Guide to Cost of Getting in Singapore

I just got married earlier this year, and it is after 2 years of planning that we finally tied our knot.

Before we even started planning, we were full of question marks especially financially. Like how much is sufficient for the type of wedding we wanted.
Of course, everyone have their dream of having a fairytale-like wedding but trust me, money will weigh your shoulders down and pull you from fairytale to reality.

As a rule of thumb, every couple should respect their financial status and strike a balance between having their dream wedding and spending as they can afford.

There is simply no point of you to exhaust your savings or even go into debt just to make sure you get married to impress everyone else and making everyone happy except the two of you.

I hope this guide I am creating serves as an indication, but please note this should not be THE ONLY POINT OF REFERENCE. It took my wife and I months of research and homework, tons of discussions and respect and of course, endless effort and accommodation before we finally got ready for our big day. In short, you have to put in effort for your big day.

List of Items
Some of the items you need, some you don’t. It’s entirely subjected to each individual couple needs, wants and desire.
Let’s start with the very first ‘Point of Contact’.

Proposal Ring (For the MAN) – From S$1,000 and above
To be honest, there is no boundaries on both the lower and upper limit. Afterall, this is THE RING that is supposed to get you your wife (excluding that the BTO that both of you have already applied). The fact that I points to S$1000 is because at the very least, you ought to make sure your proposal ring is decent (more expensive that than wedding band that you are going to get in future). WOMAN goes crazy over the carat whereas there’s more to that diamond ring – colour, cut, ring size etc. Do your research and if possible, get hints from your potential wife on her liking before you make this investment. Someone once told me, a proposal ring should cost you 3 months of your salary, but to me, I believe it’s about striking a balance of what you can afford and what she would like.

TIPS: There are many aspects of the diamond ring that cannot be seen with a naked eye. If there’s any factor to consider when buying, fortunately or unfortunately, it’s the CARAT. Other factors can potentially be secondary, depends on you. That way, some cost can be saved, if you get what I mean.

Wedding Package – From S$3,000 to S$6,000
This should include things like Wedding Gowns, Groom’s Attires, Actual Photo-shoot, Photo Album and Photo Frames.

Some companies offer more perks and items, some offer less. Basic local photo-shoot with the basic choice of gowns and attires should cost a couple the region of S$3,000. Going overseas to shoot (such as Taiwan, Korea, Indonesia) will cost you more. Of course, there are couples who engages the services for overseas shoot and rental of gowns and attires separately got their wedding photo-shoot and those would cost A LOT more, depending on the destination and the number of gowns and attire rented.

TIPS: With competition so tight for business in this field/area, you are almost in an advantage. Therefore, negotiation is a MUST to save. Sometimes, it’s not just discount but do negotiate by asking for a higher number of photos, additional attire/gowns, more locations etc. All these items are cost and sometimes, they are able to give you if you ask in order to secure your business. Especially the number of photos. Remember, selling you additional photos are how they/photographers earn too and these photos aren’t cheap. They can cost between S$50 to over S$100 over photo, so, think thrice about it.

Guo Da Li (过大礼) – From S$100 to S$300
This is very dependent on the families of both sides and of course based on the respective tradition. Common betrothal packages are available. do your research online to check what's included.

Bride Price (聘金) – From $188 to S$8,888
This is subjected to after discussion with the bride's parents. Amount have to be decent and presentable, at the same time, considering the financial situation of the Groom side as well.

Wedding Bands – From S$1,500 to S$4,000
Imagine buying a proposal ring but this time, multiply by you because it’s buying for both the husband and wife to be. Usually, wedding bands cost cheaper than proposal ring because of the lack or smaller/poorer quality of diamonds on the wedding bands. The trend as it seems is many are going for Pure Silver with some couples even going for exotic colour such as rose gold with engravings etc. This is something you are going to wear for life, so be prepared to see scratches on your ring within just months from your wedding so that you won’t freak down on spending grands and then feeling all heartpain.

TIPS: Find something simpler which simply equates to cheaper as well. Afterall, one won’t want to be wearing expensive ring every day and doing chores or attending meeting with those blings. There are some ladies who wear their proposal ring with wedding band as well, therefore, they purposely chose a very simple wedding band to complement the proposal ring. You decide.

Videography/Video-grapher - From S$1,000 to S$4,000
Such service has its variety. It range to a simple day shoot to a carefully plotted script and videoshoot which involves both pre and actual wedding.

Some couples wants to capture only the actual day moment, whereas some would want to incorporate some essence and meaning even from the pre wedding onwards leading up to the actual day.

Wedding Solemnization – From S$1,500 to S$5,000
The items will include rental of gown, attire, venue, photographer and decoration. The cost actually differs depending on the number of pax attending your ROM and the style. The higher the number, the most expensive it will be, which equates to you having to book a larger space and catering more food/cocktail reception to it. Photographer price varies too. They can range from S$500 for semi-pro photographer to over S$1,500 for a very professional one. Lots of venue/cafes/restaurants host ROM and they do offer packages on that, therefore, it would be wise to check their inclusions to see if it fits your requirements. Of course, those on the lower budget, simply pop in to ROM and register, followed by a cost luncheon etc.

TIPS: Combine your ROM with your wedding banquet in the same day if you want/need. That way, you definitely save cost. However, if the both of you still decide that you want to hold them separately, discuss well on what are the style you want and how simple/grand you want it to be, and of course, DECIDE the number of pax attending. Usually, ROM should be a cosier affair than the banquet.

Wedding Car Rental – From S$200 to S$5,000
From the rental of an ordinary sedan car which would potentially cost you the region of S$200 to rental of Rolls Royce for that few hours which cost the upper limit, you decide.

TIPS: The amount of time you are going to spend on that rented car are almost second to none. You will probably be thinking on 'what's next' before you even get to enjoy the air-con of the rented car. Most likely, it's for 'photograph or video' sake. If possible, borrow a car from someone you know at a friendship price, if possible, at your own risk, of course.

