Being Positive

Finally, this post is up. What i have now, what i am now, whom i'm with now, who i have now is all very much thankful to one word 'positive'. I used to be pessimistic and i realise pessimism is contagious in its own way, and as it spreads, it gets worse and worse. There is no particular medicine, no particular cure. The only way is to be positive. Sounds simple? NOT AT ALL.

It's always easier said than done. There are always so much talk about being positive. It's sooo easy to say it, but to perform it, it's really difficult. It takes alot of courage, because you are risking. Being positive doesn't mean ignoring what is happening around you and living within some kind of a "positive bubble".

Definitely, no one can expect someone who is going through problems or disasters, or living in difficult circumstances, to ignore his/her present condition and start thinking positively right away. However, it is easier to think positively in comfortable situation and not in the midst of problems or a difficult situation.

So what is being positive? Saying that everything is going to be all right, smiling with no reason or ignoring problems and difficulties, without trying to solve them, is not being positive. It is being unpractical. I suppose being positive could mean to expect the best and believe that a bad situation would improve which is quite practical in some sense. Being positive can be looking for opportunities and for solutions, instead of doing nothing and blaming everybody for their troubles. It's bad enough bad situations or problems occur, therefore, don't dwell on their problems, live in self-pity because it just makes everything else worse.

Many often, when going through bad times, faced by disasters, misfortune or hardships, became despondent, negative and unhappy. It's as though there are no longer any solution to whatever they are facing at that point of time. These cirsumstances and situations then affect the mood and state of mind. Yes, although being positive will not make circumstances and condition disappear, as if by magic, but with a positive attitude you can improve the situation and be more in control of your state of mind, your reactions and your behavior. No one can control the external circumstances, but we can always change our sttitude and the way we feel, even if it means to make us feel a little bit better, even if it means to make us feel better for just a little short while.

It is not easy for that in difficult situations to think positively. This idea might not arise straight away but it's just that some would choose not to let the events they go through to affect their mind, and they are therefore happier and suffer less.

Even in the midst of war, people can think of peace. Even in the midst of disasters, people can see light and seek solace. Positive thinking is being hopeful, and hope brings light and happiness for one. One can dwell in fear and negative expectations, but and one can also try to do the best under the circumstances. It is a matter of choice.

-to be continued-