | Beginning of 2012

To be honest, 2011 has been a slightly poorer year as compared to the last, largely due to work reasons. It has been an entirely different year for me mainly because of my job role change. My life as a jet-setter-wannabe has also reduced for the exact same reasons.

Nevertheless, this year has been filled with milestones as well as unforgettable occasions worth mentioning once again as well as to celebrate this happiness to once again remind myself, how contented I should be and feel. For this post, I'm doing to do up a little review of the happenings throughout this year that has significantly affected me one way or another.


January

First Anniversary: Life has never taste that sweeter with this special day as I celebrate this special date with my special someone at a special place as well. That marks a wonderful celebration of love with my special girl!

Where Happiness Means The World: We deeply feel this Club Med slogan with our heart as we enjoyed ourselves away in this unique and romantic Club Med Experience away @ Bali. Wine, food, sleep, relax and enjoy..nothing else! 

Shopping Spree @ Land of Smiles: I remembered how we walked miles and spent hours just to shop, and the number of loots we have, is simply too way overboard to mention here. Just imagine - I'm having a shopping queen as girlfriend mind you!

High Blood Pressure: A seemingly bad start to the year as I was hit with High Blood Pressure. Got me worrying for awhile before my health was back on track once again, after some care. Went for medical checkup as well to see where I stand on the health chart. To put it simply, time to control my diet.

Pulau Ubin: I can't remember the last time I visited this small little island and definitely, I saw a different side of this beautiful island which greatly exceeded my expectations, much thanks to the fun and nonsense of MR, as usual.

February

Year of Rabbit: As usual, other than the CNY goodies that's coming out, Chinese New Year is just as boring, with or without the girl, it's all the same. And even my only cousins' outing (it's a once in a year affair) is ruined this very year. I'm definitely hoping for the year of Dragon to be better. Will it?

Sweet Valentine: We both decided that Valentine's Day are overrated and too commercialised, therefore, we kept it a simple affair. Afterall, everyday can be Valentine's day with such a wonder Valentine like you.

NATAS: Nightmare. My last NATAS as a Travel Consultant, and definitely not as gutted as before already. Each NATAS makes me ponder when's my last. Oh gosh, that's how dreadful it is! Because it always made me so tired, drained and shagged.

Segar Vale: Applied for our first BTO, decided that it was rush. Thankfully, our number sucks.

March

Vivacious Sydney: It was a business and pleasure trip to me. My first time to Australia and it made me want to go there again already. Beautiful scenery, yummy food, pretty girls and majestic architecture. Oh man, bring me back there now!

April

Work Transition: Marketing, something I've always wanted to do and this transition from Travel Consultant to Marketing got me happy for a while, and really, it's just a while because the reality and truth is harsher that what I perceived prior. Oh gosh!

May

 General Elections: Workers' Party vivid supporter apparently. Our dates this month turned uniquely as we give chase to all the 'performances' that Workers' Party give. It's the battle against the Whites as social media proved efficient in this historical moment. And of course, I'm looking forward to moving 'Towards a First World Parliament', without the driver. LOL

Universal Studios Singapore: It was nothing but pure fun. The feeling of being tourists yet again brings us back to happiness. And yes, we challenged the killer roller coaster - Battleship Galactica.

June

Club Med Phuket: The previous Club Med experience was so exciting that we went back to the Club Med Family in just less than half a year later and once again, it was food, fun, chill and rain (but that didn't stop us from enjoying, at all).

July

 Happy '18th' Birthday Sweets: Our first Staycation and definitely an awesome way to celebrate her birthday with love, sweetness and happiness. Ahhh! Lifeee...what a luxury!

Segar Palmview: 2nd attempt at it and we prayed and prayed...

July Rice Babies: The July Babies reunited and it was helluva fun. Play, eat, drinks, laugh and of course, nonsense. What else do you expect?

August

 Nightmare in a Different Light: What could be worse than NATAS, seriously? It's just that this time, it's Marketing. Print Ads, Radio Ad, Booth Design, SMS Blast. You name it, I've done it. And of course, it's a SUCCESS!

September

 The Search is ON!: And so, NATAS proved too much for me, or rather, too little in another aspect. My search for a new goal, new life, new target, new meaning begins....but to no avail.

 Gastronomy Begins: It's a whole new level of eating, redefined. We found food that reminds me when I was a kid, and we of course, are like a kids. Finally, Chicken Rice Balls...Ahhhh!

