Life's An Endless Journey

An Ending Spells Another Beginning

2012-02-06T14:45:00.002+08:00

Alright, it’s confirmed. I’m finally moving on. It’s such a huge relief that nothing could explain my feelings when I did two things that further affirms that – penning down my signature on that employment letter and sealing that fatal letter and finally throwing it. I remembered how everything turned and proved too much for me last September and I’ve decided to source for a greener pastures after the last NATAS. I remembered quoting the exact words ‘Time to move on’ on the status on my then, Live Messenger window. For the past 5 months, I’ve been seeing that without any avail or progress in my job hunting. And now, finally, I can change that quote, to something more meaningful, something more positive and definitely something which I know can best describe how a chapter can end beautifully to make way for another chapter of challenges. In probably less than 30 days time, I’m going to leave this place where I’m actually grew attached to during my stint here for the past three years. As much as I hated the management, the managers and some unnecessary people, I realized I’m going to bring along with me a lot more that I can ask for when I leave this place in less than 1 month time. Till then, I shall recollect myself, to piece each memory back one by one, good or bad, in the midst of preparing for NATAS and prepare myself for this milestone to come.

Time to move on, finally?

2012-01-27T00:40:00.002+08:00

To be honest, I never thought it would be that tough. Times like this are hard to bite the grit to move on. I always thought finding a job is as easy as 1,2,3 or A,B,C. Perhaps, the reason why I developed this perception is because finding job had been an ease for me through my life. From part time job through job agency to finding my first full time job within two interviews. In another words, it was smooth sailing. And it is also because of that, I realized the hard and harsh truth of working life. In such a competitive environment like Singapore, everyone wants a piece of everything. We, Singaporeans move on faster than most people from other parts of the world. Scandals and rumors get diminished very fast, consumerism changes its trends faster than ever seen before and we Singaporeans are hungrier and greedier than before as well.

Even employers see things the way the world is viewing, but the only difference is, in a more competitive manner. In Singapore, nobody is indispensible. Even my new boss says that. The fact is, there are companies who view their employees as assets, and for some, employees are just workers, workers who are just err…workers. Sad to say, where I am from, employees are viewed and treated in a biased manner. More often than not, many of us felt under-appreciated. But, there's nothing we can do about it. It's rice bowls that we can talking about here. However, having said that, there lies a boundaries no matter what. Employers are spoilt for choice. Imagine a position with almost 20 over candidates, and frankly speaking, do you even think if you get the job, you're the real one who can fit and live up to that job perfectly?

That is why interview is so important. Same goes for resumes and the countless versions of cover letter you have to come up with for job hunting. I realized resume plays a huge role in getting yourself even a chance to be noticed. Imagine just a minor word can make your resume nothing but a worthless piece of document. And once you got that chance, interview is the next big hurdle. It's all about selling yourself. Selling yourself tactically so to speak. No one asks you to speak on how shitty or badly your company is. No one asks you to say how many flaws and bad habits you actually have. The thing is, it's all about striking a balance between boosting your strengths and experience adequately and briefly mention your flaws and how it can actually be a strength at the same time.

After going through so many interviews, I've learnt. I've learnt that job aren't easy to find and it is very important that the next job you're going to get is a good one. I'm sure no one will go looking for a job with the intention of working for just one year or so, definitely not me at least. I'm looking to stay committed, and to get the best and most out of it. Afterall, working is a learning experience, one that adds value to your own self.

Probably, that is why I'm careful with my job search. And now, I'm hit by difficult choices, or so I thought. But no matter what, I'm kind of set on what I want, come what may, I'll take it with a positive note and bent on making and improving myself as a person, adding values to myself through the exposure and experiences I'm going to face. Whatever it is, I'm glad I'm finally leaving the shit hole I'm in, because where I am now, is full of poor management, poor working environment, poor leadership. If there's anything that would make me stay, that's probably the good colleagues that I've made over my stint there.

But having said that, I'm sure whatever my choice is, my colleagues will support me, same for those who cared and shared their most honest opinion with me. I too hope if it's time for one to leave, they can garner the courage to do the same as me. I've come to learn that there is simply no point sparing any thought for a company who doesn't appreciate and acknowledge the efforts of the employees, because ultimately, no one is going to care if at the end of the day, your bowl will be filled with rice for your tummy. It's literally a fight for your own self, in this harsh reality. With that, I prayed for a good year ahead and seriously hope my life will change the moment next week arrives.

End of 2011 | Beginning of 2012

2011-12-28T14:34:00.000+08:00

To be honest, 2011 has been a slightly poorer year as compared to the last, largely due to work reasons. It has been an entirely different year for me mainly because of my job role change. My life as a jet-setter-wannabe has also reduced for the exact same reasons.

Nevertheless, this year has been filled with milestones as well as unforgettable occasions worth mentioning once again as well as to celebrate this happiness to once again remind myself, how contented I should be and feel. For this post, I'm doing to do up a little review of the happenings throughout this year that has significantly affected me one way or another.

January

First Anniversary: Life has never taste that sweeter with this special day as I celebrate this special date with my special someone at a special place as well. That marks a wonderful celebration of love with my special girl!

Where Happiness Means The World: We deeply feel this Club Med slogan with our heart as we enjoyed ourselves away in this unique and romantic Club Med Experience away @ Bali. Wine, food, sleep, relax and enjoy..nothing else!

Shopping Spree @ Land of Smiles: I remembered how we walked miles and spent hours just to shop, and the number of loots we have, is simply too way overboard to mention here. Just imagine - I'm having a shopping queen as girlfriend mind you!

High Blood Pressure: A seemingly bad start to the year as I was hit with High Blood Pressure. Got me worrying for awhile before my health was back on track once again, after some care. Went for medical checkup as well to see where I stand on the health chart. To put it simply, time to control my diet.

Pulau Ubin: I can't remember the last time I visited this small little island and definitely, I saw a different side of this beautiful island which greatly exceeded my expectations, much thanks to the fun and nonsense of MR, as usual.

February

Year of Rabbit: As usual, other than the CNY goodies that's coming out, Chinese New Year is just as boring, with or without the girl, it's all the same. And even my only cousins' outing (it's a once in a year affair) is ruined this very year. I'm definitely hoping for the year of Dragon to be better. Will it?

Sweet Valentine: We both decided that Valentine's Day are overrated and too commercialised, therefore, we kept it a simple affair. Afterall, everyday can be Valentine's day with such a wonder Valentine like you.

NATAS: Nightmare. My last NATAS as a Travel Consultant, and definitely not as gutted as before already. Each NATAS makes me ponder when's my last. Oh gosh, that's how dreadful it is! Because it always made me so tired, drained and shagged.

Segar Vale: Applied for our first BTO, decided that it was rush. Thankfully, our number sucks.

March

Vivacious Sydney: It was a business and pleasure trip to me. My first time to Australia and it made me want to go there again already. Beautiful scenery, yummy food, pretty girls and majestic architecture. Oh man, bring me back there now!

April

Work Transition: Marketing, something I've always wanted to do and this transition from Travel Consultant to Marketing got me happy for a while, and really, it's just a while because the reality and truth is harsher that what I perceived prior. Oh gosh!

May

General Elections: Workers' Party vivid supporter apparently. Our dates this month turned uniquely as we give chase to all the 'performances' that Workers' Party give. It's the battle against the Whites as social media proved efficient in this historical moment. And of course, I'm looking forward to moving 'Towards a First World Parliament', without the driver. LOL

Universal Studios Singapore: It was nothing but pure fun. The feeling of being tourists yet again brings us back to happiness. And yes, we challenged the killer roller coaster - Battleship Galactica.

June

Club Med Phuket: The previous Club Med experience was so exciting that we went back to the Club Med Family in just less than half a year later and once again, it was food, fun, chill and rain (but that didn't stop us from enjoying, at all).

July

Happy '18th' Birthday Sweets: Our first Staycation and definitely an awesome way to celebrate her birthday with love, sweetness and happiness. Ahhh! Lifeee...what a luxury!

Segar Palmview: 2nd attempt at it and we prayed and prayed...

July Rice Babies: The July Babies reunited and it was helluva fun. Play, eat, drinks, laugh and of course, nonsense. What else do you expect?

August

Nightmare in a Different Light: What could be worse than NATAS, seriously? It's just that this time, it's Marketing. Print Ads, Radio Ad, Booth Design, SMS Blast. You name it, I've done it. And of course, it's a SUCCESS!

September

The Search is ON!: And so, NATAS proved too much for me, or rather, too little in another aspect. My search for a new goal, new life, new target, new meaning begins....but to no avail.

Gastronomy Begins: It's a whole new level of eating, redefined. We found food that reminds me when I was a kid, and we of course, are like a kids. Finally, Chicken Rice Balls...Ahhhh!

October

Selling Yourself: Isn't Interviews about selling yourself? I feel like a gigolo. "Hey there, I have two eyes, one nose, one mouth...I wore Jeans and Size M underwear. Oh, did I mention I study Marketing?" Therefore, till now, I'm still stuck with NATAS 2012. DAMN!

Westlife Gravity Tour: Finally, the first time I hear them and watch them sing 'Live', and just days later, they announce their disbandment. DUH! Nevertheless, the only boy band that 'watch' me grow..

That's it!: So, we got it, signed on it (felt like signing on marriage certs) and just recently, paid partially for it too. Speak about commitments. Scary yet exciting.

Sweet '16':One of the best birthday with all my loved ones celebrating for me, getting my favourite gifts, yet another staycation. Blissful and Loved!

November

TGFG (Thank God For Games): Really, November was hard to come by but thankfully, PS3 and computer games were there to get me by. Even though to some, the games are expensive, it's definitely worth it for me. Phew.

December

Holiday Together, Finally: At least, we are travelling TOGETHER as a family again. It was fun-filled with nice food and really spectacular views. Most importantly, we bonded. Oh, how I love holidays...

Xmas, Seasons of Giving ($$): Really, the season of giving. I conclude that the ROI of Xmas is bad, so next year, I shall change my strategy, eh wait! Girl hasn't give me my Xmas present. Ok, I'll take back my words. Till next year!!!

As the year come to a close, it dawned on me that this year hasn't been the most fruitful year, but at the same time, friendships and love remained strong and that's very important. So long as everyone is healthy, happy and contented, to me, the year can end with me feeling happy as a whole.

But an end is another's beginning. There goes my resolution for year 2012. Five main resolutions!

1. Cook More

To learn to cook more dishes and be more pro at it. Despite my passion, I have failed to master any dishes. It's high time I act on it, learn on it and master it. Someday, a signature dish will appear. And it will be 2012!

2. Cut Down Weight / Control Diet

I know what's in my body, what's my body needs and what my body needs to get rid off. To put it simply, eat healthier, more exercise and eat less. Oh gosh, has it ever happen before? Yes, in 2012!

3. Be More Patient

Being impatience seems to be getting over me at times. Sometimes, I thought it was gone. Sometimes, it just happened unknowingly. Sometimes, I couldn't controlled it. But then again, I realized it's all excuses. So in 2012, expect a more gracious and patient me, I hope!

4. Read more, Discover more, Explore more = Learn more!

I have not spread my personal time well enough this year. As a result, I'm losing out on practical, factual, general and even fictional knowledge. Life isn't just about work, love and enjoying, it's a learning process and in 2012, I'm going to do just that, through the web, newspaper, traveling, conversing with people or even simply just imagine!

5. Save, save, SAVE!!

The time has definitely come for the need to save even more. As commitments piled up, as deadline is drawing near, as inflation goes up, as living expenses increase and YET, salary remains stagnant (well almost), plans still has to go ahead. Therefore, I ought to be more disciplined and save MORE - for the better of the future.

I am confident I am able to hit bulleyes on each and every single resolution and all it takes is just for me to move towards that direction. Whatever it is, it's for the good of me, and my loved ones eventually. I do hope for a good 2012 and deep inside me, secretly, I do hope 2012 is not the end of the world because I haven't cook enough, haven't love enough, haven't learn enough and haven't fulfil my dreams. Let's hope for an awesome 2012!

Ways to Get Over Your Hangover

2011-12-28T10:00:00.001+08:00

Marmite

One reason many of us feel so bad the morning after a drinking session is because alcohol depletes your system of essential nutrients, including B vitamins. A lack of B vitamins can cause anxiety and depression, so try munching on Marmite - a rich source of the vitamin B complex - to lift your mood. As an added benefit, Marmite has a high sodium content which can help replace the salts lost through drinking alcohol. Try the savoury spread on toast for an added fix of carbs.

Watermelon

Not only does alcohol deplete your body of nutrients, it can also lead to low blood sugar levels, which may leave you feeling weak and shaky. To counteract this, try snacking on watermelon, which is not only high in fructose but is also water-rich to boost hydration. On top of this, watermelon is high in many essential nutrients, including vitamin C, B-vitamins and magnesium.

Ginger

If too much alcohol has you feeling queasy, ginger is the perfect food to help settle your stomach and relieve nausea. While you may not feel much like chewing on the food in its original form, you could try adding some grated ginger to hot water for a ginger tea, blending into a fresh fruit or vegetable juice, or snacking on ginger biscuits for a stomach-soothing treat.

Eggs

Scrambled, fried or boiled, eggs are a popular hangover breakfast, and the good news is they are a great choice for beating the nastiest of hangovers. Firstly, eggs are extremely rich in protein, which helps raise mood-boosting serotonin levels as well as helping to reduce nausea. Furthermore, eggs are rich in an amino acid called cystine, which helps fight against the alcohol-induced toxins that contribute to your hangover.

Bananas

Bananas are packed with potassium and magnesium, two of the minerals often depleted in our bodies when alcohol is consumed. A lack of potassium in the body can lead to nausea, weakness and tiredness, so stocking up on bananas can help reduce these classic hangover symptoms. As an added bonus, bananas are natural antacids so great for reducing stomach acid, and are good for providing a boost of energy if you have a busy day ahead.

Soup

One of the most important steps for beating a hangover is getting your body rehydrated, and this can be done through what you eat as much as what you drink. To up your fluids and sodium levels and get a shot of nutrients all at once, try some health-boosting vegetable or miso soup. As an added benefit, soup is easy on the stomach so good if you're feeling a bit queasy.

Oats

Due to the diuretic effects of alcohol, the body loses many essential minerals and vitamins during a heavy drinking session. Luckily, oats can provide you with many of these nutrients, including B vitamins (good for the liver and mood) and essential minerals magnesium, calcium and iron. On top of this, oats can help neutralise acidity levels in the body, cleanse the liver, absorb toxins and slowly raise blood sugar levels, making a bowl of porridge the perfect hangover breakfast.

Fruit juice

If you're feeling a bit queasy at the thought of food, then this is the cure for you. While it's great to line your stomach with food if you can, to replace lost vitamins, raise blood sugar levels and rehydrate your body, you can't do much better than a glass of fresh juice. Not only is juice good for immediate relief, the fructose will also help speed up the removal of alcohol from your blood.

Sardines

If you're craving something savoury, sardines on toast could be the perfect morning-after breakfast. A major cause of hangovers is an imbalance of electrolytes, and sardines are rich in many of these vital minerals, including sodium, chloride, potassium, magnesium and calcium. In addition to this, sardines are high in omega-3 fatty acids, which are great for protecting the liver as well as lifting the mood.

Coconut water

Many hangover sufferers swear by sports drinks as a way to hydrate the body and help rebalance electrolytes. However, sports drinks are often carbonated, which can irritate the stomach, and packed with refined sugars. For a natural alternative to sports drinks, try sipping on some coconut water, which contains essential electrolytes (including calcium, potassium and magnesium) to boost hydration, and is also soothing for the stomach.

Man VS WOW!

2011-12-16T17:41:00.000+08:00

Looking at these hot babes, the only reaction Man like us would go will be a common reaction 'WOW'. How many times do you get your guy sitting next to a darn hot girl and his eyeballs will simply not swayed to that very side, highly unlikely I must say.