Wedding Banquet – From S$20,000 to S$70,000
Can you see the vast difference in price? Basically, the price range is due to two main factors – number of pax and the venue. If you are rich and can afford, St Regis, Fullerton, Capella are always there for you, or if you are on the tighter budget, you can try nice Chinese restaurants. The number of pax does affect, imagine the difference of 20 tables and 30 tables, that’s a whopping 100 pax. Imagine the cost per pax estimated to be between $80 to $150 per pax, that’s like $8,000 to $15,000 difference. So be wise, know who you want to invite, ask for your parents’ consultation as well because it’s going to involve relatives and their friends (sometimes) as well.

Some couples may try and do fanciful stuff such as photo booth, candy car, live bands as well, which will significantly add up to the total damage to your wedding banquet. Of course, couples do get red packets back, but subject to family and tradition customs, some couples get to offset the banquet entirely, some partially whereas some don’t. Therefore, do consider all that when selecting your venue and deciding it.

TIPS: Do your maths and do it very well. For those couples who get to keep the red packets, make sure you 'forecast' the amount you potentially can get. Singaporeans are rather 自动 when it comes to giving red packets, except for a few, so if you are able to 'forecast' well against your spendings, you should be able to reduce your financial burden significantly.

Honeymoon – From S$1,000 and above
It depends on where the both of you wants to travel. There are some couple who spend so much on their wedding that they compromise on their honeymoon. Cheaper destinations such as Bali, Boracay cost cheaper. Whereas some couples scrimp and spend as necessary for their wedding so that they can splurge and indulge big on their wedding by flying to destinations such as Maldives, USA, Europe etc.

Additional Information
I included these items for reference only. Some couples engage/do it, some don't. Entirely up to you.

Pre Marriage Screening – From S$200 and 600
It’s not a situation where I don’t trust you, so you better get it check. To some, it’s a responsibility to make sure you are healthy, and also to some, it’s part of family planning. Whatever it is, this serves as a peace of mind and also an assurance to each other to commit to/for the future.

Brothers & Sisters Attire – From S$200 to S$1000
Couples nowadays are just getting more creative. Some couples have as many as 10 brothers and 10 sisters, whereas some would prefer keeping it simple. Also to match wedding theme, some couples even wanted their brothers and sisters to wear matching clothes and attire. Basically, the cost should be indicative and reflective of price of an ordinary attire anyway.

TIPS: Some clothes cost cheaper when buying wholesale and/or online. Do your homework and you might just get savings.

So at the very least, you need approx S$30,000 cash per couple to get married and go for a honeymoon. Of course, this lower limit is just an indication, not including those red packets you might get back to. Couples who do get back their red packets usually get anywhere between 50% to over 100%, depending on the venue and 'types' of guest you are inviting too.

Food for Thought

Yea, it's been awhile since I last pen something in this remote space. 

As usual, I have been busy with work, and basically preparing for my big day. 

Nothing has ever been placed with such huge importance as compared to this. 

Yes it is fun, but definitely tiring. Thanks to my beloved fiancee, she does most of the work and I must say I am lucky that she's doing most of it because she simply enjoys doing them.

And so, life has been nothing short of fun, and as I'm typing away happily in my cost hotel room in Abu Dhabi, it's wee hours in Singapore while it's a mere late night over here.

心血来潮, which probably explains why I'm penning this post at such hour.

As I took the 'full of turbulence' plane just now, something hit me. I pretty much enjoy the turbulence just now because it feels like a 'rocking chair' especially when I'm cramped in such a narrow economy class seat surrounded by noisy kids. 

Something dawned on me. What if that flight was the last place I took my last breathe? What will I left behind? How many people will weep? What happen to the many happy things I have yet to do? Precisely, that's how precious life is, not just mine.

It is very true when people say cherish your loved ones while they are still around. I reminded myself from time to time how I should be nicer to my loved ones, especially my mum after what she has gone through since young. I don't want to wait until the day when I stand beside that unwanted scene I imagine now and regretting the many things I FAILED to do. I don't want to bring my regret and guilt along with me as I continue to live my life.

To me, life is all about now, and near future. I get to embrace this fact more, day by day. As I grew older, commitments increase and I definitely feel the need for me to harness the role I'm expected of, to love people around me the way they should be love.

Just in case, for whatever reasons, I just want to share with my loved one who might or might not be reading this that I love you guys more than I can express and I hope with time, I can close that gap between my thoughts and my actions just to make sure life continues to be wonderful than how it is now.

Good Men Gone Early

Many people said, that good men always died earlier, of course, in comparison with the bad ones. 

Take the case of the recent departure (death) of local long time actor, Huang Wen Yong. A humble guy and definitely a very dedicated actor who dedicated his entire life to his second home. His death, mourned by many, came as a sudden news, an unexpected one yet, it sent a tinging message on how fragile life can be, how uncertain the future can be. 

His case of course, is a common case. A common case of cancer, which by no means, departure would mean a much easy path to take, one that could prove a relief.

But what about those who have to depart this wonderful world with a choice. A choice but forced. Here I chanced upon something my brother shared with me, and greatly felt by myself when I read it. It wrote..

"On Nov 10, 2009, German international goalkeeper Robert Enke said goodbye to his wife Teresa and gave his 10-month-old daughter a kiss on the forehead. He left the house, saying he was going to train with his club, Hannover 96. It was a lie.

There was no training that day. Instead, he drove around in his car for eight hours. Finally, he came to a railway crossing – and stepped out in front of an express train. 

His suicide, at the age of 32, was the culmination of a long struggle with depression – a trajectory described in a new and moving book, A Life Too Short: The Tragedy of Robert Enke, by Ronald Reng (Yellow Jersey, £16.99), which is published this week.

Enke had intended to collaborate on a biography with Reng; after his death, the writer realised why: “When his career was over, he would finally be able to talk about his illness. 

"In our achievement-oriented society a goalkeeper, the last bastion in defence, can’t be a depressive. So Robert summoned up a huge amount of strength to keep his depression secret. He locked himself away in his illness.” 

Statistically, depression affects one in 10 adults at any one time, and severe or clinical depression will probably hold one in 20 people in its grip."

This is the best example of what I meant by a forced choice. 

So, life is fragile. Cherish it while you STILL can. Live it to the fullest, even if it means going through the bad times because you never know, when is rainbow going to come. 

PS: For my loved ones, I LOVE YOU (you know who you are).