October

Selling Yourself: Isn't Interviews about selling yourself? I feel like a gigolo. "Hey there, I have two eyes, one nose, one mouth...I wore Jeans and Size M underwear. Oh, did I mention I study Marketing?" Therefore, till now, I'm still stuck with NATAS 2012. DAMN!

Westlife Gravity Tour: Finally, the first time I hear them and watch them sing 'Live', and just days later, they announce their disbandment. DUH! Nevertheless, the only boy band that 'watch' me grow..

That's it!: So, we got it, signed on it (felt like signing on marriage certs) and just recently, paid partially for it too. Speak about commitments. Scary yet exciting. 

Sweet '16':One of the best birthday with all my loved ones celebrating for me, getting my favourite gifts, yet another staycation. Blissful and Loved!

November

 TGFG (Thank God For Games): Really, November was hard to come by but thankfully, PS3 and computer games were there to get me by. Even though to some, the games are expensive, it's definitely worth it for me. Phew.

December

Holiday Together, Finally: At least, we are travelling TOGETHER as a family again. It was fun-filled with nice food and really spectacular views. Most importantly, we bonded. Oh, how I love holidays...

Xmas, Seasons of Giving ($$): Really, the season of giving. I conclude that the ROI of Xmas is bad, so next year, I shall change my strategy, eh wait! Girl hasn't give me my Xmas present. Ok, I'll take back my words. Till next year!!!

As the year come to a close, it dawned on me that this year hasn't been the most fruitful year, but at the same time, friendships and love remained strong and that's very important. So long as everyone is healthy, happy and contented, to me, the year can end with me feeling happy as a whole.

But an end is another's beginning. There goes my resolution for year 2012. Five main resolutions!

1. Cook More

To learn to cook more dishes and be more pro at it. Despite my passion, I have failed to master any dishes. It's high time I act on it, learn on it and master it. Someday, a signature dish will appear. And it will be 2012!

2. Cut Down Weight / Control Diet

I know what's in my body, what's my body needs and what my body needs to get rid off. To put it simply, eat healthier, more exercise and eat less. Oh gosh, has it ever happen before? Yes, in 2012!

3. Be More Patient

Being impatience seems to be getting over me at times. Sometimes, I thought it was gone. Sometimes, it just happened unknowingly. Sometimes, I couldn't controlled it. But then again, I realized it's all excuses. So in 2012, expect a more gracious and patient me, I hope!

4. Read more, Discover more, Explore more = Learn more!

I have not spread my personal time well enough this year. As a result, I'm losing out on practical, factual, general and even fictional knowledge. Life isn't just about work, love and enjoying, it's a learning process and in 2012, I'm going to do just that, through the web, newspaper, traveling, conversing with people or even simply just imagine!

5. Save, save, SAVE!!

The time has definitely come for the need to save even more. As commitments piled up, as deadline is drawing near, as inflation goes up, as living expenses increase and YET, salary remains stagnant (well almost), plans still has to go ahead. Therefore, I ought to be more disciplined and save MORE - for the better of the future. 

I am confident I am able to hit bulleyes on each and every single resolution and all it takes is just for me to move towards that direction. Whatever it is, it's for the good of me, and my loved ones eventually. I do hope for a good 2012 and deep inside me, secretly, I do hope 2012 is not the end of the world because I haven't cook enough, haven't love enough, haven't learn enough and haven't fulfil my dreams. Let's hope for an awesome 2012!

Ways to Get Over Your Hangover

Marmite

One reason many of us feel so bad the morning after a drinking session is because alcohol depletes your system of essential nutrients, including B vitamins. A lack of B vitamins can cause anxiety and depression, so try munching on Marmite - a rich source of the vitamin B complex - to lift your mood. As an added benefit, Marmite has a high sodium content which can help replace the salts lost through drinking alcohol. Try the savoury spread on toast for an added fix of carbs.

Watermelon

Not only does alcohol deplete your body of nutrients, it can also lead to low blood sugar levels, which may leave you feeling weak and shaky. To counteract this, try snacking on watermelon, which is not only high in fructose but is also water-rich to boost hydration. On top of this, watermelon is high in many essential nutrients, including vitamin C, B-vitamins and magnesium.

Ginger

If too much alcohol has you feeling queasy, ginger is the perfect food to help settle your stomach and relieve nausea. While you may not feel much like chewing on the food in its original form, you could try adding some grated ginger to hot water for a ginger tea, blending into a fresh fruit or vegetable juice, or snacking on ginger biscuits for a stomach-soothing treat.