No doubt, a famous perception, out of 10 guys, 9 of them would be 好色 to a varying extent and the last one standing will be one who appreciate 'balls and meatstick'. LOL. I've done my fair share of ogling but in a decent manner I proudly claim. There's a thin line of a man wanting to see versus a woman wanting to flaunt. I dare say, there are indeed out there, girls who dressed themselves up just to attract undivided attention from the public, not in a bizarre manner but in a tempting yet seductress way. Some might think, I have the figure and why not let people get 'WOWED' over my assets. But what they don't know is that MAN, being MAN, are not viewing their assets the way it should be.

I've seen how downright lecherous MAN can get. One particular incident got me real 'impressed'. It all happened in the MRT. Sitting right at the side with her eyes mildly closed was this young student with her files clasped between her hands. No way would you be able to see what behind those files, unless you were sitting right beside her, which is perfectly what a guy did. Shortly, this guy turned into a wolf. His persistent ogling got the attention of the young girl. Without doubt, she turned away. Surprisingly, this wolf started to push himself a little forward so as to get a more 'decent' view of what he's trying to see. Disturbed, the girl appeared irritated and standing right leaning with her back on the transparent glass panel. Just when you thought all is going to end, you guessed it. His eyes were on her butt this time round. Of course, feeling insecure, the girl periodically turned her head to ensure she's safe. No way and I suppose she hit her brim and she alighted the next stop talking passed the panel where this wolf still refuse to let his eyes off as he shamelessly turned his head and followed her path through till she's completely out of his sight. One word, pathetic.

More often than not, I feel amused whenever I see a girl dressed smokingly hot. Because at the back of my mind, I was thinking how safe would this girl be. If we did review the rapes and molest cases that has happened, it's of no wonder that those victims who are the girls involved, are usually dressed smokingly hot. Enter a nightclub and that's even better. You get free touches from unknown hands and there's literally nothing you can do about it, especially if it's crowded.

Yes, I know Singapore is hot, but it doesn't mean you have to wear less to feel the cool. It's all about dressing up to look presentable, not dressing up to 'kill' because you'll never know who's going to get killed eventually. And guys, for goodness sake, your eyes are meant to see, not peep or stare. If there's even a chance you get such opportunity, appreciate your eyesight and not abuse it. Because behind that eye, lies a brain filled with either good or evil intentions.

I don't look up to those ladies who dress to flaunt needlessly and definitely, I despise those guys who stare at the ladies assets desperately as if they could easily eat them up with one bite. For me, I often asked myself, is this how I want my wife or even daughter to be looked at in future and because of them, I held restraints and I confidently say, we need to know where we stand. For even myself, I will gladly advice my girlfriend/wife/daughter to dress appropriately and not let those wolf get their chances.

And for those who commit molest or rape because of that, to hell you go.

The Time of The Year Again

2011-11-17T15:53:00.000+08:00

Yes, it’s that time of the year again. The time where you get to rejoice and feel sad once again. Rejoice because I’ll get to meet my favourite people again, showered with love through wishes and gifts and most importantly, a great excuse to eat, drink and no need to work (if your leave is approved of course). However, we can’t deny the fact that we are one step closer to the tomb whenever one commemorates his or her hatch day.

It all started with the girl trying her very best to plan a surprise for me. Possibly, after what I’ve done for her birthday this year, she’s out to ‘kill’. Similarly, she did up a Facebook page more than one month in advance so that my anticipation kicks off way in advance. A few segments to it, but there was a frantic period in between, definitely no thanks to the f**king SAF who screwed up the beloved plan she planned. Nevertheless, fate was kind to us and she managed to get everything back on track. Her first surprise was an unfortunate one. Can’t blame her too, because she wasn’t aware of it as well. It’s a message treatment at Cuppage Plaza. The name of this place can clearly show you what you should and will expect. Frankly speaking, it wasn’t an enjoyable experience AT ALL, nonetheless, her effort shows it all and my heart felt everything as compared to the yucky feeling from my skin. And so, that’s one down, more to go (I’m still clueless although she fed me with quite a number of clues). Her riddles began yet again….which doesn’t seem to help me at all as well.

MR was there to celebrate with me for my birthday. Had planned for Buffettown for a normal dinner feast before we actually chilled out in Marina Barrage. Buffettown was a killer. All of us left the place feeling more than just FAT. The salmon sashimi, crepe, soup and prawns really got most of us high, it’s funny how our talks between each other still garners so much fun and laughter ever after these years, especially with the presence of Smell. Went to watch a movie (finally MR’s watching movie together once again), and we watched ‘The Thing’ after their request was rejected by both me and the girl because we had already watched ‘Real Steel’ the night before. Ended up, Smell was jokingly angry with us for not watching ‘Real Steel’ with them, because, ‘The Thing’ was such an awful and lousy movie.

Nevertheless, we decided the night is still young, and after countless ding dong (as usual), we ended up at Marina Barrage. First visit to MB by MR. Smell seems to have a Doraemon car where he had picnic mats, kite and even leftover wine in his car (that’s for tricking girls of course). His kite really got us laughing for a whole good time before they present me my present – a Senheisser Headphone. Cool stuff, it’s like a little wish came true. Definitely got a big smile on me knowing I can blast my music away into my ears, all thanks to MR.

If you think the headphone was cool, wait till you read about what the girl gave me as my 2nd surprise. A Razer Lycosa! Cool stuff right? Girlfriend knew how much a gamer I was, and despite her not liking me to play game in expense of our time spent together, she knew what will make me happy. Indeed, I was all smile when she present me with my surprise. I'm was speechless and extremely. Right away, I replaced my keyboard and began playing with it. Possibly one of the best birthday present I've ever received, for sure!

Next up, birthday celebration with Xero4. Don and Jon both attended, along with Layhuan and Girlfriend. It’s like all my favourite people are all around. Had arranged for a lunch at Paradise Inn which I’m betting that they’ll love it. Introduced them to floral tea, some braised bee hoon and of course, the dessert. We ordered like more than 7 dishes altogether. And of course, it was a treat from both Don and Jon. We have been friends for so long that since years ago, we’ve decided to do away with gifts, because if not, we have to trouble and crack our brains for like at least 4 times a year, which could be rather ‘damaging’. Therefore, since then, it’s just a good celebration over treating a meal. Thanks to them, a worthwhile and yummy lunch.

No prize for guessing why is October my favourite month because my celebration will be spread over a few days across the month, instead on just that day itself, by and with all the people I love. Last day of work before I enjoy my long awaited 5 day break from work, I was sprung a surprise by my colleagues. One whom I called ‘Da Jie’ at work and the other one who was nice and kind enough to wrap me a red packet. ‘Da Jie’ on the other hand, gave me a birthday cake with some nearby colleagues sharing the joy with me. Not forgetting a gift bought to me by ‘Da Jie’. One word – Touched. Thank god for these colleagues and if there’s anything I wouldn’t want to leave behind when I leave this company will be these wonderful colleagues.

A day of havoc on the next day! Had a whole day outing with Don before the highlight approaches at night. Jon and Layhuan joined us for clubbing @ Zirca. I guess I’m happiest because I finally get to club in Zirca and drink once again! Literally brings me back to good old times where we were all still young and partying away almost every other week. Making use of the 1-1 offer, all four of us were high not long after. Before the stroke of midnight, I was presented a glass of graveyard. I’ve tasted its power, and never liked it. But then again, the hi-ness you get definitely conquers it all. That graveyard really sucks. It almost literally sends me to graveyard. By the time I ‘down’ that glass, I almost died. I’m almost drunk in another 1-2 hours and seriously, I can’t really recall what happens thereafter. The next thing I knew soberly, I was busy vomiting and trying to get myself up. I was so wasted, I forgot about my poor girlfriend, who got worried over me for a good few hours through the night. I spent early of my birthday drinking, half of it vomiting and the later part with my girl!

All was well as she presented her masterpiece to me. As usual, I’ve always love her works, the collage she made because that is the best representation of her and I love to collect every single one of them. Thanks to Cathay, I managed to get a 1-1 offer for the Cathay Platinum Suites. We were lucky to watch a movie over this luxurious setting. We watched ‘In Time’ over a spread of yummy food we ordered, which surprisingly last us through the night. Definitely a memorable night as we both indulges endlessly. Of course, wishes from friends still arrives heartwarmingly over at the social media since the night before and although as funny as it may seems (how Facebook has replace the most interpersonal way of greetings), it’s good to know that people still remember to wish you over your birthday.

Not forgetting that very night, mum and dad celebrated my birthday for me with a cake bought by mum. She always remembered which my favourite cake is. Even up until today, I’m still her little boy where she will always remember buying that cartoon chocolate from me from Polar. Loves. We’ve reached a stage where our feelings and kinship slowed, but still strong as ever, Somehow, their birthday singing was the most memorable. Perhaps, it’s been years since they last sang me one. Tricked mum into giving me a treat by bringing her to Taste Paradise. Always felt bad whenever I’m having good food outside without her presence. Of course, eventually, I insist it’s my treat and there’s nothing she could do about it. Ordered her favourite food and dessert, which definitely got her smiling, and let me tell you, that smile is priceless. Thank goodness, dad managed to get a bite of their yummy food as well.

Thanks to Smell, we had a chalet booked and organized by him. Unfortunately, because of that bad experience, drinking party isn’t going on anymore. Therefore, we packed lots of food and simply just feast and drink. We decided that rugged chalet was way too boring, and decided to summon the mahjong table and chairs from my house before we played our way through. Guess who’s the winner, Kelvin Low of course (=p). Woops! Now, MR really got my mahjong bugs coming back again, and I’m seriously wondering when my next mahjong session is. Thanks to my girl, we managed to share my birthday cake with everyone in MR. The girl was so worried this cake surprise would failed because I’m dead drunk but afterall, I won’t let any efforts go down to the drain. I still can’t forget how ZQ gave me a kiss and Smell gave me a freaking musingly lick on my face. Eww…it just irks me at the thought of it. But seriously, thanks for this time as my birthday celebration continues.

Girlfriend woke me up damn early in the day and revealing the first riddle of the day. My choice, Egg Benedict of course. Turns out, she’s bringing me to Spruce. Definitely the mood was not dampened by the hot sun and non air-conditioned outdoor as we insist in sitting indoor to enjoy our breakkie over the air con. Breakfast was so-so as compared to Epicurious, but I must say, their Salmon is awesome. Towards the end, Girlfriend unveiled the 4th riddle which was the most difficult riddle. Because there’s so much work to be done. When I finally solved it, she conveniently denied me my correct answer, which got me pondering over and over again through the entire journey to my correct answer – MM = Marina Mandarin. Awesome! It’s Staycation. I bet we realized and discovered our love for Staycation since the first one during her birthday celebration. We got a free upgrade to Premier room which is really spacious, high floor and they even come with a business desk, bathtub and shower, and did I forget to mention, it’s King Size Bed!!! Oh how we love King Size Bed. Somehow, we were always wondering and puzzled why do hotel’s bed feel so comfortable. If only my future home has such comfortable beds. That aside, we spent the rest of the day living like a tourist and definitely a relaxing and enjoyable holiday, planned effortlessly by the girl.

That’s not all, my final celebration was a dinner with sumptuous crab feast whipped up by dad. Chilli crabs by dad has never tasted so well and to be very honest, I’ve never eaten any chilli crab which taste nicer than my dad’s. Perhaps it’s because all of us in the family had gotten use to the taste, but undeniably, it tasted wonderful and awesome. Even girlfriend got a taste of it, after Dad insists I passed some to her.

Just like that, in a blink of an eye, all celebrations are over and I’m one year older. Nothing much exist in my wish, but it’s just the same thing over again this year. Most importantly, I’m contented. Contented with all the love, wishes and greetings I’ve received and effort anyone and everyone have made for my birthday so far, which had definitely make this year one of my best birthdays.

A Different Movie Experience

2011-11-02T17:34:00.002+08:00

Being a movie goer, I simply love watching movie. In fact, it's one of my favourite hobbies. Movie has come a long way, along with its providers as well. Ever since Golden Village came up with their very own Gold Class, it was met with good response where finally, they met their first rival - Cathay Platinum Suites. Skeptical in the first place because of the price, I am now convinced that you literally get for what you pay. The experience that you get, might simply wow you and overcome your perceived value of it.

And now, having try both GV Gold Class and Cathay Platinum Suites, allow me to share my two cents worth based on my experience with the two that really offers movie experience, like no other.

Pre Movie Ambience (Cathay Platinum Suites)
Both focus on giving exclusivity to their patrons for such price they paid for a movie. Therefore, you may check in earlier and rest at their lounge before the movie. However, this is where the service differentiates.
GV Gold Class: Nice ambience with dimly lit light where you can sit around and browse the menu. Other than that, you're left with the person/people to entertain.
Cathay Platinum Suites: Nice ambience with nicely decorateed interior. They even prodive iPad for patrons. Unfortunately, there's only 1 iPad to go around, so either you reach there early to get it, or you are left with the menu and the person/people you're with. Menu browsing is available as well.

Seat (GV Gold Class)
Both offer spacious and comfortable seats, wide enough to be comparable to an aircraft business class seat. The diffentiating factor is the controls.
GV Gold Class: Leg Rest and body rest portion are controlled seperately, allowing you to adjust accordingly to your needs and wants. They even have a head rest so that your head has enough support so that it won't causes strain to the neck.
Cathay Platinum Suites: Leg Rest and body rest portion are being controlled by just one button. It's just I can't rest my body while not wanting my leg to be stretched flat.

Food (Cathay Platinum Suites)
GV Gold Class: Healthy range of food offered. From beverages to main courses. Most popular good I reckon is their seafood basket. Relatively normal portion. Food is ordinary and price is pricey.
Cathay Platinum Suites: Limited range of food offered. Almost on par with that of GV Gold Class. Price of their food however is cheaper than GV Gold Class, with some even much cheaper than their fair compeitor. Food is yummy although portion are small.

Comfort (Both)
Both did not neglect the comfort while watching movie. It makes you feel as though you are watching your favourite movie at your own home. Therefore, special stuff are provided to ensure comfort
GV Gold Class: Pillows and Blanket are provided for you to ensure you are warmly covered under the air conditioned. Also, a pillow for you to cuddle because the seat are so spacious, all you can do is hold the hands of your partner period, no hanky panky.
Cathay Platinum Suites: Only Blankets are provided which comes in a form of Quilt which is really comfortable. However, no pillow and the spaciousness is basically the same as that of GV Gold Class.

Service (Both)
Paying that kind of price, a high standard of service is definitely expected.
GV Gold Class: The staff is made to ensure they deliver a prompt service. They are also patient to take your orders as and when you want and the whole process of ordering food and payment is made smooth to ensure your experience is not disrupted.
Cathay Platinum Suites: Same as GV Gold Class, staff are trained to service promptly and politely. They were also trained to ask if patrons are first time patron so that they can brief them on the whole environment and process. They also ensure service remain smooth and not disruptive in any moment of the movie experience.

Movie Experience (Both)
Likewise, there is no doubt why both providers are confident to price their exclusive class of ticket at that price because they believe the price can match the experience that they are offering.
GV Gold Class: Red colour is their corporate theme that sit nicely with their branding. Experience were made good and exclusive to ensure consumers feel and stay happy through the entire movie experience. The only bad point is, their trailers are still played just like the normal movie, which is literally a chore at times. Imagine waiting up to 10-15 minutes before your movie can actually commence. Other than that, the rest is near to perfect.
Cathay Platinum Suites: In collaboration with AMEX, they simply could not afford to jeopardise the brand. Heavily supported by Amex, they are out to compete with Gold Class and I must say they did a good job with their Platinum Suites Membership along with their launch. Shouting on their business class seating and experience which they deliver, it's definitely a world of their own. Entire movie experience is wholesome yet exclusive.

In conclusion, I would prefer GV Gold Class primarily because I weigh the comfort of my seat and the flexibility to control the incline more than anything else. Nevertheless, if I had cravings for good and yummy food while having my beloved food, Cathay Platinum Suites would definitely be my choice.