Gone Were The Days

As I began preparing for the most important day of my life, I can't help but venture my mind a little bit forward, beyond that, to imagine starting a family. The thought of having my own child makes me smile. Imagining how I would play with him or her, how I would shower him or her with tons of pecks and hugs or even getting him or her to sleep on top of me, that's definitely something that is heart-warming.

With that in mind, I yearn to give the best of everything in my best ability. But at times, I got discouraged. And it is such times that smashed my heart-warming thoughts away. 

I remember growing up in an environment where growing up is fun.I remember taking bus from Bukit Panjang to Singapore General Hospital on bus service 190, which is still operating the similar route now. Back then, seats were never an issue, and my father did not have to worry about my safety as I would be seated on the inside with him beside me. 

Reality hit me hard as I grew older. I see more and more foreign people. I see more and more accidents everyday. I witness how my favorite waffles increase its price by nearly 100%. Singapore now is no longer the Singapore I knew when I was young. When I was young, my teacher taught me about racial harmony, about the harmonious relationships we should keep among the 4 races. But now, I wonder what the school will teach my child/children in future. Is it going to be nationalist harmony, about having harmonious relationships with people from all over the world, like maintaining a good friendship with people from 8-10 countries?

That's beside the point. The point is, Singapore is no longer suitable for Singaporeans. In fact, anyone can be SINGAPOREAN now. So what if you are not a valid pure Singapore Citizen? As long as you managed to get pass that customs, you get to enjoy full fledged daily necessities at the same cost Singaporeans all pay. As such, the non-stringent 'checks' on potential visitors causes unnecessary troubles to our home land, resulting in gradual diminishing sense of belonging I once held dearly. 

Never mind if I'm suffering. Daily rants from me being late because of the inconsistent traffic conditions caused by numerous motorized vehicles on the road. Being a driver myself, I felt that this whole tax scheme placed via various methods on us drivers are indeed scheming. These schemes were never meant to be solutions but just a facade with hidden agenda. Working in the automotive industry makes me further realized how unfair the car purchase system is in Singapore.

What I am worried about is the uncertainty that future holds. Migration, which seems the most convenient way out of this deep well prove difficult because there are simply just too much at stake. Asking me to share with my foreign counterparts on how great Singapore is, how awesome the food here are, is like asking me to join a debate that supports the notion "Fried food is healthy". 

This uncertainty caused me to fear that my child/children will not longer to be able to enjoy the childhood I was enjoyed. Already technology has taken away a huge chunk of their supposed livelihood, and now, those uncalled for policies just further add to the wreath of their childhood. I just hope some day, some one or even some group is able to twist this whole idea, and make Singapore how we once hope and wish for.  

There’s a Child is Everyone

Pardon me on this rather random topic. A thought struck me moments earlier that prompt me to pen this never before post. Perhaps, that thought faithfully brought me back to my childhood for a moment, and subsequently leading me through a imaginary journey of toys, cartoons, games and what not.

There's a Child in Everyone

I am a firm believer that there is a child in everyone. I remember when I was younger, alongside with my brother, we owned tons of toys, bought lovingly by families and relatives who doted so much on us. But, both of us were not the only ones armed with these entertainments, my mum had one too, initially. Then it grew to two and eventually to a collection of a few. And her collection, Barbie Doll.

Mummy's Favourite Toy!

At that tender age, I could not apprehend why my mother has a toy too herself. It was not when I grew up into my teens that I realized the child is her caused her to own that Barbie Doll only when she was an adult, of course, this was accompanied by a history. She was poor when she was young, and toys then were considered a luxury. By that purchase she made for herself when she was an adult, I instantly linked it to the fact on how badly she wished she had that Barbie Doll when she was younger. I remembered how sternly she warned us not to touch her toys (all because she knew how boys would strip that Barbie off her clothes and bite her hair off like a dinosaur).

Looking back now, I too realized my mother was not the only person who expressed the child in her. Even my grandpa did. I am not sure if it has anything to do with his aging condition, but he too behaves like a child at times. Perhaps, with the cycle of having being taken care of as a child by parents, to caring for his own children as a parent and eventually back to being care of as an adult by his own children and grandchildren, it is natural.

Back to the highlight of this post, I thought hard to myself in my childhood, along with my playmate and friends, I did really enjoyed my childhood, and too, unknowingly bring along those interests with me, even until today. 

Childhood - Those Carefree Days...

From Power Rangers to Digimon, from Baa Baa Black Sheep to Pokemon, you name it, I love them all. To think that I changed my CCA during my secondary school days just to ensure I get to watch my Pokemon every Saturday is enough to show just about anyhow how I love my cartoons, toys and games. Even until now.

Speak to my significant other and she will gladly tell you stories on how I chose my game over her. Even my dad can vouch those stories with a particular incident where I was playing Neopets just hours before my GCE O Level exams. Imagine the anger.

Childhood Friend/Foe

Apart from those toys and game, I must say, there would not be fun without mates. My brother was the one who ‘fought countless war’ with me in Digimon, the one who sit so closely with me during every Saturday and Sunday morning cartoon time and of course, the one who got both of us caned with fights over toys as well. Apart from him, I’m fortunate to have friends with the same interests. One person in particular of course. He know who he is. From Neopets to Pokemon to Maplestory and now, Sudden Attack. I could easily call him a virtual best friend because we seem to spend more time virtually then being out together doing anything other than gaming.

Nevertheless, it was the above mentioned moments that make me feel life has been fun so far. Like I said, till today, I still yearn to own a Pokemon plushie, I still feel excited over watching old times cartoons and definitely I would want my kids to be as happy as how their father was in the past.

Games, Toys etc may cost money, but the happiness, interests and sometimes, passion that those tangibles brings, is definitely priceless, one that only like minded people would understand, truly.

CHILDHOOD IS PRICLESS. PERIOD.

Selfish or Selfless. Think Again.

Many times, we seek convenience in our daily lives so much so that we seek it at the expense of others, directly or indirectly. Quality of life has caused us to take many things for granted. Things such as not needing to climb the stairs to your house because there’s always a lift serving you to your heart-warming home, or even a sheltered bus stop to shelter you from hot burning sun rays or hard splashing rain pour.