Eggs

Scrambled, fried or boiled, eggs are a popular hangover breakfast, and the good news is they are a great choice for beating the nastiest of hangovers. Firstly, eggs are extremely rich in protein, which helps raise mood-boosting serotonin levels as well as helping to reduce nausea. Furthermore, eggs are rich in an amino acid called cystine, which helps fight against the alcohol-induced toxins that contribute to your hangover.

Bananas

Bananas are packed with potassium and magnesium, two of the minerals often depleted in our bodies when alcohol is consumed. A lack of potassium in the body can lead to nausea, weakness and tiredness, so stocking up on bananas can help reduce these classic hangover symptoms. As an added bonus, bananas are natural antacids so great for reducing stomach acid, and are good for providing a boost of energy if you have a busy day ahead.

Soup

One of the most important steps for beating a hangover is getting your body rehydrated, and this can be done through what you eat as much as what you drink. To up your fluids and sodium levels and get a shot of nutrients all at once, try some health-boosting vegetable or miso soup. As an added benefit, soup is easy on the stomach so good if you're feeling a bit queasy.

Oats

Due to the diuretic effects of alcohol, the body loses many essential minerals and vitamins during a heavy drinking session. Luckily, oats can provide you with many of these nutrients, including B vitamins (good for the liver and mood) and essential minerals magnesium, calcium and iron. On top of this, oats can help neutralise acidity levels in the body, cleanse the liver, absorb toxins and slowly raise blood sugar levels, making a bowl of porridge the perfect hangover breakfast.

Fruit juice

If you're feeling a bit queasy at the thought of food, then this is the cure for you. While it's great to line your stomach with food if you can, to replace lost vitamins, raise blood sugar levels and rehydrate your body, you can't do much better than a glass of fresh juice. Not only is juice good for immediate relief, the fructose will also help speed up the removal of alcohol from your blood.

Sardines

If you're craving something savoury, sardines on toast could be the perfect morning-after breakfast. A major cause of hangovers is an imbalance of electrolytes, and sardines are rich in many of these vital minerals, including sodium, chloride, potassium, magnesium and calcium. In addition to this, sardines are high in omega-3 fatty acids, which are great for protecting the liver as well as lifting the mood.

Coconut water

Many hangover sufferers swear by sports drinks as a way to hydrate the body and help rebalance electrolytes. However, sports drinks are often carbonated, which can irritate the stomach, and packed with refined sugars. For a natural alternative to sports drinks, try sipping on some coconut water, which contains essential electrolytes (including calcium, potassium and magnesium) to boost hydration, and is also soothing for the stomach.

Man VS WOW!

Looking at these hot babes, the only reaction Man like us would go will be a common reaction 'WOW'. How many times do you get your guy sitting next to a darn hot girl and his eyeballs will simply not swayed to that very side, highly unlikely I must say.

No doubt, a famous perception, out of 10 guys, 9 of them would be 好色 to a varying extent and the last one standing will be one who appreciate 'balls and meatstick'. LOL. I've done my fair share of ogling but in a decent manner I proudly claim. There's a thin line of a man wanting to see versus a woman wanting to flaunt. I dare say, there are indeed out there, girls who dressed themselves up just to attract undivided attention from the public, not in a bizarre manner but in a tempting yet seductress way. Some might think, I have the figure and why not let people get 'WOWED' over my assets. But what they don't know is that MAN, being MAN, are not viewing their assets the way it should be.

I've seen how downright lecherous MAN can get. One particular incident got me real 'impressed'. It all happened in the MRT. Sitting right at the side with her eyes mildly closed was this young student with her files clasped between her hands. No way would you be able to see what behind those files, unless you were sitting right beside her, which is perfectly what a guy did. Shortly, this guy turned into a wolf. His persistent ogling got the attention of the young girl. Without doubt, she turned away. Surprisingly, this wolf started to push himself a little forward so as to get a more 'decent' view of what he's trying to see. Disturbed, the girl appeared irritated and standing right leaning with her back on the transparent glass panel. Just when you thought all is going to end, you guessed it. His eyes were on her butt this time round. Of course, feeling insecure, the girl periodically turned her head to ensure she's safe. No way and I suppose she hit her brim and she alighted the next stop talking passed the panel where this wolf still refuse to let his eyes off as he shamelessly turned his head and followed her path through till she's completely out of his sight. One word, pathetic.