Nevertheless, having said that, I think for these price, it would be better to go along with a movie that runs for at least 100 minutes to make the experience worthwhile. What's the point of paying 2-3 times more just to watch a an hour and a half movie - it's like before you can enjoy the entire movie experience, the movie's over and you've to leave.

On a side note, such movie experience is a good platform for couples because of the way they configure the theaters. If you notice, the configuration of the theater is done in pairs. In another words, it serve as an ideal way for couples to enjoy their movie in the most loving way possible. Also, if families are looking for a quieter moment to enjoy movie together, such movie experience is the way to go.

Hope that helps fellow movie goers.

Counting My Blessings

2011-10-27T00:00:00.003+08:00

There comes a time where we tend to be too involved in our daily routines that we overlooked on the nitty gritties. It would be good if we could, once in a while, paused for a little while and look back, appreciate the moment and count our blessings.

I wouldn't say my life is a perfect one now, but at least I am contented with it, as I should be. I can honestly say that I have been blessed in life and been given a lot of love which I am more than grateful for. I'm glad for this chance to be grateful to those who form a part of my life.

Frankly speaking, while I realized I could feel envious over what others possess or achieve, I could at the same time be the envy of others. Having lived in where I am now, as compared to the rest of the world, just that alone, I'm thankful enough. Although I'm 'hit' with humid summer all year long, at least I do not have to bear with the fear of any natural disasters at all.

When I look around me, I see love from those who care. Friends come and goes, the worthwhile one stays. I'm glad for that. Through bad times, there are some who emerged true to the word 'friendship'. I take this chance to individually say thanks at this little corner of my personal blog, whether or not they know, or in time to come, it doesn't matter. It definitely feels good to know yet again now, I appreciate and I am contented with whatever I have and whoever I'm with. This post, could really be the best representation to what I feel towards the people I love, with bond so strong that I feel the need for the existence of this post. And there you go, the loves of my life.....

Mummy: As I affectionately call her, throughout my 26 years life (minus the first few years where I don't know how to mumble a single word YET), and I bet the first word I ever said would be 'Mama'. The strongest pillar of my life where no one could ever replace. She spent her childhood and teenage 'dreams' in poverty, yet giving away her youth to both her sons, which in turn affect her health at the later stage of her life. I can't help but feel an obligation to lighten her burden now as I'm all grown up. Let her enjoy a little of her life, yet restricting her to whatever she shouldn't. Her selfless effort in bringing her sons up will always be remembered and I ought to repay it through my filial piety now. I count my blessings that I have her by my side now and of course in time to come, and I'm thankful to her for being the best mother I can ever have.

Father: As a father figure, he needs to impose his stern and strict teachings. Although not very highly educated, he was the pillar in the entire family. We (the whole family) had a rather good life in our younger days where he, being the only sole breadwinner, was able to bring back more than just bread. He insisted my mother to be a full time homemaker, while he slogged his guts out. It was until my late teens that he started to dissolve his strict teachings, probably much due to the fact that both his sons has already grown up, allowing him to step down a little. By then, times became harder and life became simpler but nevertheless, we are just as happy a family. I am thankful to him for those painful canings that he gave throughout my younger days made me who I am today.

Brother: As the younger one, he grew up feeling much more loved. He's more lovable as compared to me. In comparison with analogy, he was the Ferrari while I'm just a Toyota. Being bright and clever, our roles switched at times where I would look up to him in the aspect of studies. I hold him proud of what he did and what he is capable of academically. We grew up being very close and I’m glad this tie has matured into a special kinship that we actually cared and loved each other in silence. Like they say, blood is thicker than water and the bond between us proved that strongest. I’m glad for a childhood companion, one who grew up with me relentlessly, through quarrels and plays up until now, one whom I will always look after, silently.

Girlfriend: 2nd woman in my life. My mum once told me, "your girlfriend is going to be your wife, whom in turn is going to replace me when I’m gone". Indeed, I feel the need for this special someone to fulfill this role and I found one whom I’ll never let go. She is the one who made me believe in love, once again. She is the one who made me feel a different type of love, one that I couldn’t find anywhere on anyone else but her. She is what I’m not, and in a way, she completes me. She loves me the way she does, all because she believes in telling me what I need to hear, and not telling me what I want to her. The way she love, reminds me of the relentless effort of my mother, where my shortcomings is purely a part of me and she has long accepted it. To me, I’m blessed. Blessed with someone whom I can trust and give me utmost to, for once, I am sure, my future is her.

Best Friend: My childhood playmate after my brother. I’m always puzzled how someone can claim that they have more than one best friend. Isn’t BEST a singular word? For me, this best friend brings out the best in me in a special way. We grew up together in a funniest way ever possible. I remember a simple quote that goes “a best friend shares good times and help you out by listening to you during bad times”. This person definitely made me feel that he’s there when practically those you need to be there isn’t. He tells me things I don’t want to tell myself. To me, he is like a sister that I never had, because I can practically poured anything to him. It would definitely be impossible for this special bond if not for all the things we loved – games, soccer, movies etc. This bond I have, is rare and precious for I know who will be there standing as my best man when I become the groom.

Xero4: Our friendship hails a long way through, so long, I can barely remember why the name ‘Xero4’. We shared countless woes and done the wackiest thing together. There was even a particular that times seem to fly because every weekend will be Xero4 week. We clubbed, chased movies like never before, played countless games of pool and PES etc. Common hobbies definitely keep bonds tied I must say. A Chinese saying goes ‘在家靠家人, 在外靠朋友’, there’s definitely nothing more than pure truth in that saying. We shared joy and woes we don’t normally share with our parents and definitely, we’ve grown from young boys to young adults and finally now, a grown up where our interests, hobbies and the things we did changes along as we grow as well, but one thing is for sure, the bond remains the same.

Mixed Rice: It’s funny how my closest of friends revolves around those from my Secondary School, probably, all I can say is, that school is where it impact my personal life the most. It’s a pity I missed the times where Mixed Rice was formed, but I’m glad it’s never too late to be a very part of them once again. I always thought just one close group of friends is good enough, but it’s not true until Mixed Rice came along. They were a whole lot of different fun. Comparably, I can say Xero4’s the Ferrari and Mixed Rice’s the Volkswagen Beetle. But within this group, there’s a huge variations of traits, from the fun-loving, to the crappy ones to the always sleeps around etc. I'm glad for this friendship going so strongly and expanding where the trust and bond we had with each other is tremendous.

This post couldn't be more timely as I've marked this post on my 26th Birthday where I shared some of my most inner feelings. Like I've shared, it’s not easy finding love, it’s even harder to maintain it. I’m glad for the kinship and friendships I have right now, and definitely it has been a very part of my 26 years. These important people add love to my life, and paint my life rainbow when it’s black and dull. I doubt I have the courage nor chance to say this personally to each and everyone of them, but whatever it is, these words from the bottom of my heart will and shall remains, something I held on so dearly now and I hope to bring them to my grave when I breathe my final breath.

With utmost love,
Your son, brother, soul-mate, friend.

Love Nest

2011-10-18T13:46:00.005+08:00

To be rather honest, I really find the entire system in Singapore screwed up in terms of home building as well as the way it manages young couples. The path from singlehood to forming a family is by no means easy in Singapore context. Singapore is the first and only country I’ve heard, where young couples (well, most of them) get a flat first before getting married. Imagine inking your signature on documents after documents informally. The thought and consideration before that, definitely has got to be serious and thoughtful.

I had never imagined myself in this situation, even though I’ve long surpassed the age I longed to see myself settling down. It was a tough decision back in February because afterall, both of us are relatively new in our relationship. To tell the truth, we’re kind of glad we didn’t manage to get the February BTO back in Segar Vale. Nevertheless, as time passed, both of us know and had some thing in common. We have each other in mind, we see each other as the one whom we want to spend our lives with. Quite frankly speaking, I didn’t expect myself to think and feel the way I do, because I used to be such a childish and playful person. Handling a relationship and failing one definitely make me face the real music. Relationship is more than just love to me. It’s commitment, trust and understanding, which would allow two to continue to grow and go hand in hand, side by side. And definitely I reckon time has come, for me to make this major decision and commitment.

Of course, being where we are, having just worked purely for a few years, being CPF rich is the way to go. Cash poor wouldn’t even get you a kennel over your head. Therefore, purchasing our first BTO, even if we can afford it, is really a huge commitment. Me and the girl has discussed this umpteen times before we derive into a conclusion. That goes to show it is by no means easy task in choosing our love nest. Application process is easy, yet the tough task came only after the queue number was released. The queue number was released in advance. Though we got a rather lousy number the first time round, the second time was slightly better. Slightly only. We fall within the 100% percentile but unfortunately, we’re nearing the 93% percentile. Which means we NEED people to drop out or reject before we even get our chance on our ideal flat.

Few things we take into consideration. As we always thought, the sun in the morning could be a concern, but that thought change when the location of both Meadows and Palmview revealed that LRT could be a disaster affecting our love nest. Definitely, that dampens our mood. We were demoralized by that queue number, fearing that we might have to face a situation of choosing a sun-facing unit or facing the music of the LRT. Of course, something common we had in our mind ensures that Meadows was our first option because of its flooring offerings – Timber Planking for bedrooms and Ceramic Tiles for living room. That’s definitely our favourite plus an ideal location, we rejoice at the fact that there’s this option yet fearing that our chance to even pick an ideal flat at that project might not even come. True enough, within weeks from the start of the selection, we could literally see the choices selected applicants has made were skewed towards Meadows.

As times passed us by, we started making back-up considerations on Palmview. Never mind the flooring because we had decided to do it on our own. By the time selections for Meadows seems dim, drop out rate gradually increase as well. Increasing our chance and making us really believe we might just have the chance to get our ideal flat. One by one, we started on the proximity consideration, following by the height above ground level. We eliminated all 2nd to 4th storey units because we believed those are for the Malays and of course, too noisy for human beings to comfortably live in. Next up, the distance away from LRT and expressway. The sound produced from Expressway wouldn’t be as noisy (irritating too) as those noise from the LRT. Nevertheless, we are trying our best to avoid those areas.

Now here’s the fun part. We constantly monitor the queue number for weeks, including the availability of the units. At the same time, girlfriend has been hardworking enough to strike off units after units based on what is reflected from the HDB website. Suddenly, HDB website became one of the most visited websites from us. Eventually, we started ranking the units based on our liking after taking into consideration the sun direction, distance away from expressway, LRT and carpark. Honestly, up until the day or even on that day itself, we can still changing our preferences. We had a hard time convincing and justifying on the reason why we chose one unit over the other, but definitely is fun. Can’t imagine something so important and serious can be so fun at the same time. I reckon it’s all part and parcel of it.

On the day itself, we finally arrived at the HDB Hub, for a very different and special reason. Constantly, our mobile’s on, with the HDB app constantly reflecting from the screen, while at the same time, we had our eyeballs on the queue call counter. The wait was long, even though it’s only a matter of minutes. Can you now feel the anxiety in us? Finally, our queue was called and off we went into this room (I reckon we will only step foot in this room once in our entire life) where staff sit side by side with partitions in between them. We settled down and was served by this guy who was patient with us throughout and definitely allowed us to understand better the entire process. And so, we opted for the inclusions and exclusions accordingly and signed on papers after papers. It brings a surreal feeling as though we were signing on marriage papers. I cannot believe what I’m doing at some mere moments.

Leaving the room was an assurance to me. An assurance to work for the future I want to build with the very girl who was in the room with me. I’m glad me and the girl already has a plan in mind and we are definitely working towards creating our future together with this milestone set, we’re set to walk hand in hand, side by side.

Westlife Gravity Tour

2011-10-17T16:41:00.006+08:00

I never believe in POP concerts, since the younger days where Mandarin Pop ruled Singapore briefly before this little city was invaded by international POP with the likes of Britney Spears who took the world by storm. Gradually, we saw the upcoming and rise to stardom of pop boybands such as N Sync, Backstreet Boys and Westlife. We saw how they captured the hearts of the crazy teenage girls and even the teenage boys went crazy and followed them through physical appearance such as hairdo.

I vaguely remembered being part of that craze by purchasing their albums, and memorizing every single song from their albums. No doubt, they were around our ears for a good one decade. And gradually, they silently left us. N Sync were totally gone by the time I passed my teen old days, Backstreet Boys made several appearance thereafter and only Westlife stood still yet silently. They were the ONLY pop band that is still alive since my teenage days and I reckon there is every reason why they still stood far and famous.

Hailed from Ireland, with their deep Irish culture and vocals, they have captured and retained the hearts of us and the Gen Y, and possibly attract new bloods from the Gen Z (I called it). A decade plus of music from Westlife definitely left a deep impression for me. A tip of my fingers and there I go, able to sing some of their really nice and famous songs such as My Love, I Lay My Love On You, Fool Again..etc…It even became some of the flurry love songs which has deep and meaningful lyrics that really makes love feel, really out of the world. And so, because of the mentioned, I’ve decided to watch this very concert, because they are possibly the only pop boyband I’ll ever like in my life.

Needless to say, they did not disappoint. Never mind the embarrassment we had after the girl cutely makes a mistake on the seat number. The wait was rather significant but definitely worth it. A small bet we made before the curtain was skewed towards the girl’s bet. And there we go, watching 4 ever so familiar guys waving at us and started singing. It felt as though I’m back to my younger days. No doubt, it definitely made me feel young.

Love the way they make me feel. Apart from their classics, they went on to sing some songs from their latest album ‘Gravity’ which I’m damn proud and glad I’ve heard umpteen times of that album, especially when they sang ‘Safe’ and ‘I Will Reach You’. That’s not all, when they did covers such as ‘S&M’ from Rihanna and even ‘The Time’ from Black Eyed Peas, which is simply cool stuff. Love their vocals as it still sounds as dynamic yet soothing at the same time.

Nice encore they have to end their concert on the beautifully set stage which has stars sparkling and different visuals all around. Not only that, I’ll never forget how engaging they tried to made their fans and I can greatly feel how much they appreciate us fans. Blame it on them, that I’m their followers on twitter on top of being a loyal fan. And I’m proud to say that I’m a Westlife fan and always be one for as long as they continue to sing…till then….

Gastronomia in Malacca

2011-10-12T17:12:00.003+08:00

I’ve heard so much about Malacca since I was young. I was probably a mere teen age when I first heard about Malacca being a small little state, rich in history and of course, its colonial existence. It wasn’t until the spread of the love for their food there that captures my interest for this little place. Known for its historical architecture, my mere impression of this place are little red buildings, standing just inches away from each other, making the entire town a red picturesque.

My chance to visit this much known yet unknown place came when I chanced upon a deal in Dealguru under yahoo. I must say, these promotion mechanics happening everywhere now is really beneficial to us, but unfortunately, hurting to the business, but frankly speaking, who cares. The girl termed me kiasu when I zoomed down to the travel agency on the day the promotion was reflected. Can’t really blame me because I have restricted dates, just as much as the promotion itself.

And so, there we went on a good getaway amidst/after our busy period. We definitely reckon a 4 hour coach ride wouldn’t do much ‘damage’ to us. Even my luggage was packed only at the very last minute. That goes to show how ‘prepared’ we were for this very light-hearted getaway. The coach ride was smooth, accompanied by my ever-so-important iPhone, with music blasting from Singapore to Malacca, straight!

When we arrive, the weather was killing. Less humid yet the sun was harsher to our skin. Our ill-preparation before the trip cause us to kind of lost our way, while wanting to look for that famous chicken rice ball. Thankfully, for a rare Chinese speaking local, we managed to drag our tired body under the killer sun to find that chicken rice ball store, finally! Queue was insanely mad when we got there, and by the time we joined the queue, the piercing heat got the girl so frustrating that she went metres just to buy an umbrella. It was a relatively long queue before we got to our turn and I went ‘finally’ over that chicken rice ball. We increased the number of balls from 10 balls to 15 balls (too hungry due to the queue). Their servings is pretty much standard. Either you get half a chicken or one full chicken, followed by chicken rice balls in the multiple of 5. In no matter of time, we are done with our food and we went on in search of yummy Gula Melaka or Chendol.