Learnt from a lesson as simple as the recent accident which caused innocent lives, it is totally uncalled for. This should never have happened if people were more considerate. Imagine how your patience could come a long way. Surely few seconds doesn’t kill. Dashing the red light and causing innocent lives, how will that go with you for the rest of your life if you are still alive? Luckily and deservingly in a way, he paid a price which I’m glad he did anyway.

There, you don’t only take away the lives of the innocent people but also the loved ones that is involved. Imagine how the family can survive long term with the sole breadwinner gone just like that. It’s a harsh reality that’s definitely hard to take. Even an outside like me finds it hard to swallow. All I felt deep in my heart is unbearable pity and heart-wrenching emotions.


Sometimes, I wish we could be more humane to spare a thought for others. I had my personal frustration too. A smoker happily smoking in the lift while I’m inside too, can you imagine the amount of 2nd hand smoke I inhale in that enclosed area? At times, I just feel like confronting that person, but then again, many times, by the time I realized it, that idiot has already left the lift while I’m happily stuck in there inhaling what I shouldn’t have. Will it kill you to either finish your cigarette before you take the lift, or smoke only after you exit the lift? I’m definitely not against smokers like how some people curse “Smokers Die Young!” but I’m definitely a “Inconsiderate Smokers Die Young’ person.

Show more patience, show more consideration, spare more thoughts and perhaps, this world can be a better place for everyone to live in. Isn’t it?

Diminishing Single-hood

Love. Till now, this word remains a complicated one. Behind the façade of this four letter word, there lie tons of complications definitions behind it. This word carries some of the most painful emotions on earth, yet at the same time, it unleashes some of the greatest moments of one’s life.

I’m one foot into ‘marriage’, unofficially, although I passed my ‘fairy tale’ dream of getting hitched at the tender age of 24. In just a few mere few years time, I will not be able to enjoy the freedom of Single-hood, along with other ‘perks’ that Single-hood brings.

Nobody will fully understand the importance of this Single-hood until they are totally exempted from it. I guess that’s the irony of life. When you are single, you wish you were attached. When you are attached, you hope you are single. There is no best of both worlds in this harsh reality.

 I’m still very much a single person even though I’m attached. I guess the day I considered myself NOT SINGLE (how scary!) will be the day I wore that wedding band and say my wedding vows meaningfully.

With our very own beloved abode bought and we very much know what’s next. For me, it contains a larger responsibility to ask for her precious hand, because this would mean a lot to not just the two of us, but those who loved us and we love. Our topic nowadays revolves around the milestones that are so near yet so far.

We realized and learnt a lot about what’s in store for us, still, at the back of our mind, we have, there’s definitely more that we are unaware off. The thing about marriage is, it’s not that simple as we used to think it is. It involves a lot, and a lot more if you are someone who wants to make it even more memorable and enjoyable.

Marriage talks and seminars opened out mind, widen our perspective and definitely aid in some of the planning. I long forgo the want to lavish the whole process but I still acknowledge the need to make this milestone worth the tag of ‘once in a lifetime’. They say marriage is a huge responsibility which acts as a test to a couple, and if that is the case, I would say getting married is a pre test, a pre-requisite that a couple has to pass before embarking on the lifelong journey together. And for this, I’m all prepared.

Weird Office Rules

I’m pretty sure every single one of us has a ‘dream boss’ in our heart. One whom had the heart of graciousness and one who showed empathy towards you while at the same time, provide guidance and utmost patience in whatever you do. BUT, that can only exist in dreamland.


The truth is, we are always stuck with imperfect boss. There are a lot of types of bosses. Some good, some bad and some, beyond hopeless. More often than not, it is the rules or guidelines laid down by the bosses that reflect greatly on the type of boss they are or can become.

Allow me to share some of the weirdest rules laid by bosses which bound to either nod autonomously or simply just let out a sign of relief:-

 - Your boss doesn’t allow you to take MC: WTF is such rule. Obviously, the reason why one is taking MC is because he or she is sick, and you expect the poor soul to work even though he or she is sick? And what’s worse, he or she could spread the virus to everyone else including you. Definitely something a Boss shouldn’t allow!

 - Your boss doesn’t allow employees to date with anyone within the company: Frankly speaking, this is reasonable to a very small extent but then again, it’s human rights than it being violated here. We are living in a 20th century where we are FREE TO LOVE. There’s no stopping when the cupid comes knocking isn’t it. Are you telling me you are control the number of times you sneeze or yawn per day? DUH!

 - Your boss insist you not talk AT ALL during work: How is that even possible in the first place? Unless you are telling me you are working in a workplace where voice or noise will cause harm or death, if not, that is ruinously rubbish.

 - Your boss doesn’t allow you to go toilet for big or small business: So what? Am I doing to pee into your mouth or shit on your face?

- Your boss doesn’t allow the usage of mobile phone AT ALL: Yes, your boss is going to take every single responsibility should something happened at home, NOT! Crap.

 - Your boss insists you work OT very single day: Your boss must be thinking just because he has no wife means that his employees shall not be allow spending time with their loved ones too. Simi Sai!

- Your boss will only allow your to change your stationary only if it is completely spoilt (beyond usage) and completely used up: Imagine your boss ensure your ink has been used up completely before he stingily allow you to replace it with just one pen.

- No personal belonging on workdesk or anywhere visible in the office: You’re telling me to be naked in the office, isn’t it? LOL! Now every cubicle and employee will look the same.

- You have to answer your office phone within one ring: This sound like a test for policeman who needs to be trained for alert and agility. Now, even if you are shitting, you can’t shit with a peace of mind.

Somehow, I’m glad none of the above happened to me and I really do hope it will never happen to me. And for those who encountered any of the above, probably, it’s time you head for a greener pasture, because I’m pretty sure for you, the grass is definitely greener on the other side.

Derby of all Derbies

As far as I can remember in my years of supporting the Devils, never once has Man Utd came so close to a record breaking title, yet so far because of the inconsistency as well as the presence of the next door neighbors.

To put it simply, it’s now or never. It harnesses even more truth when the match possibly proves to be a victorious one or a heart-wrenching one to either one. To be honest, this season has been a roller coaster ride for the Devil fans. Starting with the season slowly, and eventually being dumped behind by the Blues by mid season. The hard fought spirit gradually gave us a light of hope beginning of this year up until a point where we could literally feel the trophy. But now, it’s all to fight for. Blame it on the inconsistency if one must. I don’t remember feeling so disappointed so many times during my years of supporting them and I must say, they never fail to disappoint at times they most should not have.