More often than not, I feel amused whenever I see a girl dressed smokingly hot. Because at the back of my mind, I was thinking how safe would this girl be. If we did review the rapes and molest cases that has happened, it's of no wonder that those victims who are the girls involved, are usually dressed smokingly hot. Enter a nightclub and that's even better. You get free touches from unknown hands and there's literally nothing you can do about it, especially if it's crowded.

Yes, I know Singapore is hot, but it doesn't mean you have to wear less to feel the cool. It's all about dressing up to look presentable, not dressing up to 'kill' because you'll never know who's going to get killed eventually. And guys, for goodness sake, your eyes are meant to see, not peep or stare. If there's even a chance you get such opportunity, appreciate your eyesight and not abuse it. Because behind that eye, lies a brain filled with either good or evil intentions.

I don't look up to those ladies who dress to flaunt needlessly and definitely, I despise those guys who stare at the ladies assets desperately as if they could easily eat them up with one bite. For me, I often asked myself, is this how I want my wife or even daughter to be looked at in future and because of them, I held restraints and I confidently say, we need to know where we stand. For even myself, I will gladly advice my girlfriend/wife/daughter to dress appropriately and not let those wolf get their chances.

And for those who commit molest or rape because of that, to hell you go.

The Time of The Year Again

Yes, it’s that time of the year again. The time where you get to rejoice and feel sad once again. Rejoice because I’ll get to meet my favourite people again, showered with love through wishes and gifts and most importantly, a great excuse to eat, drink and no need to work (if your leave is approved of course). However, we can’t deny the fact that we are one step closer to the tomb whenever one commemorates his or her hatch day.

It all started with the girl trying her very best to plan a surprise for me. Possibly, after what I’ve done for her birthday this year, she’s out to ‘kill’. Similarly, she did up a Facebook page more than one month in advance so that my anticipation kicks off way in advance. A few segments to it, but there was a frantic period in between, definitely no thanks to the f**king SAF who screwed up the beloved plan she planned. Nevertheless, fate was kind to us and she managed to get everything back on track. Her first surprise was an unfortunate one. Can’t blame her too, because she wasn’t aware of it as well. It’s a message treatment at Cuppage Plaza. The name of this place can clearly show you what you should and will expect. Frankly speaking, it wasn’t an enjoyable experience AT ALL, nonetheless, her effort shows it all and my heart felt everything as compared to the yucky feeling from my skin. And so, that’s one down, more to go (I’m still clueless although she fed me with quite a number of clues). Her riddles began yet again….which doesn’t seem to help me at all as well.



MR was there to celebrate with me for my birthday. Had planned for Buffettown for a normal dinner feast before we actually chilled out in Marina Barrage. Buffettown was a killer. All of us left the place feeling more than just FAT. The salmon sashimi, crepe, soup and prawns really got most of us high, it’s funny how our talks between each other still garners so much fun and laughter ever after these years, especially with the presence of Smell. Went to watch a movie (finally MR’s watching movie together once again), and we watched ‘The Thing’ after their request was rejected by both me and the girl because we had already watched ‘Real Steel’ the night before. Ended up, Smell was jokingly angry with us for not watching ‘Real Steel’ with them, because, ‘The Thing’ was such an awful and lousy movie.

Nevertheless, we decided the night is still young, and after countless ding dong (as usual), we ended up at Marina Barrage. First visit to MB by MR. Smell seems to have a Doraemon car where he had picnic mats, kite and even leftover wine in his car (that’s for tricking girls of course). His kite really got us laughing for a whole good time before they present me my present – a Senheisser Headphone. Cool stuff, it’s like a little wish came true. Definitely got a big smile on me knowing I can blast my music away into my ears, all thanks to MR.

If you think the headphone was cool, wait till you read about what the girl gave me as my 2nd surprise. A Razer Lycosa! Cool stuff right? Girlfriend knew how much a gamer I was, and despite her not liking me to play game in expense of our time spent together, she knew what will make me happy. Indeed, I was all smile when she present me with my surprise. I'm was speechless and extremely. Right away, I replaced my keyboard and began playing with it. Possibly one of the best birthday present I've ever received, for sure!