With an umbrella on hand, we take our time before deciding not to torture our legs and just settle for somewhere nearer. The Chendol was awesome yet heavenly. Strong sweet taste from the brown sugar, makes the Chendol even more appealing and delicious than ever. With our bodies feeling lethargic, we headed for some photo taking around this small little town before we took a much needed nap. The bed was comfy all because it was a double bed. (One can never understand how difficult it is to get a double bedding request because most operators/travel agents/hotelier alike will simply ignore your request. Therefore, just a tip for everyone, if you ever request a bedding request to a travel agent, chances is that your request will be ignore. Back in where I am, such requests are considered additional word and we simply lied over it. Therefore, should you even want to complain to the travel agent about your bedding request, forget it, because a sentence like “I’ve already told you it’s only upon request, subjected to availability” would have bring you down.)

With soccer action at night, we wasted no time in getting our dinner. Little did we knew that Jonker Street has stores closing as early as late afternoon, and we were very lucky to be able to patronize a store which sells noodles and really awesome desserts. By the time night falls, we can see hawkers laying their makeshift area, cordoned nicely beside the walking path along Jonker Streets. When the dark totally coincides, Jonker Street turns into a buzzling street with food as the main highlights. You can literlly see hawker displaying their culinary masterpiece ranging from Otah to Carrot Cake to even ice pops. Definitely, I sense a hinge on what is it like being a child back in my parent’s younger days where it’s very kampong.

To perfect our soccer watching action, we accompanied it with lots of food. We even had a taste of their Macdonald porridge and Fried Chicken which easily outwin that of Singapore’s KFC’s. We spread the food across the dinner, blasted the TV out loud and off we went, enjoying life like never before. It wasn’t until the first yawn from a full tummy that we realized we had watched two matches back to back. Thank god for Star Sports and ESPN in the hotel. One would and could never image how worse it can get watching local channel when you don’t even understand a single word they are saying due to the language.

Next day was pretty much spent eating and sleeping as we lazed our way until check out. To be honest, 1 night in Malacca is good enough, just for a short getaway away from the hustle and bustle of rubbish Singapore. I swear I’ve gained weight just from this trip alone. However, it’ll probably be some time later before I re-visit this little town again, but one thing’s for sure, Malaysia still has what Singapore no longer have. And because of that, I’m pretty sure short getaway will continue to be on my travel agenda. Till next time…..

R.I.P Steve Jobs

2011-10-06T12:14:00.001+08:00

"Death is very likely the best invention of life. All pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure, these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important." - Steve Jobs

Huge Dilemma

2011-10-05T14:07:00.003+08:00

I can't help, but simply feel that I'm really STUCK at the crossroads. It's no simple route by any means. On my left, it’s the tangible items that attracts (2 months of wages with 13th month bonus), on my right, it’s the prospect of career advancement with a better salary payout.

Being where I am now, I chose to blame my company for poor Human Resource management. The lack of review in its remuneration of existing colleagues, especially more so for subsidiary. It doesn't work on the basis where a subsidiary level colleagues should be treated differently in the very first place, not even to mention how biased they can be.

To put it simply, I'm underpaid, and that makes it very difficult to me to request or expect my salary to be on par with the market, alongside with my fellow graduates so to speak. To be honest, this stepping stone that I initially thought proved to be a huge mistake. I felt that the longer I stay, my value depreciates even further.

That has dealt me a great blow. Had I known it earlier, I would have left. But the prospect of learning what I need for future, kept my heart and soul. Unfortunately, my hopes of depending on that one person who can guide me and teach me, failed me thoroughly.

There I went, bent and set on leaving. It's back to the bad old days where job searching is definitely draining me mentally and eating up my precious time. But that's the only way to go, as I come to realize this harsh truth.

Job searching, going for interview etc are such a mental torture. It leaves you with too much an uncertainty to bear, which actually translate to various negative feelings. But having said that, the good thing is, my source of income is still intact.

Time wait for no one, especially for people like me. To take this chance, while I still have that drive, passion and strength in me, I ought to think for myself, to prevent myself for really wasting my own time because whatever I am doing now, is simply not productive and it doesn't gain me experience I require. It's definitely time to move on now...i reckon, for now, I'll still have to perform that mental torturing routine

10 Ways to Identify a Dross (Bad Boss)

2011-09-26T15:24:00.006+08:00

As per my previous post, some might be puzzled as to what does the word ‘Dross’ means? I can’t find a better word to use but the word ‘Dross’ which simply translates to ‘something regarded as worthless’. Indeed, I breathed in too much 怨气 that I seriously need to let it out. I’ve been ‘pounced on’, ‘thrown around’, ‘pushed over’ and rebuked at, umpteen times already altogether, without logical reasons.

Therefore, it explains the existence of this post and it pretty much sums up why those 怨气.

Number 1: You get a boss who doesn’t really look decent and plus the fact that there were indeed some abnormalities (it’s factual, not evil) on the facial features. One more sign is this person has no ring on its fourth finger and of course, a middle-aged tanned man.

Number 2: You have a boss who never once remembers whether the employee is on leave, MC or simply just AWOL. This would work perfect if I’m serving my NS but no, it is a disaster in this real working world. A boss doesn’t ask the employee where the absentee go, but a boss SHOULD inform all employees where the absentee goes. Come on, know what you should do and what you should not.

Number 3: You have a boss who keeps mum and so quiet during big meetings with his superior and many more superiors who is much more SUPERIOR than himself BUT once outside of that meeting room, he goes bling-blang-blung on his ideas and ranting to those poor employees.

Number 4: You get a boss who question the own service and product of the company yet doing nothing about it. Come on, you don’t say that imported apple is bad yet you still continue importing them. Worse, you questioned and laughed hysterically at those customers who actually bought those apples from us even though it’s bad. Oh man, where’s the boss seh?

Number 5: You have a boss who really looks like a boss when he first arrived, with all his boosting of his experiences, his visions for the company and his plans to execute the strategies but as time passed, his experiences, visions and plans deteriorates and vanishes like the person himself, where you can’t even see a shadow of the word ‘boss’. Probably, one might even misunderstand him as Veggie Seller in Wet Market.

Number 6: You get a boss who doesn’t engage the employees. He arrives to work without any greeting because his sulk face already says “Bad Morning’ instead of ‘Good Morning’; He goes for lunch ALONE without asking anyone (or probably no one wants to eat with him or worse, no one DARES to eat with him); He goes home as a ‘ghost’ because he does not even produce a single sound.

Number 7: You get a boss who SELECT things to do and it is only things that interest him ONLY. Those outside his ‘interest range’, of course, it will be handled forcefully by employees who were already headless about what is doing on. Best of all, if you are the lucky one selected, it’s not because you are capable but more so because you seem the ‘free-est’ to him. Period.

Number 8: You get a boss who doesn’t know the operations well enough YET still wants to manage them. It’s like you are in charge of displaying the fruits in the supermarket, yet you put those oranges in the apple crate and durian in the strawberry shelf. You do so because you don’t know strawberry is almost 10 times smaller than even the smallest ripe Durian that ever existed.

Number 9: You get a boss who sit like Johnny English in the movie ‘Johnny English Reborned’ which makes you and most others wonder were this person even born with a spinal cord with backbone or not.

Number 10: You have a boss who tell you one thing on Day 1 and ask you to do something else on Day 30, forgetting what he said on Day 1, and rejecting your work (work done based on his instruction from Day 30) on Day 40. But when you insist in telling him what he said on Day 1, he will INSIST in telling you he don’t remember what he said and worse, you took his words then on and one fine day, probably on Day 100, he’ll ask you why didn’t you follow his instruction as per Day 1.

Alright, that’s a DROSS for you people.

Boss or Dross?

2011-09-23T17:54:00.010+08:00

Being in the working world for near 9 years accumulatively, I won’t say I’m very experienced but definitely, I know what it is like working. Looking at the intern just sitting behind me at work, as he is, being just a 19 year old boy, it wasn’t hard to feel how far I’ve come. I was taken aback when he told me being an intern in UOB Travel was the first time he actually worked. But the shock was dismissed as soon as I realize the reason behind it – he grew with a golden spoon.

Counting off hand, I have worked in at least 8 different jobs, with differing environments, I can safely say, I’ve seen most, in the aspect of how a boss/superior can behave, should behave and have behaved. I’ve definitely seen the worst (until someone else told me of their shit story back at work) and too, the best to me as well. To me, bosses are there to assist, empower his or her employees and getting involved in literally everything that is being done under his or her care. That way, respect is garnered, trust is built and naturally, the team will work in its utmost effectiveness.

Based on my experience, I would love to share some of the worst bosses I’ve ever seen, where I could really pin point their common ‘rubbish’ and of course, some of the best I’ve worked with. Based on my definition of boss, the worst one is definitely way off course to that, especially the one I am working for and under right now. All I see from this one is nothing but ‘blow cow (吹牛)’. A boss needs to give proper direction and follow it, but instead, this boss did the former but twist the latter. What’s the point of getting someone to do what you want when you are even unsure of it. Secondly, I’ve not seen a boss who behaves so pathetically. This boss of mine does and only DOES things that interest him. It’s like ‘I choose work to do as and when I want, not work choose me as and when it wants’. Oh crap. Imagine there are 10 responsibilities falling under your job scope, but because you prefer 2 out of the 10, you simply push the other 8 conveniently to your employees, who indeed feel empowered but ‘headless’ without direction. From this, I’ve seen the irresponsible side of him which utterly disgusted me. To me, a good boss praise when a job or task is done well, and correct when an error or mistake is made. It’s worse if a boss just pin point your mistakes and not praise you for your work well done, but it’s even WORSE when a boss doesn’t even bother to correct you. He even spit it right out from his mouth that he DOESN'T see or read what we did or sent him because it simply means nothing to him. Oh great! I foresee myself deteriorating under him, definitely.

To me, working is not just working. It's learning, gaining experience and exposure so as to better contribute to the company to get job satisfaction in return as well as self-grooming, bringing up your own value so as to move on with a better career prospects. But that is totally impossible if you find yourself stuck in a rut under one useless boss who, whole day does nothing but trying his luck on his 'experiments' in hope of success and there I am, one of the guinea pigs.

But then again, I always put myself in perspectives. Like many said, 做的好就留，做不好就走. I rather have myself seeking better opportunities than stuck in that rut. But on the contrary, I have been really fortunate enough to have work under good Boss.

Back in my army days, there is this superior, as much as her rank is many tiers higher than mine, she doesn't make you feel like she's your boss. Instead, she makes you feel you have to appreciate her every intention and instruction, making you feel WANT TO work harder not only for her, but myself too.

Until now, I cannot forget her motherly care as a boss, the patience she rendered while guiding me effortlessly and not forgetting her willingness to acknowledge mistakes and let me learn in my own way and my own pace.

Perhaps, it could be because she's a female boss. But in any case, our harsh and fast working society needs good boss. Bosses who really leads, guides and motivates, not for the better of the staff but more so for themselves and the company. Afterall, a sense of belonging and bond is what keeps employees and employers alike going. No one is superior in fact than another, one should act as though we can't do without anyone at all, that way, probably, working can be a wonderful joy

Injury

2011-09-12T17:30:00.001+08:00

My knee's injured for more than a month now. I just wish I could recover as soon as possible so that I can really start to burn my fats away/off. I badly need to do so, if not, I can foresee one additional Buddha at home.

How now brown cow?!?!?

Happy 'Meng Kwek' Festival

2011-09-12T09:36:00.003+08:00

Happy Mid Autumn Festival to all my friends. The subject might struck a question mark on you. So allow me to let the cat out of the bag. I was shopping for Mooncakes with the girl one day and I have no idea why I said 'Meng Kwek' instead of mooncake and there you go, the girl keep on 'suaning' me, non stop of course (it's not as though she gets alot of chance to do so).

Nice enough, I went to re-structure my knowledge on this particular festival and found out various adaptation. But in any case, this festival isn’t just about Mooncakes and lanterns, but also the jade rabbit (which I came to understand its existence only recently). Till today, it wasn’t a festival that my family celebrated but rather we appreciated it. Since young (only when we are young), my dad would open the entrance door wide, so we would stayed up till slightly later and watch the moon.

Traditionally, MR also has the tradition of playing lanterns (or playing with fire by two arsonists) but as age and time gradually passed, this tradition no longer exist too. Last year was my first Mid Autumn Festival with the girl. I have no idea why, although we did not deliberately celebrate, my fond memories of those photo-taking along the river of Clarke Quay cast a great impression on me.

Perhaps, if Mid-Autumn Festival is a Public Holiday like what they had back in Taiwan, there will be more people appreciating this festival, gathering with loved ones, eating mooncakes, playing lantern and appreciating the beautiful full moon while remembering the story of Chang Er.

The Time Has Come

2011-09-06T15:19:00.002+08:00

Now that the busy period is gone, I’ve finally put myself back to the crossroads, one where I was 5 months ago. This busy period made me learnt a lot, at the same time, it make me realize the unfeeling nature of people as well. I don’t deny the steep learning curve was tough, but I’m glad I made it, with much hindrance and difficulties. The nature of the job was demanding, it’s not the work that is tough, but more often than not, it’s the dealing with people that is tough. And just when you are trying to get your work done, you get people who doesn’t put themselves in your shoes and going around barking and interfering, which gets really annoying at times. Nevertheless, being where I am, I’ve pretty much learnt all that is required of me, afterall, NATAS is the only big thing of my current job, other than that, it’s repetitive.

The fact that the Human Resource back in the headquarters overpromising has led to the disappointment of many. To be frank, those accolades and awards given to them, are a vast difference and opposite of what are they capable (or rather incapable) of doing. The way they work, the way the function, doesn’t seems to tally with their objective, which of course, led to high turnovers, as always. Perhaps if this aspect is better, I would have give this position another positive go, but time has come for me to realize that, the clock ticks even though you’re unhappy. I have to move on, for the sake of myself and future.

Being where I am now, doesn’t equip me with sufficient skills and knowledge, especially not when I have very limited exposure. Imagine this – I’m my own manager, I’m my own employee and I’m my own middleman. How to learn this way?!??! The only time you know you’re wrong is when someone spotted the mistakes. The only time you know you’re right is when no one complains about anything (which doesn’t necessary equates to you being correct at all as well). Given this limitation, and the vast potential of the outside world, I’ve come to terms with myself to move on from here. 3 years++ in this company is not short, I’m glad to have been able to partake two roles operationally – being at the counter as a sales consultant with great colleagues and being back at the backroom doing marketing with boring and difficult people. I’m glad to have known and work with two different groups of people. Afterall, in this real world, you get to see all sorts of people. I won’t consider UOB Travel a fantastic company, but the culture here is different being outside at the frontline versus being on the backroom at the support stand.

My stint here is definitely memorable and fun-filled, despite the turmoil I’ve faced in recent weeks as well as during the beginning of it. Nevertheless, I am thankful for all the chances I get to travel and see the world (which I doubt I’ll have the chance to do so ever again), travelling to so many countries which is definitely the envy of others. Of course, not forgetting the great job satisfaction that I’ve gotten and this job here definitely helped carve out my direction as to what I want to do from now. As mentioned to many before, UOB Travel is just a stepping stone to me, and probably, I feel that it’s high time I step out of here, learn more and expose myself to more opportunities elsewhere.

Girl's '18th' Birthday Celebration

2011-07-27T22:07:00.004+08:00

It was a plan not meant. The entire idea to celebrate the girl’s 25th birthday was a different one to the end result. Nevertheless, it’s definitely one of the most memorable moments I had in my life, so memorable, it sucked me back to my own 25th celebration with the girl. I felt as though it was my very own birthday. In fact, the entire planning and celebration was a risk – a risk that would not be as surprising as I expected it to be.