For once, I can better understand the meaning of ‘comeback’. It’s never easy to sustain the momentum, especially with a squad full of good players vying for top spot. It wasn’t until beginning of this year where the tables were turned around. The introduction of Paul Scholes was a pure shocker. Nobody expectted him to play, and definitely not me of course. Just when the midfield crisis is starting to deepen, Scholes seems to be the angel amongst the darkness. However, I dare not harbor hopes, because it all seemed too far, then. Anything that happens after that is a fairytale. Wins after wins in games he played, Rooney formed a near perfect partnership with a rising Danny Welback and from there, we see how Man City feels threaten for the first time this season and since then, things were going our way. I That’s the thing about this beautiful game. Nobody can say it’s over until the final whistle is blown.

Nobody can said who’s going to have the title until the title has been won literally and in 12 hours time, I’m about to watch one of the greatest derby of my life, dubbed the Derby of all Derbies! I have such huge faith in them and I could feel what it is like being in the shoes of the players themselves. Having said that, all I wish is, come 5am tomorrow, I’ll be having one of the sweetest dreams of my life.

Working The Japan Way

I was mentioning how the end of a chapter spells another beginning back last month. Time sure flies and I'm already near 3 weeks into my job. I must say, I'm rather impressed with myself, at how fast I managed to adapt to this whole new working environment. But definitely, I wouldn't have done it without the support of my girlfriend, that's for sure. She made me realized what's 'pillar of my life'. Aside for the relentless support, if not for the fact that the culture shock this Japanese company brings, I wouldn't even dare to consider it as a huge feat.

Interestingly, I got a culture shock on my first day of work. I don't know to feel glad or sad to be honest. The fact that I got a shock made my first few days of work tough, real tough. I reckon if I would have come from a more Asian and open company prior to this, things would probably be slightly easier for me. Perhaps comparison was at fault for this shock.

Therefore, I make a survival manual as to what you could possibly expect working in a Japanese company.

Unique Working Environment

You get low partition between each other  in this huge space in a single floor. In this classroom style working environment, you get literally low or NO privacy at all. Everyone can see what you are doing at your desktop. Everyone can see when you're the first person to leave the office. Everyone can see if you doze off during your work. And when I mention everyone, I really mean EVERYONE, all 100++ of them.

Because of this unique style, my boss sits just beside me, and he's probably just half an arm away from me. Oh, did I mention the only person who has a room in this entire company in the president? Yes, you hear me right, even Vice President, General Managers and Bosses sit in such open environment, so it's a literal truth that everyone can see what you are doing, even your big big big big big boss.

'The Phone Plays Music?!' 

This is definitely something new. And possibly the only thing you'll experience only if you are in a Japanese company. Our office phone is apparently customized so that our phone will ring at 9am (which is our official working start time), 12pm (lunchtime), 1pm (end of lunchtime) and lastly 5.45pm (official working end time). They will play such nice melody for a mere 30 seconds before it stops and the phone is definitely very punctual. Unchained melody?

Cleanest Toilet Award 

Yes. You guessed it. How can I leave toilet bowl out. They see toilet as importantly as any other equipment or accessory in the office. And you won't be able to find a single squatting platform anywhere in the office. There's only toilet bowls. They are cleaner than most toilets you find in Singapore. And trust me you know you're in a Japanese company when each time you enter the toilet, the cover is closed. You open it up when you want to use it, and you close it back when you are done using it. Speaking about toilet manners. A good way to start from here definitely

Company's Greatest Asset

No doubt, when you are in a Japanese company, you get one of the most amazing mentality you could possibly see in the workforce. Thankfully, I was able to be part of this. We have seen how Japanese had the never say die attitude when they fought the war back in our grandpa days. We have seen how Japanese worked together with each other to tide over the major earthquake last year. This is the spirit within them. They instill a mindset that each and everyone has a part to play in everything they do. This is no different in this company. If I fail in what is expected of me, it means my boss has failed. This is also the reason why bosses here never gives up on you easily. Call it ego if you want, but to them, if they are the ones who hire you, it means they have to prove that they have made the right choice, else, it will reflect badly on them. That is why, employees here are always learning because their bosses is willing to teach. This way, it attributes to us employees being a great assets of the company.

Workaholic

Japan, being where they are today with such advanced technology and economy, is by no means easy feat. The reason why they climb so fast on the economics ladder is because people there worked hard, literally. When I was back in Japan few years back, 11pm and I was in the bus coach cruising by office towers by the highway, all I see inside the building are brightly lit window panes. Indeed, people are still working at those hours. Their high suicide rates is also caused by the tremendous stress from work. Japanese worked hard. The employees in my company is the same. To them, a hardworking or good employee is one who works till late. Never mind if you are not doing your work efficiently or effectively, so long as you leave the office LATE, you are a good worker. Period. Dangerous for me, who still firmly believe in work life balance. 

Manners

Manners to the Japanese is extremely important and it has to be observed in the work place. Mobile phones has to be switched off, no speaking loudly, be considerate towards colleagues and superiors alike..etc...the list goes on. The way the bosses (Japanese mainly) speak to each other already shows how much manners mean to them. To them, what manners you display shows alot about yourself. A good place for me to turn less couth I suppose.

Punctuality

Punctuality matters more than anything else. Every seconds counts here. If you're late, be prepared to be on the target list of your superior. The Japanese are VERY VERY particular about punctuality. To them, if you cannot even observe punctuality, how are you even to manage your work. To them, if you have poor time management, chances are, you are not going to be good at managing the tasks and responsibilities entrusted to you. This is definitely no joke, especially for someone like me.

I'm sure there's more to what was mentioned here but basically, the gist of it is here. And if you noticed, most of which actually attributes one to be a better person, not just a better employee. I'm sure this workplace will expose me to much more than I can learn and hopefully, I can really be a better employee and person through this valuable opportunity given to me.

Before It's Too Late

Have you ever been fall into the trap of procrastinating? Have you said these sentences such as "this can wait", "maybe later" or "perhaps next time then" to yourself before? Have you ever imagine the consequences that it brings if we don't perform certain action or said certain things on/at that very instance we wanted to?