Next up, birthday celebration with Xero4. Don and Jon both attended, along with Layhuan and Girlfriend. It’s like all my favourite people are all around. Had arranged for a lunch at Paradise Inn which I’m betting that they’ll love it. Introduced them to floral tea, some braised bee hoon and of course, the dessert. We ordered like more than 7 dishes altogether. And of course, it was a treat from both Don and Jon. We have been friends for so long that since years ago, we’ve decided to do away with gifts, because if not, we have to trouble and crack our brains for like at least 4 times a year, which could be rather ‘damaging’. Therefore, since then, it’s just a good celebration over treating a meal. Thanks to them, a worthwhile and yummy lunch.

No prize for guessing why is October my favourite month because my celebration will be spread over a few days across the month, instead on just that day itself, by and with all the people I love. Last day of work before I enjoy my long awaited 5 day break from work, I was sprung a surprise by my colleagues. One whom I called ‘Da Jie’ at work and the other one who was nice and kind enough to wrap me a red packet. ‘Da Jie’ on the other hand, gave me a birthday cake with some nearby colleagues sharing the joy with me. Not forgetting a gift bought to me by ‘Da Jie’. One word – Touched. Thank god for these colleagues and if there’s anything I wouldn’t want to leave behind when I leave this company will be these wonderful colleagues.

A day of havoc on the next day! Had a whole day outing with Don before the highlight approaches at night. Jon and Layhuan joined us for clubbing @ Zirca. I guess I’m happiest because I finally get to club in Zirca and drink once again! Literally brings me back to good old times where we were all still young and partying away almost every other week. Making use of the 1-1 offer, all four of us were high not long after. Before the stroke of midnight, I was presented a glass of graveyard. I’ve tasted its power, and never liked it. But then again, the hi-ness you get definitely conquers it all. That graveyard really sucks. It almost literally sends me to graveyard. By the time I ‘down’ that glass, I almost died. I’m almost drunk in another 1-2 hours and seriously, I can’t really recall what happens thereafter. The next thing I knew soberly, I was busy vomiting and trying to get myself up. I was so wasted, I forgot about my poor girlfriend, who got worried over me for a good few hours through the night. I spent early of my birthday drinking, half of it vomiting and the later part with my girl!

All was well as she presented her masterpiece to me. As usual, I’ve always love her works, the collage she made because that is the best representation of her and I love to collect every single one of them. Thanks to Cathay, I managed to get a 1-1 offer for the Cathay Platinum Suites. We were lucky to watch a movie over this luxurious setting. We watched ‘In Time’ over a spread of yummy food we ordered, which surprisingly last us through the night. Definitely a memorable night as we both indulges endlessly. Of course, wishes from friends still arrives heartwarmingly over at the social media since the night before and although as funny as it may seems (how Facebook has replace the most interpersonal way of greetings), it’s good to know that people still remember to wish you over your birthday.

Not forgetting that very night, mum and dad celebrated my birthday for me with a cake bought by mum. She always remembered which my favourite cake is. Even up until today, I’m still her little boy where she will always remember buying that cartoon chocolate from me from Polar. Loves. We’ve reached a stage where our feelings and kinship slowed, but still strong as ever, Somehow, their birthday singing was the most memorable. Perhaps, it’s been years since they last sang me one. Tricked mum into giving me a treat by bringing her to Taste Paradise. Always felt bad whenever I’m having good food outside without her presence. Of course, eventually, I insist it’s my treat and there’s nothing she could do about it. Ordered her favourite food and dessert, which definitely got her smiling, and let me tell you, that smile is priceless. Thank goodness, dad managed to get a bite of their yummy food as well.

Thanks to Smell, we had a chalet booked and organized by him. Unfortunately, because of that bad experience, drinking party isn’t going on anymore. Therefore, we packed lots of food and simply just feast and drink. We decided that rugged chalet was way too boring, and decided to summon the mahjong table and chairs from my house before we played our way through. Guess who’s the winner, Kelvin Low of course (=p). Woops! Now, MR really got my mahjong bugs coming back again, and I’m seriously wondering when my next mahjong session is. Thanks to my girl, we managed to share my birthday cake with everyone in MR. The girl was so worried this cake surprise would failed because I’m dead drunk but afterall, I won’t let any efforts go down to the drain. I still can’t forget how ZQ gave me a kiss and Smell gave me a freaking musingly lick on my face. Eww…it just irks me at the thought of it. But seriously, thanks for this time as my birthday celebration continues.