I started off merely with a facebook page and nothing more. Each time updating in little by little, yet expecting her to check back to the page every Monday as I’ll revealed more. The whole “Macau Fishball” was even a nastier hoax. She got tricked of course. Never did I expect myself to be SO tight-lipped this time round. Seriously, not even a hardware tool could pry over that tight lips of mine.

Image planning a celebration as early as 3 months prior, it sure is no easy feat. However, as I strongly believe, it really takes efforts to express and show, even deep down inside, we know how the other half is feeling. Afterall, actions speaks louder than words. The sweet bouquet kickstarted everything. The ordering of them is as easy as 1,2,3. The executing it is the difficult part. I had to fake a tummy upset in order to deliver a surprise. Trust me, the best way to surprise someone is to caught that person off guard and suddenly spring an unexpected surprise.

I’m rather impressed with my “Macau Fishball”. Throughout the entire next day, her mind must be hovering around those two words. All I did was to get her to follow me as I uncover more along the way. Brought her to brunch first to satisfy her liking for eggs. Where else but Epicurious to help me do the job. My simple phrase of “you’ve eaten before but you’ve not been here before” puzzled here. For a simple reason of Epicurious having two outlets, one of which we went before and she’s aware while the one I’m leading her to in the very first surprise of the day. There, I present to her the very first present. After several guesses, she failed. The trick is, remembering what she has said, even if it’s something she said 1 year ago, because you never know when it might come in handy. And for me, it came at the perfect moment. Trust me, that expression gave her away. She totally did not expect that present and there I thought, I DID IT.

After that, I continued getting her to followed me, eventually making our way to Sentosa. Blame it on 963 who gave this part a boohoo. But nevertheless, the weapon is still hidden. Pushing her aside at the sales counter, I produce a confirmation letter to obtain the complimentary tickets to Sentosa, just so she has entirely no idea what am I up to. Indeed, she remains easy to be tricked that day. We got off and I brought her to Amara Saunctuary Resort. She was told that we’re going there for Hi-Tea. Pretending to lost my way, I make my way to the reception and kept her waiting at bay. In actual fact, I was panicky sorting the confirmation letter and there I went producing it to the receptionist without her knowledge. Deep in my mind, I am still pondering how to present this surprise to her in the best way possible. Thankfully, it’s in my blood, that’s why she called me her Doraemon. As she closed in on me, she was mentioning having our future wedding here. I replied how would she know it’s a nice place to wed without knowing how nice the rooms. And there I went, presenting the card key to her. OMG! Her expression is priceless. She gave me the most shocking look I’ve ever seen from her before. Of course, smiles follow suit and I knew, she will be a happy girl today.

Throughout the rest of the day, we spent it lazing around Sentosa like tourists and make use of the facilities of the hotel. Unfortunately, my request for the staff to come up with a special décor of the room was discovered by her. Nevertheless, I’m sure it’s a pleasant discovery. My mission there and then is to make sure she thinks I have nothing else up my sleeves. Somehow, I think I achieved that.

We went Seafood Paradise for dinner and trust us, we found one of the best Chinese restaurant in Singapore. Their seafood soup impressed us most. Of course, not forgetting the freshness of the seafood, tastefully use of the ingredients and the sweetness of the desserts. It just aids me in making the day even better as the day goes on. Just like that, we indulge in the comfort of the luxurious room and caught our favourite shows.

DING DONG! Timecheck, it was 11.45pm. The cake I ordered arrives without her knowledge. Unfortunately, she somehow guessed it would happened. But, still a nice and sweet way to wish her a very happy birthday. Of course, just before the clock strikes 12, I sent her a sms. In the sms, I ordered her to use the last application (QR Reader) to decode the last photo in her mobile phone (I sent that photo to her without her knowledge) and in there lies a message to wish her a very happy birthday.

Of course, what a better way to wake up with breakfast for bed and I’m pretty sure it’s definitely one of the happiest day of my life and for her as well. Indeed, it’s not a easy task to plan and execute a celebration like that but I believe I need to because after that, the word birthday always comes with the word happy, and I know, I achieved that.

To you: Happy ‘18’th Birthday to you. May you continue to be as pretty, sweet and wonderful as you are now and be happy always.

The Rainbow After Nightmares

2011-06-21T21:37:00.001+08:00

Near two months into my job, I am indeed starting to get the hang of it, though the main bulk remains a short distance away. Being a marketer in UOB Travel, NATAS is seemed as a real test. Everyone in the company said, “You go through NATAS, you can handle everything”. As such, I can actually feel the pressure as NATAS starts drawing closer. Like each and every event I’ve known, the ‘behind the scene’ behind these events were never an easy job. It’s like a ‘台上十分钟, 台下十年工’ thing. You prepare months in advance, just waiting for that 3 days to be smooth sailing and over. Needless to say, the fruit of the seed is what I’m working towards, but the planting of the seed, growing of it through sweat and ‘blood’ is what I have to go through. Given the same ‘me’ few years ago, I would dread it happening. But the ‘me’ now is entirely different, I look forward to the stuff I get to learn, look forward to meeting more people along the course of this rough road.

I like what I’m exposed to and am actually happy to know what I’m in for. Never mind those possible sleepless nights, hectic days and what-nots. Doing what I’m doing now is never what I thought I will be doing when I’m young. Yet, this pursuance of this industry I called it, made me feel that the word ‘impossible’ is really never impossible. In where I am, I encounter lots of first times. My first time doing advertising, in print, online and even on radio. More interestingly, I’m even exposed to below the line advertising such as ATMs screens, SMS, mailers etc. Just take ATMs for example, it used to be just a plain machine where I draw my cash, something I wouldn’t want to visit so often (each time I visit, money is gone). But now, after learning what a ATM can actually do, from drawing cash, offering advertising at its most customized way, through the interactive screens we always see at the top of a ATM, I found myself in a amazed state. I was amazed to what marketing can do to people through even the most unexpected ways.

What’s a better learning tool than someone who is so experienced in the field itself. Meeting different people make me feel more absorbed in my work, allowing ideas to flow endlessly. I am not supposed to have my brain stuck in a jam, instead, given the environment, I am considered the soul of the department. I like how I am not restricted to a chair, a computer and a desk and off you work. I like how I can influence and be influenced by people in the most creative ways and learn through the craziest ideas I’ve ever encounter. I like how meetings can be so bombastic and insane that at the end of it, I turned inspired.

With NATAS just weeks ago, my role this time round is an entirely different side of the coin as compared to the previous ones. I left my shell of being the top sales person with a high job satisfaction to being a totally newbie in what I’m tasked for. This event means the world to me. It’s like my baby. Imagine you single-handedly plan for this event, with absolute no assistance. From booth design, to booth layout, to advertising, to co-ordination etc. I must say I look forward to my nightmares because I know after these nightmares lies a rainbow so colourful that I’ve been waiting for. =)

Club Med Phuket

2011-06-15T17:28:00.001+08:00

Blame it on Club Med Bali for not having a very wonderful first impression of Club Med Phuket. Oh well. Nonetheless, it didn’t fall short much from our expectation as we progressively realize this short getaway was a much needed one, much due to the fact that we know we had been and will be piled up with work. Let’s start off with my clever ‘strategy’ of making full use of Club Med NATAS offer of offering Adult 1-1 promotion. Bought the land package (without the air ticket) and book budget air tickets (with only one check in luggage) ourselves, in the end, it was a great deal. For your information (benefit of my readers), NATAS is having a 2nd Adults stay free again promotion this coming August, therefore, find out more from me if you’re interested.

My first time taking Air Asia. I must say I was actually looking forward to it because other than the shitty Tiger Airways, no other budget airline can be worse, as so I thought. Indeed, it exceeded my expectations. The procedures, the web check in, the stewardess, the menu, the seats, the food, the in flight shopping and last but not least, the experience. All in all, Air Asia became my favourite and most preferred budget airline in one instance of travel one way with them. Definitely a feat for them, and a budget airline that I would recommend it to all my friends.

But in any case, we hoped and prayed for good weather. It turned out God opposed us. DAMN!!! We were greeted silently. It was an unexpected type of reception we received as compared to back in Club Med Bali. It informed us that we had to lower our expectation for the days to come for sure. Imagine a bad weather topped with a cold reception, we thought it’s near over until the room arrives. Comfy bed with a rather nice room with lots of space. So much space, we turned the sofa bed into our ‘wardrobe/cupboard/hanger’. Its toilet, as compact as usual with their usual fragrant shampoo and body wash. We wasted no time in getting our stomachs filled and oh well, the food was rather disappointing, except for the nuggets. It turned out to be a further let down when we realize supper wasn’t available in the resort, and there’s only one restaurant serving all three meals unlike the two restaurants we dined back in Club Med Bali (alright, I know I shouldn’t compare). Rained continued mercilessly. We simply rest and relax in our cosy new ‘home’ before dining dinner and enjoyed their show. Of course, who could have missed the bar. With all inclusive as their main highlight, we spared nothing. It’s only a pity we could no longer drink as well as our hey-days.

Rain continued to greet us early in the morning. Even thought we REMEMEBERED to bring our sports shoes this time round (finally something worth mentioning in comparison with Club Med Bali when we forgotten to bring track shoes), the weather did not support us. Rubbish indeed. The entire day, the rain turned into showers and coming on and off. Nevertheless, we decided to make full use of our time and money – swimming and gym. This may sound common to most but trust me when I said it feels as though I lost 30 kg out of them. That will show you how ‘often’ I exercise.

What we looked forward most is the next day where we head out to play. Patong! Shit the rain of course. We managed to get ourselves a transfer (100 baht cheaper) and head to Patong. We departed earlier than agreed previously because the girl can’t wait to shop. Oh, you know, GIRLS! Jungceylon – she makes me feel that’s a shopping paradise. In the end, it’s the supermarket that we shopped the most. We almost squeezed burst my backpack and yet, we still had to carry three big bags of tidbits. What to do what you have a shopping queen as a girlfriend. I have resigned to my lovely fate long ago, which is why I’m loving it.
Let’s Relax Spa was next. Our nightmare arrived while we’re happy dining in Swensens happy. RAIN AGAIN! Trust me, I hate walking in the rain in flip flops. Imagine getting dirty, sandy, yucky water seeped into your flip flop, polluting that ‘supposed to smell nice’ foot. Oh my. That few minutes of walk felt like years to me. My cursing and swearing finally came to a stop upon reaching the spa. Inside, tranquility filled the atmosphere which kind of soothes my previous angst emotions. Trust me, the next time I hit Thailand again, I will visit Let’s Relax. Their treatments are so heavenly that it entirely re-energized me, except for the facial one which to me, is kind of a waste of money.

We had for some seafood. Walking down along Patong Beach invites recollections when we both were in the exact same route separately years back. Coincidentally, we went to the exact same shop we dined the last time we visited Phuket. We ordered like a total of 6 dishes. It was awesome, except for the dishes she ordered (=p), somehow. LOL. We continued to explore the route and it wasn’t long before we got boring and brought some supper back ‘home’ in our ‘mission’ to get fat!

It was snorkeling the next day. We managed to get our lazy bums out of the bed and signed up for the snorkeling lessons. I am very sorry for perhaps, spoiling my girl’s trip but I simply can’t stand having those rude and couth Chinese in the group. Each time they speak, I feel like slapping or punching them. Grrr!! Nonetheless, our first snorkeling trip together and it was fun. They brought us to Chalong Bay where we took a ferry out to a nearby island, probably 40 minutes away. We snorkeling for approximately 40 minutes and it was definitely not enough. However, the total experience of snorkeling with the girl was a very fun and memorable one.

By the time we headed back, it was noon and we finally played some sports, many sports of course and just in case you thought we’re very fit, no, you are wrong. We played Tennis, Basketball, Golf and Soccer. Each not lasting more than 15 minutes. LOL. Yes, our ‘mission’ is to get fat, so what do you expect. The entire experience was brought to an end just like that. Like they always say, time flies when you are enjoying, and I cannot help but agree with it totally. The night shows with the funny music and sounds like ‘Push! Push!’ and ‘In Phuket!! In Phuket!!’, that definitely got the girl laughing. Plus the cute little young ones from Mini Club, oh how we love this place actually, plus the nightly slacking and watching of Nat Geo, awesome. Now that we’re back to reality, we really dread because we really done nothing but enjoyed the entire Club Med Phuket totally. Till our next holiday…..

Guide to a Better Life

2011-05-31T14:07:00.003+08:00

Chanced upon this through an email sent to me. Found it rather meaningful with huge depth of truth.

Personality:
1. Don't compare your life to others'. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
2. Don't have negative thoughts of things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment
3. Don't over do; keep your limits
4. Don't take yourself so seriously; no one else does
5. Don't waste your precious energy on gossip
6. Dream more while you are awake
7. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need..
8. Forget issues of the past. Don't remind your partner of his/her mistakes of the past. That will ruin your present happiness.
9. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don't hate others.
10. Make peace with your past so it won't spoil the present
11. No one is in charge of your happiness except you
12. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn.
Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.
13. Smile and laugh more
14. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.

Community:
15. Call your family often
16. Each day give something good to others
17. Forgive everyone for everything
18. Spend time with people over the age of 70 & under the age of 6
19. Try to make at least three people smile each day
20. What other people think of you is none of your business
21. Your job will not take care of you when you are sick. Your family and friends will. Stay in touch.

Life:
23. Do the right things
24. However good or bad a situation is, it will change
25. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up
26. The best is yet to come
27. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful

You Don't Please Anyone

2011-05-30T17:31:00.000+08:00

As the title suggest, it applies especially more so in work context. However, generally in life, we got to acknowledge and if possible, embrace that fact. We got to really understand that not only we don’t please just about anyone and everyone, the fact is, we CAN’T. How many times in your life do you feel bad about not being able to do your best to please that someone you want to? How many times in your life do you feel you’re being sandwiched in between people and no one seems to understand? How many times in your life do you get misunderstood over things you did or did not? Countless I supposed.

The fact is we can’t please everyone. A simple analogy is that, no matter how nicely and wonderfully tasteful dish is cooked with high amount of good reviews, there bound to be someone who dislikes it. To each its own – how people have different preferences, perception, interpretation over so many things in life, be it major or minor. Frankly speaking, we live for our own, we fend ourselves and so we really got to open our eyes big enough to know and see what’s best for ourselves. I can confidently tell you when you’re out there slogging out guts off to earn that mere sum, ultimately, it’s your own rice bowl you have to look after. Don’t ever expect people to shield your rice bowl in times of desperation.

I stood to my belief of this particular quote I find it very meaningful – those who matter won’t mind, those who mind don’t matter. Those who really understand you won’t land you into such awkward situation. I’m blessed with which nice people whom do put themselves before me which makes me feel lucky, yet at the same time, I’m cursed with people who conveniently put their self interest before your kindest intentions, which is how I always remind myself not to commit the same mistake.

At work, it’s a war zone. It feels like ‘infernal affairs’ to me. You never know who your friend is and who your foe is. The reality comes about in times of desperation. The thing is, people tend to show their very true colors in tough and hard times. When the good times are there, everyone seems to be your friend, laughing and working happily with you. When the bad times arrives, that is when you see people pushing the blame here and there, shoving responsibility like never before where the ugly sides of people start appearing on themselves. However, having said that, it’s is naturally important we acknowledge that we can’t please just about everyone. If I were to take in all the unhappiness caused just by the fact that someone is not pleased with me, I’ll probably be burst into a whole new world of horrifying negativity. Sometimes, it’s not what we do that people are unhappy about, it’s what we do that cannot be perceived rightly to them. What may be a sweet round orange may be seen as a spiky and ugly durian. If simple words that were meant to be a joke can end a friendship abruptly, it tells and shows a lot about that friendship. If your work got criticized when it was awfully done and yet when the work was wonderfully done, you hear no praises at all, that tells you a lot about your boss.