As we walked our very next time, breathe in the very next breath, utter our very next words, the clock ticks. Time is a silent killer that carefully robs time from us. We grew older every single seconds, and as much as many wish, most yearn to grew wiser, smarter, prettier, much more loving etc, all by the seconds. But, the harsh truth is, we all age. We all become forgetful and full of wrinkles when we grow old. No denial. That is the normal and rightful process we all will go through.

But, what if the unwanted and unexpected struck? For example, an accident, a disastrous calamity or a terminal illness strikes. No one human being has the capability or ability to stop that from happen, because we are no magicians. And when that happens, will "this can wait", "maybe later" or "perhaps next time then" be too late? Think again.

If you want to tell that person you love him or her, say it, even if you are surrounded by eyes looking at you. If you want to buy that favourite food for someone who loves it and patiently waits for you back at home, do it. If you need to finish that work just so you can go home on time to accompany your family, finish it. Time waits for no one. Like I've said, we may be no magicians yet, what we can do or say can make magic to the loved ones that we care so much for.

For if we wait to do something, it might really prove to be a little too late. Live the moment and indulge in it, and not live the future with regrets. I'm a firm believer of expressing my love through actions and words, because I don't wish to take time for granted. If I am not sure if I can live the next minute, I'd better say what I would feel and wish to say for the next minute, before it's too late...

Transition Period

It's been slightly more than a week since I left my company of three years. Life has been pretty much slack. It's been really months since I last updated about my life. Everything has been pretty much mundane and it's more on work that I can talk about rather than anything else happening around me.

Me and the girl celebrated our 2nd year together. It was a long way coming around and we are more certain than before to really make our future work out. You can say we are already planning for our marriage and we have already started saving for it. It could be happening as soon as late this year, that's how FAST time flies, actually. 

Dates has been rather routinal. It's either movies or simply just slacking out butts off TV shows and foods. That's how boring Singapore is as you can see, and that's the reason why we always can't wait to get out of this small boring island. The girl would definitely be the happier one to do so but because of our marriage, this will have to wait as well. But we were at least heartened with the fact that we have a short trip to Kuala Lumpur coming up and a long one in the last quarter of this year, most likely to be Korea. (Can I see my Ji-Yeon in Korean please?? =p).

Job was postponed till 19 Mar. That gave me a huge reason to let go of things a little and go wild. And look what I did to my hair. I've always wanted to tried an ash dye on my hair, and finally, I went ahead to do it, after much consideration and hesitation. It turned out fine in fact, although the bleach apparently scares off some of my ex colleagues and friends.

It has been quite a large amount of me time. Definitely making up for the loss of that largely due to the heavy workload leading up to NATAS. I'm definitely glad it has all ended now. For sure, I'm missing the fun I had with my colleagues and it will be on my agenda to visit them soon, before I start work of course. Like I've said, I've spent more time sleeping, catching up on my shows and soccer. Now I'm so free, I feel like doing something. Something productive and add on value to myself.

I've always wanted to start something on my own. Through my own ideas. Had a few here and there every now and then, but never had the time to execute it. Perhaps, it's high time I kick start it and hopefully it leads me to somewhere somehow.

Meanwhile, at the back of my head, I'm eagerly waiting for my new job to start. I'm excited of it, at the same time, feeling that little bit of worrying deep down inside my heart. I'm not sure how this new job of mine will affect my lifestyle and life as a whole, probably due to the fact that I know I might need to work late and work overseas more often than before. But it is something I'm confident would fly my career higher and I'm certainly hoping it would. Probably, it could already be the start of everything....

Taking Granted

I'm pretty sure most of us had fallen in the trap of 'taking things or people for granted'. It's probably one of the worst thing that can ever happen to a human being, because for all we know, the consequences could prove disastrous.


I was once a victim of this trap. An incident that has nearly cost a hefty price tag. We often live in the world where love are easily obtained by those around us, from our parents, our significant other half, our friends etc. But little did we realize that it's hard maintaining a relationship/friendship/kinship and finding one.

It sometimes hit me how I could boss my mother around and she willingly does everything for me, all because she love me. It's a simple as that. My duty could too be as simple as showing her the amount of due respect and appreciating what she has done for me. Being the most important person of my entire life, I know that should I ever take her for granted, I'll definitely live with regrets. I've learnt to stow down a little and start to appreciate what she has done and in return, hoping to make her happy too.

All I'm trying to say here is, don't take someone you love for granted, be it someone as close as your mother or someone who's merely a friend. It takes two hands to clap. I've seen and personally encountered how fragile friendship can be once tested, but once a friendship can passed that, there hardly exist any boundaries at all.

Friendship takes efforts from both party. If it's just a one way traffic, it ain't going to work and at times, it's going to turn ugly. People always say sometimes, it's better to be late than never. I agree but one has to acknowledge that if you do it late, things will probably never be the same again.

Know who's staying the truest to you and give this person your all. Show your ugly self and you bound to get distance for sure....think about it..

End of the Chapter

As I left that very door, I looked back once more, imagining the life after the very next step that I was about to take. I knew it's going to be different, and uncertain, yet it paints a positive greener pasture for me. I left that place of three years plus with a tinge of mild emotions, yet leaving behind are the awesome colleagues whom have accompanied through the toughest times of my stint there.

As I carefully craft my farewell email, memories flowed through my mind endlessly, as though reminding me how much I had gone through, alongside the fellow warriors who fought tirelessly with me. Carefully not to miss anyone important people out, I acknowledge the fact that if not for these people whom I've worked closely with and for, I wouldn't be where and who I am today, my girlfriend included.

Perhaps, it couldn't be more timely that I choose to leave this time, having done my final battle (NATAS) with my fellow colleagues. It was a huge relief, to be able to complete it after much struggle, which brings me the heart to pity whoever is taking my helm, for I know the route the next person is going to take, won't be an easy one.

But then again, blame it on the management or the superiors if one must. If not for the lack of leadership and management, probably, things would take a brighter turn. Still, on a positive note, it is this negative circumstances that forces me to learn things the hard way, allowing a deeper understanding of what I ought to know, at the same time, making me realized I'm a much stronger person than what I thought I am, and eventually, leading to my departure to seek for better prospects and opportunities.