Girlfriend woke me up damn early in the day and revealing the first riddle of the day. My choice, Egg Benedict of course. Turns out, she’s bringing me to Spruce. Definitely the mood was not dampened by the hot sun and non air-conditioned outdoor as we insist in sitting indoor to enjoy our breakkie over the air con. Breakfast was so-so as compared to Epicurious, but I must say, their Salmon is awesome. Towards the end, Girlfriend unveiled the 4th riddle which was the most difficult riddle. Because there’s so much work to be done. When I finally solved it, she conveniently denied me my correct answer, which got me pondering over and over again through the entire journey to my correct answer – MM = Marina Mandarin. Awesome! It’s Staycation. I bet we realized and discovered our love for Staycation since the first one during her birthday celebration. We got a free upgrade to Premier room which is really spacious, high floor and they even come with a business desk, bathtub and shower, and did I forget to mention, it’s King Size Bed!!! Oh how we love King Size Bed. Somehow, we were always wondering and puzzled why do hotel’s bed feel so comfortable. If only my future home has such comfortable beds. That aside, we spent the rest of the day living like a tourist and definitely a relaxing and enjoyable holiday, planned effortlessly by the girl.

That’s not all, my final celebration was a dinner with sumptuous crab feast whipped up by dad. Chilli crabs by dad has never tasted so well and to be very honest, I’ve never eaten any chilli crab which taste nicer than my dad’s. Perhaps it’s because all of us in the family had gotten use to the taste, but undeniably, it tasted wonderful and awesome. Even girlfriend got a taste of it, after Dad insists I passed some to her.

Just like that, in a blink of an eye, all celebrations are over and I’m one year older. Nothing much exist in my wish, but it’s just the same thing over again this year. Most importantly, I’m contented. Contented with all the love, wishes and greetings I’ve received and effort anyone and everyone have made for my birthday so far, which had definitely make this year one of my best birthdays.

A Different Movie Experience

Being a movie goer, I simply love watching movie. In fact, it's one of my favourite hobbies. Movie has come a long way, along with its providers as well. Ever since Golden Village came up with their very own Gold Class, it was met with good response where finally, they met their first rival - Cathay Platinum Suites. Skeptical in the first place because of the price, I am now convinced that you literally get for what you pay. The experience that you get, might simply wow you and overcome your perceived value of it.

And now, having try both GV Gold Class and Cathay Platinum Suites, allow me to share my two cents worth based on my experience with the two that really offers movie experience, like no other.

Pre Movie Ambience (Cathay Platinum Suites)
Both focus on giving exclusivity to their patrons for such price they paid for a movie. Therefore, you may check in earlier and rest at their lounge before the movie. However, this is where the service differentiates.
GV Gold Class: Nice ambience with dimly lit light where you can sit around and browse the menu. Other than that, you're left with the person/people to entertain.
Cathay Platinum Suites: Nice ambience with nicely decorateed interior. They even prodive iPad for patrons. Unfortunately, there's only 1 iPad to go around, so either you reach there early to get it, or you are left with the menu and the person/people you're with. Menu browsing is available as well.

Seat (GV Gold Class)
Both offer spacious and comfortable seats, wide enough to be comparable to an aircraft business class seat. The diffentiating factor is the controls.
GV Gold Class: Leg Rest and body rest portion are controlled seperately, allowing you to adjust accordingly to your needs and wants. They even have a head rest so that your head has enough support so that it won't causes strain to the neck.
Cathay Platinum Suites: Leg Rest and body rest portion are being controlled by just one button. It's just I can't rest my body while not wanting my leg to be stretched flat.

Food (Cathay Platinum Suites)
GV Gold Class: Healthy range of food offered. From beverages to main courses. Most popular good I reckon is their seafood basket. Relatively normal portion. Food is ordinary and price is pricey.
Cathay Platinum Suites: Limited range of food offered. Almost on par with that of GV Gold Class. Price of their food however is cheaper than GV Gold Class, with some even much cheaper than their fair compeitor. Food is yummy although portion are small.

Comfort (Both)
Both did not neglect the comfort while watching movie. It makes you feel as though you are watching your favourite movie at your own home. Therefore, special stuff are provided to ensure comfort
GV Gold Class: Pillows and Blanket are provided for you to ensure you are warmly covered under the air conditioned. Also, a pillow for you to cuddle because the seat are so spacious, all you can do is hold the hands of your partner period, no hanky panky.
Cathay Platinum Suites: Only Blankets are provided which comes in a form of Quilt which is really comfortable. However, no pillow and the spaciousness is basically the same as that of GV Gold Class.