What’s essentially more and most important to me is that taking things at my own stride which has definitely helped me in dealing with daily affairs. You lose some, you gain some. You learn through mistake and grow through achievements. As a special analogy goes, imagine your life as a theater with exclusive front row seats which offers the best view to the show. Nobody can possibly fit everyone in your life in that front row seats, you bound to make some happy, make some angry, make some jealous and make some sad. It’s all about whom you invite to the front row seats. Do you?

Getting Married: More Than It Seems

2011-05-27T16:52:00.000+08:00

Many might think of it as too soon, but come to really sit down and put your minds together and do your math, there’s actually isn’t much time anyway. An average couple spent approx 1-2 years saving for marriage, that’s provided if the both of them has been saving a decent amount monthly and not living a ‘there’s no rainy days’ kind of life. It’s only both me and the girl sat down and we had a chat that last several hours only then we realize getting married is not as easy and simple as its seems.

Living in where we are now, the increase living cost of Singapore with competition for almost everything all around, housing included, it has naturally been a culture for couples to get a flat together first before even getting married. Weird and no sense at all, but oh well, that’s the thing in Singapore. There is NO CHOICE, alright, perhaps the better and more appropriate word would be not much choice. Imagine the numbers of things involved simply in just getting married, not even to mention what’s going to come right after that which is marriage. To be frank, since young, I dream of getting married. From a naïve thinking of ‘I love you, you love me, let’s get married’ to how I start to see a clearer and more realistic picture of getting married isn’t just about love, it consist of a whole lot of components never heard or seen before, not forgetting the culture and tradition we Chinese have to stick to. And after that mere few hours chat, my mindset changed. Somehow, looking at those figures involved and the processes of it, it kind of harshly impacted me. I feel like everything is so troublesome and it’s so costly to get married, so much so that I’m not looking forward to it as much as before, not that I do not want to get married, it’s just that the figures and processes involved were overwhelming. Nevertheless, it remained my sweet little wish and dream of mine, to be married to the love of my life.

Imagine the efforts and numbers involved – getting a flat, proposal, buying proposal ring, choosing wedding bands, photo shoot, honeymoon, wedding dinner, ROM, trying your bridal suits and gowns etc. So much work involved. No wonder there’s a job known as wedding planner. But I reckon these are what make it memorable. I often heard, bickering and arguments are common among couples while they are preparing for their marriage, but that is in fact really part and parcel of life. Like what I’ve mentioned previously, the waiting time for a flat you called your own, there’s so much to do. Applying for a flat is in fact the very first thing the couple do together towards their marriage, even with uncertainty up ahead. But once again, that’s the way things works now in Singapore.

Money is the largest concern of them all. Wedding dinner alone can cost you approx $30 to $40k, of course, not including the red packets that you will be getting back. However, after doing our maths, we realize, the harshest killer turns out to be the HDB flat you applied few years back. Imagine getting a flat with nothing on or in it. Getting renovation done to your flat is like injecting drugs into your blood. It can kill you. No wonder interior design firms and revonators are coming out with special packages to ‘lure’ couples in and even banks are here to make your day ‘better or worse’ (you decide) by coming out with renovation loans. When banks come out with loans, it means it is generally beyond the capability of many to afford. Aircon costing $3k, bed costing $1k, flooring costing a five digit figure etc, the list goes on. It’s nothing but money. Government has been ‘pushing’ people to find love, get married and bear kids, but with such a high expense living, who would have dared.

Having said the above, I believed everything that has been put in place has its reason. To either lighten the burden of the couple, or to make it memorable for the couple. Many think of it as unnecessary. For example, I’ve heard of some people who bought proposal ring that are deliberately bought cheap because they think it’s only worn ONCE, what for do they need to get a proposal ring that can even be a downpayment for a brand new car. There’s even people who wants to do away with wedding dinners because that’s simply a whole lot of chores from food tasting to choose your guest list to rushing here and ensuring your guests are hosted well. But I personally believe it is an once in a lifetime event and either we make it worthwhile and memorable, going through the happiness, troubles, spending painstakingly earned money and the entire process or we don’t do it at all. For that, I definitely look forward to my dream come true…

Universal Studios Singapore, Finally...

2011-05-24T17:19:00.004+08:00

It was a rather last minute plan. Previously, there’s tons of reason why we didn’t visit Universal Studios Singapore – the closure of the highlight roller-coaster, the expensively deemed not value for money admission ticket etc. The good thing is, we got the tickets cheap. Real cheap, in fact, it was around half of the usual price. At $30, we happily look forward to this very day.

Unfortunately, the bad thing is the weather. Despite us praying for good weather one week before continuously for several days thereafter, our prayers went unheard. Drizzling rain welcomed the girl’s sleep. Even the girl was so excited that she woke up earlier than agreed to keep check of the weather. It turned out to be a rather disappointment for her.

Nevertheless, we went ahead, praying that this drizzling rain will not evolved into a huge thunderstorm with heavy rain. As if the humid weather caused by the rain under the sunny skies wasn’t turned off enough, we had to brave the hot weather getting wet. The bus, with a ‘R’ (goes straight to Resorts World Sentosa) took quite some time to arrive. Our day definitely did not start well, as much as we wanted it to.

Smooth-sailing as the day passed. Rain stopped, however, dark skies still looms. We ignore the uncertainty and off we go to have our breakfast (everyone needs to replenish before play isn’t it?). It’s only then I realized F&B in RWS is really expensive. I’m trying to compare a mere Toastbox in RWS against the one in neighborhood. Oh well, I should have guess just as much I supposed. By the time we entered into Universal Studios, it was raining again. By then, it’s too late to turn back. We just have to move on. The opening of Madagascar gave us ONE more reason to continue on. And so, we made that our first stop.

Crate Adventure. Our first ride of the day. 70 minutes wait, the first we encountered. Heard that it is the longest we have to queue therefore, it’s quite a relief that eventually it did not took us that long to enjoy our first ride. Nothing much on the first ride. Photo-taking was difficult because of the moving “crates” plus the lack of brightness. However, it did helped kickstart the entire playtime that day. Coincidentally, we chanced upon ZhiQin through Facebook and learnt that both him and Jia Jia is in USS too. We met them for a stunt show later in the day – Underwater World.

It’s quite lame how the ‘stuntman’ gets everything started – by pouring and shooting water through their water-tubes on those who is on the Blue Zone, harshly known as the WET zone. We sitting at the Green Zone, gently known as splash zone didn’t even get ourselves dripped throughout the entire show. Nevertheless, certain scenes of this show were quite an eye-opener to me. By then, the damn headache has already hit my head. Perhaps the ride before which is Revenge of the Mummy, worsened it. The throbbing of the head was heartlessly caused by the stupid weather prior to this anticipated outing. ANGRY! Speaking of Revenge of the Mummy, it’s probably one of our favorite. Imagine a roller-coaster in a dark, not knowing when it’s going to move forward or backward, up or down, with the addition of the visual and audio effect, it definitely add points to the satisfaction. Not forgetting the shortest queue for such exciting ride – a mere 5 minutes. Oh man, I only regret not sitting it twice.

We split way with the other lovebirds and went for our ultimate challenge after visiting the Lost World. We got turned off by the longest queue of 2 hours for the Rapids which WILL get ourselves drenched. We couldn’t figured out where was Cylon and off we went to Human (Battleship Galatica was divided into two, Human and Cylon). The 70 minute wait was not long, considering the amount of anxiety the girl was facing. When it is our turn, we were all ready, or at least, we APPEAR ready. Off her slippers and on our butts onto the seats, we were all ready to kill the ‘Cylons’. The uncertainty was what makes everything thrilling. The highest 14th floor drop at 80++ km/hr was totally breathtaking. It literally took away my soul for a moment. The entire ride, I reckon, lasted less than 5 minutes. I never failed to be thrilled by such rides.

Due to time constraints, we did not go on and try anymore ride. The queues there are definitely time killer. That’s not the main turning off point. What’s worse it I felt as though the whole India is in USS. I can literally see Indians everywhere I go, from rides to queue, from F&B outlets to toilets. Oh gosh, never mind, I shan’t continue before I turned even more racist. Instead, we turned to food. The girl had her large slice of pizza while I had my honey chicken wings. Not bad from a hungry yet ‘having headache’ person point of view, those food feels like medicine. Hollywood street, though simple, looks hell lot of fun. Photo snapping all around of building, with characters such as Joker, Betty Boop etc before we finally got ourselves into Light Camera Action! A show created by Steven Spielberg which spells out how visual and audio visual can turn a something so simple and tangible into an awesome masterpiece that we see on the screens.
Again, we met up with the other two lovebirds and off we went for dinner at Resorts World Sentosa, only to return for the fireworks back in USS again. Dinner @ Mulligans was a normal fare. Nothing much to be expected from the so called Irish cuisine. What’s next was more interesting. The fireworks somewhat differs from the usual ones I see elsewhere in MBS or RWS. A short few minutes of fireworks to conclude the night before we had our slow stroll back to the Carpark where ZhiQin parked the car.

I must say, weather did us proud ultimately, though not at the start and it was a day well spent. It’s been quite some time since we both last had such a wonderful full day date together (Singapore is BORING, so what do you expect). Would go back there again the next time to try the “Cylon” as well as the Rapids Adventure in The Lost World. Till then…

Touch with the Right Language

2011-05-23T17:19:00.002+08:00

The journey of love comes with its ups and downs. There are moments when a relationship can feel like it has reached its brink or plateau. It could be that you and your date are simply unaware of each other's primary love language - expressions which we interpret as love and which could fill our individual "love tank".

Physical Touch
One of the most tell-tale signs that two people have decided to take their relationship seriously is when he holds her band. Doting and caring for each other in a physical way sends loving impulses to our brains, it tells us: you are loved.

For example a guy named Winston, discovered his love language is Physical Touch when he got to know Angel. He grew up with a passion for dancing. When he met Angel at a Lindy Hop dance class, the two clicked right away.

Maybe this is because, like Winston, Angel shares the same love language. Angel, in her 20s, works in the legal service and has a hectic schedule, but there's nothing more she looks forward to than meeting Winston at the end of the work week. "At the end of a long hard work week, what I need most is someone's shoulder to lie on and chat the night away. When Winston gives me a good rub on my shoulders, it makes me feel loved."

In another example, Jeremy and Lynn have known each other since university days. They still remember the day their mutual relationship took a step further to the next orbit - Jeremy had complained to Lynn of a neck pain he was suffering from, having worked out too much in the gym. Lynn, instinctively reached out to him and gave his neck a gentle rub while looking into his eyes. Without saying a word, she had effectively communicated to him, "I Love You".

She says:" I guess I've grown fond of Jeremy over the years and wanted to go further than being just friends. It was something that came quite naturally because I care for him, and touching someone brings you closer together."

Show You Care
Daniel, in his 40s, knows that his girlfriend values the physical "touch and hugs". Whenever he returns from his fortnightly overseas trip, he makes it a point to give Julie a big bear hug, a loving touch on the nose and two big kisses on her cheeks.

"It has become almost a routine, we will always walk hand in hand across the carpark and when we get into the car, I will give her another kiss."

If your partner's love language is Physical Touch, don't say "hello" without a peck on the cheek and don't say "goodby" without a sweet goodnight kiss. Hold his or her hand more often, and give each other loving touches when least expected.

Death Tourism

2011-05-16T14:30:00.002+08:00

Being in Tourism Studies for years, though not a lot, I have how tourism comes in numerous form. You name it – Wine Tourism, Gourmet Tourism, Eco-Tourism, Space Tourism, Volunteerism, Music Tourism, Sex Tourism so on and so forth. But amazingly, I chanced upon a very unique form of tourism, but definitely not one that a person would want. We have heard of Medical Tourism, on how people travel all over the world to seek medical help, for example, a terminally ill patient travelling to the States to try and find a cure. But allow me to share a special form of tourism, ‘Death Tourism’.

This term may be new to many, but in actual fact, I’m sure some have heard of it before. Death Tourism in this case means a person travelling outside of his or her country to other country to seek suicide, assisted suicide. For example, I was reading the news on this particular guy who was a rugby player. Due to an accident, he was paralysed and it has caused tremendous suffering to himself as a result of it. He then flew from London (his home) to Zurich, Switzerland to get an organization there to perform Euthanasia (the practice of ending a life in a manner which relieves pain and suffering). He was 23 years old when he died.

Such practice is illegal in most countries, Singapore included. It’s of no wonder why it is illegal in most countries. Assisted suicide is a complicated issue in overseas. Euthanasia to me, should only be performed when it is under the will of the logical-minded person. It should only be decided by the person himself or herself. But in such incident, there are cases where one can’t speak due to certain imparity to his or her body. It’s a tricky process I feel. Yet I feel so much for those who had to make that decision.

I put myself in that shoes but I feel I wouldn’t even have the courage to think about it. Knowing you are going to die. How does that feel. Knowing your life is going to end. It doesn’t seem normal at all. Yet, I can terribly feel some victims are left with literally no choice at all. When pain conquers it all, perhaps it’s really time to say goodbye to the world. Perhaps when all hopes are gone, it’s time to end the suffering. No matter what, there is always a 50-50 perception on such. I personally feel it should be legal under very strict conditions because there bound to be people out there who requires it, but it would be going against human nature of 生老病死. As I type, I feel a terrible ache. Such decision is left with no return. What if that person decides to change his or her mind, all because he rather endure the pain and still see his or her loved ones?

Aside to that, I wonder what lethal poison did they use on those who decided to opt for assisted suicide. And for those who assisted the suicide, doesn’t that make them murderer somehow, indirectly? Oh, I feel a whirlpool of contradiction. Really, what is this world coming to?

Acts of Love Speak Louder than Words

2011-05-15T18:06:00.002+08:00

Previously, I had a post on the exploration of love languages between couples - Say It With Love, Make Time (http://embryonisk.blogspot.com/2011/05/say-it-with-love-make-time.html). Words may mean alot, but like they always say, action always speaks louder than words.

Thoughtful Gifts
The age-old habit of showering your date with gifts is not without its grain of truth - it's an expression of genuine affection.

Don't mistake this love language for materialism though. Those who feel loved through Thoughtful Gifts thrive on thoughfulness.

Whether it is walking down the entire stretch of Orchard Road to find specific gift your date desires, patiently joining a long queue at the food court for her favourite takeaway fried bee hoon, or going through the hassle of hopping from one outlet to the next to get that jersey he would die for - the process is seen more valuable than the gift itself. People always say it is the thought that counts and it is true. If you really love someone, giving is a joy no matter how much trouble is involved. In fact, you will smile when you think back on all these little anecdotes of what you've gone through to win his or her hear.

An expert says girls are usually shy. She expects the guy to take the initiative to show his love. At most, she will drop hints but may find it meaningless if she has to keep reminding the guy about it. You will be surprised to know that men want to have gifts too, and giving when it is least expected can have a magical effect.

A scenario of a guy named Daniel, he does not have luxury of time for gift exchange, especially on festive occasions. While everyone else celebrates, he can only wait for his day off to celebrate the occasion belatedly with his girlfriend. He says:"Although I don't say it, if my girlfriend gives me something out of the blue, it means the world to me."

Acts of Service
In a scenario which involved a lady named Rachel, she was hoping her boyfriend would help pack her belongings when she was moving, but he did not offer to help and she was sorely disappointed.

In another scenario, Sara was tasked to bring good to a BBQ party and her boyfriend drove her around to pick up the items before dropping her off at the venue, without getting out of the car to help her carry. She felt unloved.

Why did the girls feel hurt. The answer is simple: instead of lending a helping hand, the guys were 'sitting around' and this signalled to them that the guys didn't care enough to help.

Act of service if a love language that speaks dearly to us in the same way our mother and father would have shown their love for us.

He cooks porridge and soup for you when you fall sick;she washes your dirty landry, irons your clothes and polishes your shoes without realising it. These are acts of commitment.