Three years plus is not a long time, neither it's a short one. I've met countless people and worked with many out of which, I"m glad there are colleagues who turned friends and I cherish this relationship for it is them who made my stay in there an awesome one. Finally, this chapter has ended. I'm sure it is time now, to take this short period of time to reflect and appreciate, before I start on my next new chapter...

Till then...

An Ending Spells Another Beginning

Alright, it’s confirmed. I’m finally moving on. It’s such a huge relief that nothing could explain my feelings when I did two things that further affirms that – penning down my signature on that employment letter and sealing that fatal letter and finally throwing it. I remembered how everything turned and proved too much for me last September and I’ve decided to source for a greener pastures after the last NATAS. I remembered quoting the exact words ‘Time to move on’ on the status on my then, Live Messenger window. For the past 5 months, I’ve been seeing that without any avail or progress in my job hunting. And now, finally, I can change that quote, to something more meaningful, something more positive and definitely something which I know can best describe how a chapter can end beautifully to make way for another chapter of challenges. In probably less than 30 days time, I’m going to leave this place where I’m actually grew attached to during my stint here for the past three years. As much as I hated the management, the managers and some unnecessary people, I realized I’m going to bring along with me a lot more that I can ask for when I leave this place in less than 1 month time. Till then, I shall recollect myself, to piece each memory back one by one, good or bad, in the midst of preparing for NATAS and prepare myself for this milestone to come.

Time to move on, finally?

To be honest, I never thought it would be that tough. Times like this are hard to bite the grit to move on. I always thought finding a job is as easy as 1,2,3 or A,B,C. Perhaps, the reason why I developed this perception is because finding job had been an ease for me through my life. From part time job through job agency to finding my first full time job within two interviews. In another words, it was smooth sailing. And it is also because of that, I realized the hard and harsh truth of working life. In such a competitive environment like Singapore, everyone wants a piece of everything. We, Singaporeans move on faster than most people from other parts of the world. Scandals and rumors get diminished very fast, consumerism changes its trends faster than ever seen before and we Singaporeans are hungrier and greedier than before as well.

Even employers see things the way the world is viewing, but the only difference is, in a more competitive manner. In Singapore, nobody is indispensible. Even my new boss says that. The fact is, there are companies who view their employees as assets, and for some, employees are just workers, workers who are just err…workers. Sad to say, where I am from, employees are viewed and treated in a biased manner. More often than not, many of us felt under-appreciated. But, there's nothing we can do about it. It's rice bowls that we can talking about here. However, having said that, there lies a boundaries no matter what. Employers are spoilt for choice. Imagine a position with almost 20 over candidates, and frankly speaking, do you even think if you get the job, you're the real one who can fit and live up to that job perfectly?

That is why interview is so important. Same goes for resumes and the countless versions of cover letter you have to come up with for job hunting. I realized resume plays a huge role in getting yourself even a chance to be noticed. Imagine just a minor word can make your resume nothing but a worthless piece of document. And once you got that chance, interview is the next big hurdle. It's all about selling yourself. Selling yourself tactically so to speak. No one asks you to speak on how shitty or badly your company is. No one asks you to say how many flaws and bad habits you actually have. The thing is, it's all about striking a balance between boosting your strengths and experience adequately and briefly mention your flaws and how it can actually be a strength at the same time.

After going through so many interviews, I've learnt. I've learnt that job aren't easy to find and it is very important that the next job you're going to get is a good one. I'm sure no one will go looking for a job with the intention of working for just one year or so, definitely not me at least. I'm looking to stay committed, and to get the best and most out of it. Afterall, working is a learning experience, one that adds value to your own self.

Probably, that is why I'm careful with my job search. And now, I'm hit by difficult choices, or so I thought. But no matter what, I'm kind of set on what I want, come what may, I'll take it with a positive note and bent on making and improving myself as a person, adding values to myself through the exposure and experiences I'm going to face. Whatever it is, I'm glad I'm finally leaving the shit hole I'm in, because where I am now, is full of poor management, poor working environment, poor leadership. If there's anything that would make me stay, that's probably the good colleagues that I've made over my stint there.

But having said that, I'm sure whatever my choice is, my colleagues will support me, same for those who cared and shared their most honest opinion with me. I too hope if it's time for one to leave, they can garner the courage to do the same as me. I've come to learn that there is simply no point sparing any thought for a company who doesn't appreciate and acknowledge the efforts of the employees, because ultimately, no one is going to care if at the end of the day, your bowl will be filled with rice for your tummy. It's literally a fight for your own self, in this harsh reality. With that, I prayed for a good year ahead and seriously hope my life will change the moment next week arrives.

End of 2011 | Beginning of 2012

To be honest, 2011 has been a slightly poorer year as compared to the last, largely due to work reasons. It has been an entirely different year for me mainly because of my job role change. My life as a jet-setter-wannabe has also reduced for the exact same reasons.

Nevertheless, this year has been filled with milestones as well as unforgettable occasions worth mentioning once again as well as to celebrate this happiness to once again remind myself, how contented I should be and feel. For this post, I'm doing to do up a little review of the happenings throughout this year that has significantly affected me one way or another.


January

First Anniversary: Life has never taste that sweeter with this special day as I celebrate this special date with my special someone at a special place as well. That marks a wonderful celebration of love with my special girl!

Where Happiness Means The World: We deeply feel this Club Med slogan with our heart as we enjoyed ourselves away in this unique and romantic Club Med Experience away @ Bali. Wine, food, sleep, relax and enjoy..nothing else! 

Shopping Spree @ Land of Smiles: I remembered how we walked miles and spent hours just to shop, and the number of loots we have, is simply too way overboard to mention here. Just imagine - I'm having a shopping queen as girlfriend mind you!

High Blood Pressure: A seemingly bad start to the year as I was hit with High Blood Pressure. Got me worrying for awhile before my health was back on track once again, after some care. Went for medical checkup as well to see where I stand on the health chart. To put it simply, time to control my diet.

Pulau Ubin: I can't remember the last time I visited this small little island and definitely, I saw a different side of this beautiful island which greatly exceeded my expectations, much thanks to the fun and nonsense of MR, as usual.