Service (Both)
Paying that kind of price, a high standard of service is definitely expected.
GV Gold Class: The staff is made to ensure they deliver a prompt service. They are also patient to take your orders as and when you want and the whole process of ordering food and payment is made smooth to ensure your experience is not disrupted.
Cathay Platinum Suites: Same as GV Gold Class, staff are trained to service promptly and politely. They were also trained to ask if patrons are first time patron so that they can brief them on the whole environment and process. They also ensure service remain smooth and not disruptive in any moment of the movie experience.

Movie Experience (Both)
Likewise, there is no doubt why both providers are confident to price their exclusive class of ticket at that price because they believe the price can match the experience that they are offering.
GV Gold Class: Red colour is their corporate theme that sit nicely with their branding. Experience were made good and exclusive to ensure consumers feel and stay happy through the entire movie experience. The only bad point is, their trailers are still played just like the normal movie, which is literally a chore at times. Imagine waiting up to 10-15 minutes before your movie can actually commence. Other than that, the rest is near to perfect.
Cathay Platinum Suites: In collaboration with AMEX, they simply could not afford to jeopardise the brand. Heavily supported by Amex, they are out to compete with Gold Class and I must say they did a good job with their Platinum Suites Membership along with their launch. Shouting on their business class seating and experience which they deliver, it's definitely a world of their own. Entire movie experience is wholesome yet exclusive.

In conclusion, I would prefer GV Gold Class primarily because I weigh the comfort of my seat and the flexibility to control the incline more than anything else. Nevertheless, if I had cravings for good and yummy food while having my beloved food, Cathay Platinum Suites would definitely be my choice.

Nevertheless, having said that, I think for these price, it would be better to go along with a movie that runs for at least 100 minutes to make the experience worthwhile. What's the point of paying 2-3 times more just to watch a an hour and a half movie - it's like before you can enjoy the entire movie experience, the movie's over and you've to leave.

On a side note, such movie experience is a good platform for couples because of the way they configure the theaters. If you notice, the configuration of the theater is done in pairs. In another words, it serve as an ideal way for couples to enjoy their movie in the most loving way possible. Also, if families are looking for a quieter moment to enjoy movie together, such movie experience is the way to go.

Hope that helps fellow movie goers.

Counting My Blessings

There comes a time where we tend to be too involved in our daily routines that we overlooked on the nitty gritties. It would be good if we could, once in a while, paused for a little while and look back, appreciate the moment and count our blessings.

I wouldn't say my life is a perfect one now, but at least I am contented with it, as I should be. I can honestly say that I have been blessed in life and been given a lot of love which I am more than grateful for. I'm glad for this chance to be grateful to those who form a part of my life.

Frankly speaking, while I realized I could feel envious over what others possess or achieve, I could at the same time be the envy of others. Having lived in where I am now, as compared to the rest of the world, just that alone, I'm thankful enough. Although I'm 'hit' with humid summer all year long, at least I do not have to bear with the fear of any natural disasters at all.

When I look around me, I see love from those who care. Friends come and goes, the worthwhile one stays. I'm glad for that. Through bad times, there are some who emerged true to the word 'friendship'. I take this chance to individually say thanks at this little corner of my personal blog, whether or not they know, or in time to come, it doesn't matter. It definitely feels good to know yet again now, I appreciate and I am contented with whatever I have and whoever I'm with. This post, could really be the best representation to what I feel towards the people I love, with bond so strong that I feel the need for the existence of this post. And there you go, the loves of my life.....

Mummy: As I affectionately call her, throughout my 26 years life (minus the first few years where I don't know how to mumble a single word YET), and I bet the first word I ever said would be 'Mama'. The strongest pillar of my life where no one could ever replace. She spent her childhood and teenage 'dreams' in poverty, yet giving away her youth to both her sons, which in turn affect her health at the later stage of her life. I can't help but feel an obligation to lighten her burden now as I'm all grown up. Let her enjoy a little of her life, yet restricting her to whatever she shouldn't. Her selfless effort in bringing her sons up will always be remembered and I ought to repay it through my filial piety now. I count my blessings that I have her by my side now and of course in time to come, and I'm thankful to her for being the best mother I can ever have.