If your partner identifies with this type of love language, you should let your actions do the talking. If you really love someone, doing things for him or her will not feel like a chore at all. Do it out of love and even the smallest actions will spell: I care.

True?

The Real Hard Truth

2011-05-11T17:12:00.006+08:00

Chanced upon a note/message at Nicole Seah Facebook page. The below mentioned note was unbiasedly written by a journalist in training. Awesome and I must say, it's a perfect piece of work, along with his photo work. Check the links for it:-
http://www.facebook.com/media/set/?set=a.10150176728402867.328152.524682866
http://www.facebook.com/media/set/?set=a.10150185813247867.331484.524682866

My dear friends,

During these 9 days of hustings, I have been asked many times: "Who are you covering this for?" At first, I was at a loss for words. On paper, I am officially representing the IHT. I have been asked by the nice folks from IHT to do a pre-election story on Tin Pei Ling in mid April. But that was the only General Elections assignment I had.

Hard truth #1: Singapore elections don't figure very much in the international news. Hard truth #2: Singapore Elections is important to Singaporeans (not foreigners!) So, all the rallies and walkabouts I have covered after the Tin story were not assigned. In other words, no one actually pays me to do this.

So why do I do this? As I left the house yesterday for the final WP rally, my mum asked me the same question. I told her, in little tongue-in-cheek manner: "So that your grandchildren and great grandchildren will know what happened today!"

The history that we record today is important for our children. The past that we define for them today, will define who they are in the future. The government has always said that the new generation is "soft". Why? Because we subscribe to a version of history that pats ourselves on the shoulders and say "we have made it". We are told that we should be grateful to a few important people, for getting us from a Third World fishing village to a First World cosmopolitan state. So much has been said about the leader(s), that the rest of our forefathers: the trishaw riders, the factory workers, the hawkers... basically the man-in-the-street, don't seem to matter any more. The opposition politicians of the past, worst of all, seem to deserve the proverbial gallows of history, and be condemned as negative elements upsetting us glorious past.

Such a record of history must stop. We cannot allow anyone to have a monopoly on truth. We cannot forget that Singapore was built on the sweat and toil of EVERY Singaporean son and daughter. Even Chee Soon Juan, whose past antics have cast much negativity on the opposition, deserves credit for showing the new opposition of today, what NOT to do.

In the course of recording this election, I strived in vain for "balance" - a tall order that was laid upon me when someone commented: "Why do you only have pictures of opposition?" So I started taking pictures of ordinary people, pictures of men in white, pictures of everything that helps me, a Singaporean son, make sense of what was happening around me. At first, I thought I should stick to the Marine Parade GRC, where I NOW live (although I never moved house). But as the elections unfolded, I realized that although the narrative had to be personal, I couldn't ignore the larger picture. I am, after all, a journalist by training.

Coming back to journalism, I felt a little hurt when a supporter made a snide remark about my colleagues and our craft. He said, quite audibly: "You see all these photographers, take so many pictures, but next day only use so few! All these are SPH people, only help the PAP!" I was within earshot, and I wanted to rebutt. But I held my tongue, because there is grain of truth in it. I was from the national newspapers for 5 years. Apart from space constraints, the newspapers are indeed servants to two masters: the advertisers, and more importantly, the government (aka PAP). I have had my fair share of frustrations having my best pictures canned, or cropped beyond recognition.

Which is why I am glad we have social media today.

Because we have Facebook today, we can finally look at the uncensored truth. We can finally know how many people really attended the opposition rallies, and what transpired during the rallies and walkabouts. We finally have unlimited space to play our pictures, and no blind editors to tell us this picture is "not fit to print".

Yes, it doesn't pay me a single cent - covering the GE 2011 this way. But somethings cannot be measure in dollars and cents. We need to understand this. The ruling party today wants us to believe that everything has a price tag - from becoming a minister, to your family nest, to the efficiency of public transport. We cannot buy this ideology. I don't want my children to grow up in a country that measures them for everything they do. I don't want my children to have someone tell them: "You are less of a Singaporean, because you don't pay enough income tax." I don't want my children to grow up in a environment of fear, in which voting against the ruling party carries all kinds of phantom threats and repercussions.

No, enough is enough. Today, the history we write for our children will become their future. Do the right thing. Read up, debate with you friends, look at the truth.

Vote wisely.

From:
A fellow Singaporean,
whose only gift to you are pictures that strive to tell the truth.

My Virgin Ad

2011-05-11T16:15:00.003+08:00

It’s amazing how doing things you like or love can make such a vast difference, even though if it’s tough or difficult. I’m comparing it against my previous job of course. Perhaps, the experience I had prior to what I’m doing now attribute to this as well. Job satisfaction arrives at a higher frequency. Typically, it’s not an easy job, to put it simply, no job out there is easy. But behind what I’m doing now, there lies a truth totally opposite of the appearance. A lot of people think marketing is such a cool job, some even say it’s glamorous. I see and understand why this is so. You get to attend functions, you get hosted, you get to meet people, you make decisions, you impress (that is if you had a job well done)..and the list goes on. Basically, the business is on you, largely on you to be specific. The mechanics of sales lies in the way you garner the necessary response, reaction and most importantly impression.

I must insist that money makes the business go round, without that, business could significantly drop. Marketing to me is rolling gold into a gold mountain. Few weeks into my job now, I wouldn’t say I’m good at it. In fact, I’m far from good. I still have much to learn (yea, like young Padawan). I thank myself for being at the very least, positive about things, followed by the support I get from a lot of people. It is still a very tough period – being all alone in the marketing department with no one to guide you, instruct you or even correct you. Literally, I’m left on a No Man’s Land. But I accepted this long and steep learning curve and I must say it has been serving me well so far. People I’ve met so far are very helpful, suppliers and colleagues alike. Most importantly, I could never do it without the support and encouragement by girl. I’m being put in a spot similar to hers few months back. Therefore, it’s much easier to self talk as well.

I’ve learnt two important things in what I’m doing now – being meticulous as well as being pro-active. Without these two essential traits, you wouldn't succeed as a marketer I realize. Creativity is one, but failing to take caution in what you do could literally bust up your own project, campaign or advertising so to speak. Being pro-active is part of being creative I realized and it take a lot for me to jump out of my previous job shadow. Frankly speaking, I’m underpaid. But I believe by compromising now, I’m taking a decisive step to step forth my future career path and plan.

Slowly and slowly, my interests and love in what I’m doing increase, along with the workload as well as stress. Come what may, I’ll take it one step at a time for nothing comes easy, it’s how you deal with it basically. Proudly, I would like to share the very first advertisement I did on Straits Times Classified, 11 May. It just feel different having your work to be seen by public. To some, it may mean peanuts, but to me, it means the world.

Wrath of Social Media?

2011-05-10T16:01:00.002+08:00

I remember how I succumb to the thought joining Facebook. I failed to recall who (more than one person I think) influence me to do so. The good (or bad) thing is, Facebook had made it difficult for you to find out when did you join them (either you dig your email for the verification email or you will have to scroll through ages to find that very first post in Facebook). I remembered how I find Facebook a nuisance, when everyone starts talking about it when it first ‘arrives’ into Singapore. I simply ignore the topic of ‘Facebook’ each time it was brought up amongst my friends. It pretty much got my turned off, especially when I don’t even know what it was. In my mind, simply, I thought “Facebook? Face + Book?! Who the hell thought of such weird website!?” Little did I know about the infamous and rich history behind it. Having said that, I wasn’t totally clueless about it, all thanks to Friendster back then. Friendster ‘was’ the competitor back then. Perhaps my perceived mind back then made me feel stupid to own two accounts, two social media accounts to be specific. There and then, it’s obvious Friendster is still the in thing. Proof here -> (http://www.rockyfu.com/blog/social-networking-singapore/).

I remembered before all the ‘Fs’ (Facebook, Friendster), a very popular social medium has already existed, popularly known as either blogger or blogspot, which then came livejournal etc. Those were seen a having a private or public diary to share your thoughts openly or privately. It connects you to unspecified people in that case. Somehow, it was a popular thing back then. Long gone were the days where you wrote your daily entry or secret love notes on that hard covered, scented book with handwriting nicer than those appearing on computer screens. I began blogging back in 2003. It was more like an input of daily happenings which even till now, I can be seen disgusted by and at my writing when I look back at past entries.

That’s not the point. We have seen how social media impact our life and as I’m writing, it has already impacted on us so much that it intrudes privacy. Remember how social media warn us of its dangers when virus starts appearing on the so call ‘walls’ of Friendster and one click will send malwares, spyware and whatever wares into your CPU, causing significant damages. As technology speed up, we saw the dangers still looming around, evolving day after day. From minor issues such as writing unprofessionally (usage of Singlish or broken English) to spamming to major issues such as invasion of personal privacy to fraud involving credit cards or money.

No one can deny how social media has caused us to disappoint our English teachers. From ‘ur’ to wassup’, from ‘tml’ to ‘luv’, I couldn’t go on any further. Who would know what the hell if ROFL? And can anyone tell me what ‘casa’ means? LOL. Oops. Perhaps that’s the language that made social media distinctive. Afterall, it makes the whole atmosphere casual and comfortable. It’s funny how we communicate as well. Connection between people was made easier than before. A click and you’ll be connected with friends you lost contact for decades. A click and you’ll find yourself some hot date (at least some thought to be so). Hidden behind this convenience are the dangers some would probably not know.

Stealing becomes easier than ever. If we can trace name, family history, home address, mobile number from anywhere and everywhere from the web, what makes you think stealing credit card details or important private passwords is going to be more difficult than any of those?

Also, if you think social media are fun, wait till you see how it was used against you. I personally was a victim based on my previous entry on being stalked. Imagine a scenario of your photo being taken without your knowledge and posted online, shared among hundreds or thousands other and you became the infamous person overnight. Heard of stories how new-born celebrities often get their history digged and literally ruin their stardom as soon as it rise. Be careful what you write on that net, be it political, religion, sexual preference etc. More often than not, we are not aware what others can find about us. Check this website (www.123people.com) which actually runs a conclusive search on the net of the possible person you might be searching for, if not for the privacy settings of the social media now, I probably would have hundreds of my photos appearing on that website.

Even though there exist the privacy barrier than stands in the way between us and whoever, we literally have no control on our data or personal information. Ever wondered how you received weird SMS or email from companies or advertisers you’ve never seen or contacted before? There you go, the wonders of sharing. Undisputedly, everything becomes very social over these social medium, which is if you allow it. We can friends hundreds or even thousands of friends. Strangers can become friends, friends can become good friends, and not surprisingly, good friends can become enemies. ‘Friending’ became dead simple and encouraged. It has become a thing of quantity over quality. I’ve seen people or friend’s profile that has 5 digit numbers of friends. Impressive. Back in my mind, I pondered ‘do you really have that many friends?’

Social Media consumed so much time per day from many people nowadays, even I’m a victim of it. As we people, young teens and adults especially, became frequent internet users, social media wasn’t spared, up till a point where it became part and parcel of our everyday lives (http://www.viralvideomy.com/?p=430). I remembered how I tell myself not to get addicted to it, fearing that I would treat that as the world to me, I fear so much so that I almost joined the Anti-Facebook campaign which forces Facebook users to quit Facebook due to its invasion of privacy, Let’s put in simply, social media has reach to a point of ‘The World is Watching You’. We’ve seen how a 12 year old girl known strangers over Friendster and had sex with each and every one of the guys she met at least once (http://www.straitstimes.com/BreakingNews/Singapore/Story/STIStory_625794.html). At such a young and tender age, social media are seen as a ‘knife’ to end their life earlier to many parents out there. To young Adults like me, it’s more of connecting myself with some of my closer friends and to kill time. Unfortunately, I had my unlucky share of being ‘abuse’ due to some unnecessary people around. Social media has been so popularly used by companies and advertisers to connect themselves to the world that it serve a good purpose for them.

I’m pretty sure when social media such as Facebook and Twitter started out, it’s never their intention to harm the community or society but instead to engage people around, making more friends. However, it works the same as Casino. When it serves as a beneficial purpose, there bound to be backfire and subsequence undesirable consequences. In my opinion, there’s no right or wrong way to express ourselves socially and associate such social media to our lives and work, but we ought to do it adequately, depending on our time and tolerance, privacy and most important, the image we want to project to whoever we want to. For better or for worse, though, we have to accept that we all exist in this new world of communications and most of us will have to learn this new language.

Say it with love, make time

2011-05-09T21:38:00.002+08:00

Got this article from Sunday Times. Find it rather meaningful as unknowingly, many couples like me fall into this 'crime' at times. Hope by sharing this, I can not only remind myself as well as my fellow readers.

Everyone has his or her type of love language that will trigger and satisfy the most deep-seated emotional needs - a love language that makes you feel loved in the most direct way.

Affirmative Words
You show her that you are proud of her when he or she gets promoted at work. When he goes on a new exercise regime to shed a few extra pounds, you shower him with daily encouragement through the phone, sms and email.

Love needs to be expressed. If your date needs affirmative words to feel loved, be generous with your compliments and encouragement. Affirm your relationship and love for each other frequently.

Even for the most reticent, getting started with encouraging words is simple. You can surprise your loved one or show your appreciation with a handwritten card, email or sms.

If your loved one needs you telling him or her "I love you", say it often and mean it with all your heart. To affirm your love, you have to be sincere - go beyond sweet talk and your date can tell the difference.

Example would be a case where the guy, Danny, in his 30s, was not so vocal with expressing his love, while his date Lynn in her 20s, wondered why Danny did not profess his love for her. Lynn, whose love language is Affirmative Words, needed her date to provide assurance as their relationship progressed. They were both simply not speaking the same language of love and had different ideas on what they thought the other needed. After they were aware of their own and each other's preferences, their relationship improved.

Quality Time
Quality time does not mean you and your partner need to stick together all day.

Example would be Jacob and Emma only have weekends together due to hectic working hours, but each time they meet, they have so much fun experimenting with a new recipe in her kitchen. It doesn't bother them if the meal turns out to be a 'disaster'. They simply love how much fun they are getting, laughing over the experiment and doing something new each time they are together.

Another example would be Carl and Kathy, quality time is that precious hour at the end of the day when she calls him for a bedtime chat. They are too busy with work to meet up, but hearing each other's voice and knowing the other is someone they could always turn to, makes them feel loved.

If your date needs to have quality time to feel loved, think of new experiences and new places to explore together. Five you undivided attention to each other; be there for her when she needs you and let her know she can always count on you.

An expert says "A relationship is about providing what other person wants and not providing what you think they need, so once the couple understands that, they are able to get past their differences and come to a compromise to match each other's expectations.

True?

Beware the Mighty Stalker

2011-05-06T11:50:00.002+08:00

Perhaps some of you might have already learnt how I was pestered by someone one year plus ago. Not that I leave it until now to talk about it, instead, this entire ‘nightmare’ I called it has been ‘dragged’ for over one year. Throughout the entire period, I’ve been put up with weird unnecessary reactions and questions, thrown to me by many people, especially my colleagues. Never in my life would I expect myself to be involved in and with such person.

My impression of this person, a MALE (just in case you wonder), wasn’t good. Subsequently, we turned out to be rather good colleagues. However, things changed. Trust me it’s damn true when your teachers or your parents impart this saying to you “Never Judge a Book by Its Cover”. He turned out to be a rather desperate person in disguise. He has a huge and emotional history behind him, but I will just leave that out.

The turning point began when I got attached one year plus ago. My absence from work (Long long leave) kind of made him feel weird I reckon. He began throwing weird messages to me, splurging accusations from his mouth freely. I did not know what gotten into him. There and then, he was still a colleague and friend to me. We tried to talk but I find it hard to communicate with him. He became sensitive. On social networking media, he turned stalker. He kept track of my whereabouts. On the outside, he appeared a very normal person, however, on the inside, he seems like a rather desperate attention seeker.