February

Year of Rabbit: As usual, other than the CNY goodies that's coming out, Chinese New Year is just as boring, with or without the girl, it's all the same. And even my only cousins' outing (it's a once in a year affair) is ruined this very year. I'm definitely hoping for the year of Dragon to be better. Will it?

Sweet Valentine: We both decided that Valentine's Day are overrated and too commercialised, therefore, we kept it a simple affair. Afterall, everyday can be Valentine's day with such a wonder Valentine like you.

NATAS: Nightmare. My last NATAS as a Travel Consultant, and definitely not as gutted as before already. Each NATAS makes me ponder when's my last. Oh gosh, that's how dreadful it is! Because it always made me so tired, drained and shagged.

Segar Vale: Applied for our first BTO, decided that it was rush. Thankfully, our number sucks.

March

Vivacious Sydney: It was a business and pleasure trip to me. My first time to Australia and it made me want to go there again already. Beautiful scenery, yummy food, pretty girls and majestic architecture. Oh man, bring me back there now!

April

Work Transition: Marketing, something I've always wanted to do and this transition from Travel Consultant to Marketing got me happy for a while, and really, it's just a while because the reality and truth is harsher that what I perceived prior. Oh gosh!

May

 General Elections: Workers' Party vivid supporter apparently. Our dates this month turned uniquely as we give chase to all the 'performances' that Workers' Party give. It's the battle against the Whites as social media proved efficient in this historical moment. And of course, I'm looking forward to moving 'Towards a First World Parliament', without the driver. LOL

Universal Studios Singapore: It was nothing but pure fun. The feeling of being tourists yet again brings us back to happiness. And yes, we challenged the killer roller coaster - Battleship Galactica.

June

Club Med Phuket: The previous Club Med experience was so exciting that we went back to the Club Med Family in just less than half a year later and once again, it was food, fun, chill and rain (but that didn't stop us from enjoying, at all).

July

 Happy '18th' Birthday Sweets: Our first Staycation and definitely an awesome way to celebrate her birthday with love, sweetness and happiness. Ahhh! Lifeee...what a luxury!

Segar Palmview: 2nd attempt at it and we prayed and prayed...

July Rice Babies: The July Babies reunited and it was helluva fun. Play, eat, drinks, laugh and of course, nonsense. What else do you expect?

August

 Nightmare in a Different Light: What could be worse than NATAS, seriously? It's just that this time, it's Marketing. Print Ads, Radio Ad, Booth Design, SMS Blast. You name it, I've done it. And of course, it's a SUCCESS!

September

 The Search is ON!: And so, NATAS proved too much for me, or rather, too little in another aspect. My search for a new goal, new life, new target, new meaning begins....but to no avail.

 Gastronomy Begins: It's a whole new level of eating, redefined. We found food that reminds me when I was a kid, and we of course, are like a kids. Finally, Chicken Rice Balls...Ahhhh!

October

Selling Yourself: Isn't Interviews about selling yourself? I feel like a gigolo. "Hey there, I have two eyes, one nose, one mouth...I wore Jeans and Size M underwear. Oh, did I mention I study Marketing?" Therefore, till now, I'm still stuck with NATAS 2012. DAMN!

Westlife Gravity Tour: Finally, the first time I hear them and watch them sing 'Live', and just days later, they announce their disbandment. DUH! Nevertheless, the only boy band that 'watch' me grow..

That's it!: So, we got it, signed on it (felt like signing on marriage certs) and just recently, paid partially for it too. Speak about commitments. Scary yet exciting. 

Sweet '16':One of the best birthday with all my loved ones celebrating for me, getting my favourite gifts, yet another staycation. Blissful and Loved!

November

 TGFG (Thank God For Games): Really, November was hard to come by but thankfully, PS3 and computer games were there to get me by. Even though to some, the games are expensive, it's definitely worth it for me. Phew.

December

Holiday Together, Finally: At least, we are travelling TOGETHER as a family again. It was fun-filled with nice food and really spectacular views. Most importantly, we bonded. Oh, how I love holidays...

Xmas, Seasons of Giving ($$): Really, the season of giving. I conclude that the ROI of Xmas is bad, so next year, I shall change my strategy, eh wait! Girl hasn't give me my Xmas present. Ok, I'll take back my words. Till next year!!!

As the year come to a close, it dawned on me that this year hasn't been the most fruitful year, but at the same time, friendships and love remained strong and that's very important. So long as everyone is healthy, happy and contented, to me, the year can end with me feeling happy as a whole.

But an end is another's beginning. There goes my resolution for year 2012. Five main resolutions!

1. Cook More

To learn to cook more dishes and be more pro at it. Despite my passion, I have failed to master any dishes. It's high time I act on it, learn on it and master it. Someday, a signature dish will appear. And it will be 2012!

2. Cut Down Weight / Control Diet

I know what's in my body, what's my body needs and what my body needs to get rid off. To put it simply, eat healthier, more exercise and eat less. Oh gosh, has it ever happen before? Yes, in 2012!

3. Be More Patient

Being impatience seems to be getting over me at times. Sometimes, I thought it was gone. Sometimes, it just happened unknowingly. Sometimes, I couldn't controlled it. But then again, I realized it's all excuses. So in 2012, expect a more gracious and patient me, I hope!

4. Read more, Discover more, Explore more = Learn more!

I have not spread my personal time well enough this year. As a result, I'm losing out on practical, factual, general and even fictional knowledge. Life isn't just about work, love and enjoying, it's a learning process and in 2012, I'm going to do just that, through the web, newspaper, traveling, conversing with people or even simply just imagine!

5. Save, save, SAVE!!

The time has definitely come for the need to save even more. As commitments piled up, as deadline is drawing near, as inflation goes up, as living expenses increase and YET, salary remains stagnant (well almost), plans still has to go ahead. Therefore, I ought to be more disciplined and save MORE - for the better of the future. 

I am confident I am able to hit bulleyes on each and every single resolution and all it takes is just for me to move towards that direction. Whatever it is, it's for the good of me, and my loved ones eventually. I do hope for a good 2012 and deep inside me, secretly, I do hope 2012 is not the end of the world because I haven't cook enough, haven't love enough, haven't learn enough and haven't fulfil my dreams. Let's hope for an awesome 2012!