Father: As a father figure, he needs to impose his stern and strict teachings. Although not very highly educated, he was the pillar in the entire family. We (the whole family) had a rather good life in our younger days where he, being the only sole breadwinner, was able to bring back more than just bread. He insisted my mother to be a full time homemaker, while he slogged his guts out. It was until my late teens that he started to dissolve his strict teachings, probably much due to the fact that both his sons has already grown up, allowing him to step down a little. By then, times became harder and life became simpler but nevertheless, we are just as happy a family. I am thankful to him for those painful canings that he gave throughout my younger days made me who I am today.

Brother: As the younger one, he grew up feeling much more loved. He's more lovable as compared to me. In comparison with analogy, he was the Ferrari while I'm just a Toyota. Being bright and clever, our roles switched at times where I would look up to him in the aspect of studies. I hold him proud of what he did and what he is capable of academically. We grew up being very close and I’m glad this tie has matured into a special kinship that we actually cared and loved each other in silence. Like they say, blood is thicker than water and the bond between us proved that strongest. I’m glad for a childhood companion, one who grew up with me relentlessly, through quarrels and plays up until now, one whom I will always look after, silently.

Girlfriend: 2nd woman in my life. My mum once told me, "your girlfriend is going to be your wife, whom in turn is going to replace me when I’m gone". Indeed, I feel the need for this special someone to fulfill this role and I found one whom I’ll never let go. She is the one who made me believe in love, once again. She is the one who made me feel a different type of love, one that I couldn’t find anywhere on anyone else but her. She is what I’m not, and in a way, she completes me. She loves me the way she does, all because she believes in telling me what I need to hear, and not telling me what I want to her. The way she love, reminds me of the relentless effort of my mother, where my shortcomings is purely a part of me and she has long accepted it. To me, I’m blessed. Blessed with someone whom I can trust and give me utmost to, for once, I am sure, my future is her.

Best Friend: My childhood playmate after my brother. I’m always puzzled how someone can claim that they have more than one best friend. Isn’t BEST a singular word? For me, this best friend brings out the best in me in a special way. We grew up together in a funniest way ever possible. I remember a simple quote that goes “a best friend shares good times and help you out by listening to you during bad times”. This person definitely made me feel that he’s there when practically those you need to be there isn’t. He tells me things I don’t want to tell myself. To me, he is like a sister that I never had, because I can practically poured anything to him. It would definitely be impossible for this special bond if not for all the things we loved – games, soccer, movies etc. This bond I have, is rare and precious for I know who will be there standing as my best man when I become the groom.

Xero4: Our friendship hails a long way through, so long, I can barely remember why the name ‘Xero4’. We shared countless woes and done the wackiest thing together. There was even a particular that times seem to fly because every weekend will be Xero4 week. We clubbed, chased movies like never before, played countless games of pool and PES etc. Common hobbies definitely keep bonds tied I must say. A Chinese saying goes ‘在家靠家人, 在外靠朋友’, there’s definitely nothing more than pure truth in that saying. We shared joy and woes we don’t normally share with our parents and definitely, we’ve grown from young boys to young adults and finally now, a grown up where our interests, hobbies and the things we did changes along as we grow as well, but one thing is for sure, the bond remains the same.

Mixed Rice: It’s funny how my closest of friends revolves around those from my Secondary School, probably, all I can say is, that school is where it impact my personal life the most. It’s a pity I missed the times where Mixed Rice was formed, but I’m glad it’s never too late to be a very part of them once again. I always thought just one close group of friends is good enough, but it’s not true until Mixed Rice came along. They were a whole lot of different fun. Comparably, I can say Xero4’s the Ferrari and Mixed Rice’s the Volkswagen Beetle. But within this group, there’s a huge variations of traits, from the fun-loving, to the crappy ones to the always sleeps around etc. I'm glad for this friendship going so strongly and expanding where the trust and bond we had with each other is tremendous.

This post couldn't be more timely as I've marked this post on my 26th Birthday where I shared some of my most inner feelings. Like I've shared, it’s not easy finding love, it’s even harder to maintain it. I’m glad for the kinship and friendships I have right now, and definitely it has been a very part of my 26 years. These important people add love to my life, and paint my life rainbow when it’s black and dull. I doubt I have the courage nor chance to say this personally to each and everyone of them, but whatever it is, these words from the bottom of my heart will and shall remains, something I held on so dearly now and I hope to bring them to my grave when I breathe my final breath.

With utmost love,
Your son, brother, soul-mate, friend.