Because of that, I removed him off my social network. Somehow, it worked and everything subsides. Just when things seems to be normal (no longer does he invades my private life and during work, we were normal colleagues), he returned as a weirdo. Knowing how I perceive him already, he shamelessly asked me to add him back before he childishly removes me himself thereafter. It’s sort of a relief for me because no longer will he be able to know my whereabouts and stalk me like some psychopath.

His persistence every now and then had let to me feeling disgusted and irritated. He will do things and ask things that my parents or girlfriend doesn’t even do. That’s what makes everything creepy. Imagine this, I off my mobile phone at the airport for my tour leading trip and by the time I on my mobile phone at Seoul airport, the message I received was from him, asking why I did not inform him that I’ve reached Seoul safely. For goodness sake, I didn’t even inform my parents LAH!

By then, I’ve already shared my creepy yet funny experience with my friends. They gave me their piece of opinion, saying that I might have thought a little bit too much. It wasn’t until I mentioned to them certain stuff that made they changed their mindset yet again. Now imagine this, if you treat someone as friend, or perhaps say very good friend, would you buy him disposable underwear before his trip? Would you tell him you want to give me a supplementary credit card? Would you start being touchy all over him? Seriously, if your answer to any of those questions is a firm yes, please let me know.

His dark side I called it, is unknown to many working around us. Initially, I’m afraid that it’ll cause inconvenience to me, but eventually, that wasn’t too much a concern. My conscience is as clear as water. For someone who talks behind people back, I won’t entertain. He may come and tell me bad things about others, but aren’t he that stupid not to know that who knows one day, he might do the same to me? But anyway, he did do that to me. I proved a point to many. His side of story cast many doubts among other, which was eventually cleared. Like I said, you can never distinguish a fire with a piece of paper. What you do shows a lot about yourself. Eventually, it was what he did that tells the truth, I don’t even have to do anything.

It got to a point where I’ve warned him with the thought of reporting him to the police. I’ve called Telco Company to block the number even, unfortunately, a police report is required. Finally, I realized he’s afraid of two things – ignorance and police. Now that he has stopped his nonsense with me, my other colleagues became his prey. We all finally came to know what kind of person he is, how he can twist the words you said, how he can put words into your mouth etc.

To date, he still goes around telling everyone how much he dotes of me (puke), how he treats me as brother for one moment, then son for another moment, then suddenly becomes best friend. But working with him then turned into a mild chore because I’m disgusted with what I had to face. He stills pretend as though he's a very good friend of mine, but frankly speaking, he's merely a colleague, nothing more than that. Come what may, my next step is clearly to report to the authorities should he breach the line once again. And hopefully, this post shall and can serve as a piece of my unwanted life should anything happen to me, even.

My 'Virgin' Vote

2011-05-02T12:04:00.002+08:00

As much as possible, I tried to write this in an unbiased way, that is you believe me of course. I had to document this post down, to remind myself the decision I could possibly make come this Saturday and do a comparison 5 years later if people's lives had really improve, been good or the other way round, worsen.

I grew up knowing nuts about the political scene in Singapore. Frankly speaking, I did not even know about the existence of opposition. I must say and give thumbs up to the well-crafted propaganda planned by PAP. Now imagine this, you have your brother going to PCF (PAP Community Foundation) in your early 'milk drinking years', you get to see one PAP branch in every neighborhood whenever you step out of your house or you go visiting in other neighborhood, you grew up watching news of grassroots leaders and ministers who are all from PAP, you get walkovers every elections from a tender young age until to an age when you actually know how to spell the word 'Opposition' and knowing what it means. All these can be properly concised into one word as mentioned earlier: Propaganda.

It was job well done for them (PAP). I mean, I truly mean it, all because as an growing up child, along with my brother, we had no worries i our daily lives or anything against that. My living expenses were literally provided by the sole breadwinner of my household, my dad. He brought some bread and butter just to ensure we did not had anything to worry. Of course, a worry-free life is assumingly good. Imagine this yet again, just before each start to a brand new year, you get new school shoes, you get new textbooks (but poor brother of mine had to take 2nd hand textbook), you get new uniforms. During Chinese New Year, you get new clothings to flaunt to your cousins, alongside with red packets (to really show the economy is doing real well, even though it's only a mere $2 in it). On birthdays, special occasions, you get nice presents and nice yummy food which of course can easily make a pure and innocent child then contented. Christmas seasons, you get presents once again, making you feel as though your living world is the literal Santa Claus. Not forgetting the 'rewarding' of school holidays after each exams or terms to make you feel that life is not that tough afterall.

It wasn't until 1999 that I feel that crunch. Secondary studies was a continuing propaganda. Everything that I had mentioned earlier still exist. The only difficulty is reality is starting to show. Recession arrived twice in a span of 3-4 years, both in 1999 and 2001-2003. My dad had difficulty supporting the entire family back then. He had to change jobs after jobs in order to survive. Now picture this scenario. You get your dad having sleepless nights for months (and i don't mean just one or two months, living off savings with uncertainty. You start to see dishes appearing on dinner table becoming simpler and greener. You don't get to go out during weekend, visiting nice places for dinner. Your dad stopped buying what you asked for. Trust me when I said, a 45-year old, with hardly any qualifications is definitely not something alot of companies would want to hire. With that, my dad managed to tied the whole family through the crisis and trust me when I say, my dad ALONE did it, without the help of anybody (PAP included). That is probably the main and most important why your parents keep insisting you study well.

Still, I did not attribute this crisis and overcoming of it to anything or anybody specifically. It was until when I turned completed my studies, that I realized life out there wasn't that colorful like a rainbow after all. I started filling up my own rice bowl. I had my taste on working life. I started to feel the pinch whenever I took public transport and topping up my farecard as though it's on 50% discount each time I do. I started to feel that money was hard earned, yet easily spent. All because prices are all higher than the past. Of course, I don't mean it's not supposed to be like that, but the increase are actually quite hard to handle at times, especially, to new entrants to the society like me.

As life continues, I fought my way through. National Service made it all worse for me. That mere sum are not even sufficient to tide me through. Throughout my National Service, it was a complete waste of time. Do I feel like a MAN after I enter as a boy? HELL NO. Not because I had purposely made life simpler for myself, but because I had to do it. Deaths were caused prior to my entry to National Service and it in turn made all the boys feel so much protected that officers alike would not dare to instill strict punishments or training on you.That year I entered National Service, Bukit Panjang saw its very first opposition. Back then, I wasn't able to vote. It was only then that I realized what the society are thinking.

In between the years, more incidents happening with more hands pointing towards the ruling party, citing unjustifiable non-transparency, unjustifiable increase of living costs and unjustifiable defense. The Generation Y has now grown to be Adults and we know what we and our parents went through. It's not to no avail that our parents insistence to keep us educated as it proved useful. We get to see what the past generations couldn't. We do and dare to do things the past generations dared not. We see things in a different perspective because we are willing to step out of that comfort zone, with the influence of the very much timely technology - internet. We see the reason why propaganda was so widely used and that could possibly be used as a bribery to Gen Y to believe come 2011, we will know whose side to stand for.

Like I said again, it's the first time I get to vote, therefore, I dare not choose to ignore it. I attended rallies, think through my options and observe the 'patterns'. All parties alike, they will come up with so many 'patterns' to confuse you, to influence you. On our part, we had to really see whose 'patterns' are more justifiable.

We've seen how the ruling party has grew over the years when it all started out as opposition party. Yet it had since decided to keep it that way, leaving alot of others with no choice but to listen and follow. How many of us complain each time we were unhappy with some of the policies came up yet lived with it eventually? To them (PAP), complaints are peanuts. We will eventually live with it because back in the Parliaments, those ministers (some even dozing off) have no say. The one who gets to say are the rulers of the Party. Opposition stood small amongst the white clothing. To be frank, we need alternate voice to logically handle and provide alternatives to policies. It has nothing to being against the ruling party, instead, it's all for the well being of the future of us as well as our children.

This is the first time the seats are so fiercely contested, and it literally brought hope to everyone. Frankly speaking, if there's even anyone who's comfortable with the current 'One Party Parliament', do you think they would be so happy when they found out opposition is coming?? I think besides looking at that the current party has done for your constituency for the last 5 years, we should also look at the policies introduced for that same duration and ask ourselves if we had been living way better off or can there be any improvements to those policies introduced. It's probably high time we as Gen Y start making a difference, providing a frontal approach with the older ones as our support. Now think through it all and cast your holy votes wisely.

Transition

2011-04-18T13:57:00.002+08:00

It was a transition that was sudden, even though it was something brought up long before, therefore, it served as a little shocking to me actually.

It was a golden opportunity yet at a very bad timing I would say. Entering into a deparment with no one else left - Disaster. My interview didn't go smoothly, but I guess just as much, being inexperience in that field. However, chance granted, I guess I'll bite on to the rope and hang in there. Afterall, it's definitely a good learning experience for me, especially with such a steep learning curve.

It put in me a position similar to the girl. I imposed on myself what I've been trying to ring in her months back, and thankfully, I'm positive and raring to go. I do feel being shortchanged in remuneration aspects, but I strongly believe experience is money. While I'm still young, it's naturally important to prioritise what's more important and look long term.

I trust what I did will put me in the best light in time to come, though the going will be tough at the start. What drives me is the assurance people gave me, motivating and further assuring me that this is and should be the right choice to make. For that, I'm more and determined to prove myself and those who doubted me wrong.

It's a matter of time and pressure is definitely mounting. It's funny how I'm a near master of what I'm doing yet entering into another field, I'm pure noob. In any case, I am all prepared to face the difficulties and challenges and come what may, I'm positive. Like many said, 船到桥头自然直.

Viva-Sydney

2011-04-11T23:38:00.005+08:00

It was a long awaited trip. I had to 'earn' for this so called half leisure/half business trip. I had to get myself recognize as an Aussie Specialist (a learning manual of 19 modules to get myself claimed as Aussie Specialist, including planning an itinerary from scratch). The completion of this entire modules are by means no easy feat, which makes this trip extra satisfying and meaningful.

It's hard to come by such opportunities, therefore, it explains the envy of many. I'm happy and glad to be given this chance, especially when the Familiarization was nearly fully paid for. Three of us, Ray, Gary and me went for this trip, which consist of a pre-tour as well as the actual event trade show where I get to meet tour operators and suppliers from all over Australia.

To kickstart things off, it's my first time taking Qantas and the flight delay definitely did not helped. It delayed our entire self drive itinerary but nevertheless, it did not dampen our mood. Onward we proceed to Sydney centre for a very brief tour about by one of the supplier. Nice lady I would say, who brought us to eat what she presume the best Vietnamese food in Sydney.

It's not long before we embark on a few hours drive to Salamander Bay, Port Stephens. We went to the Australian Reptile Park before that to expose ourselves to the Tasmanian Devils, Wombats, Kangeroos, Koalas, Pythons and so much more reptile. Eye opening indeed especially the Wombats because they all look so cute!

Oaks Pacific Blue resort was cosy and it definitely helped in our much needed sleep. We had a good hold of drinks before we turned in. Chivas was indeed a good sleep inducer.

It was para-sailing the next day, nothing new to me as I've done it before back in Thailand few years back, except for the crystal clear waters, clear blue skies and serene blissful that makes me feel really zen. We are even able to sight dolphins while on the Dolphin watching cruise. My first time 'chasing' dolphins in such a manner but definitely unforgettable. Not forgetting to mention the locals are especially nice, making me feel disgusted with some of the people we had back at home in Singapore. Of course, I'm talking about their comparable Top Notch service in comparison with those I've seen in Japan, what's the next best is of course their abundance of yummy food all around. You name it, Oysters, Prawns, Beer, Seafood, Beef etc...I had a hard time spelling hungry over there. Food aside, I got to bear myself with a bunch of DAMN Chinese while doing my 4WD over at the sand dunes with sand surfing. My virgin try on it and not something very interesting, much thanks to those Chinese. DAMN!

It pretty much concludes the entire Port Stephens that we had before we proceed to the much acclaimed Hunter Valley for nothing but its vineyards and wineries. Indeed, the air is fresher here and it's no wonder why this place is perfect for those yummy grapes. Too bad, harvesting period was over. Nevertheless, we had the luck to be hosted to a wholesome lunch. Fish and Chips in huge portions and ice cream for me to indulge. Please tell me, what else can I ask for more?!?!

It's pretty boring in Hunter Valley if you are not a wine person. But Hunter Valley Gardens is definitely a place for you to kill your time. Beautiful gardens with lots of pretty flowers and plants. A heaven for the girls I would say.

Wine is not the only 'treasure' you'll find in Hunter Valley. The GM from Hunter Valley Resort brought us a whole new experience of beer tasting and it's aspiring to see what his vision is for his resort. It's pretty interesting and definitely a good 'starter' for a well self hosted fine dining by him. Had a great meal feeling 'atas'.

It was a disappointing morning the next day as we sacrifice hours of sleep just to take my first step on a hot air balloon. In the end, it was cancelled due to strong wind, so strong a disappointment that I can still feel it now. =( The next long near 5 hours of drive definitely did not help make my mood better. What's worse it by the time we reach Blue Mountains, it was so foggy that visibility became limited.

The 3 rides we tried to take in Scenic World proved to be a waste of time as we couldn't even see anything at all, not to mention the 'three sisters'. Fairmont, the resort we put up that time though, was an awesome resort to make up for whatever we lose/missed during the day.

Time flies when you are enjoying and it's driving back to the city. But before that, we en-route to Sydney Fish Market for some really fresh seafood. You literally see nothing but really fresh seafood around. We got our hands busy picking on the freshest and set our tummy ready for the feast thereafter. Did bridgeclimb of the Sydney Habour Bridge and the view it has to offered at the summit was definitely something I wouldn't exchange for, even with money.

I had this give special praise to the hotel we put up with, thanks to Tourism Australia. The Observatory Hotel, a 5 star property, literally had anything a guest need, and even a turn down service for all guest. This hotel makes me feel like king and it's the experience that one would definitely pay for.

The event officially started the next day and it was busy whole day from morning till evening, with hosted dinner and events thereafter. I must say it's all so tiring but I had fun, really lots and lots of fun.

This trip earned me an experience I wouldn't forget, meeting wonderful people, learning awesome stuff, seeing breathtaking scenery and tasting marvelous food. I will come to Australia again and this time, I'll hit the romantic Melbourne and fun-filled Gold Coast. Wait for me!!!

A Quarter of 2011

2011-04-07T22:08:00.004+08:00

Been awhile since I last blogged, with my last post back in Feb. 3 months gone in a jiffy and I was just back from Sydney few days back with a surprisingly loved welcome from the girl. As usual, she was there, tweeting about her welcoming back of me at the airport.

I was greeted by messages by both friends and colleagues the moment I touched down. One of which, was something I've been waiting. I've spoken to a few before. Sometimes in life, god plays prank on you. Sad to say, nothing in life is ever-smooth. As I was saying, it's all about things happening at the right time for the right reasons.

A particularly important year for me as I embarked on a transition with lots of uncertainty. I was often put in a dilemma, which doesn't help at all. I've been waiting for opportunity to come knocking till I realised it wasn't easy. Luck plays a huge part. Now that the chance is here, it's time I grab it and make the fullest of it. I seriously hope I never have to deal with what I dread the most...

Bonus was 'FATTER' this year as compared to the last. Same goes for increment. BUT, as usual, there's always discrepancies in their HR process, which delayed my deserving amount. Which a huge chunk of it, I'm going to dump it into savings. Yes, there seem so much to pay for in future. Frankly speaking, it's scary. 有钱不是万能，但没钱可是万万不能.

But nothing is definitely scarier than someone. This someone has a bad history with me, dated back for at least one year. Those who knew probably know who I'm talking about. Seriously, I can't imagine how dumbass and desperate someone can be. This person definitely looks gay to me yet he reminds me of Michael Jackson. Imagine getting 'touched' by a guy. Even my colleague says he would give him an uppercut if he touches him. NICE! It's not as if I've not been in such situation before but if any persistence further, he will have an additional letter at his mailbox.

Contradictory, the girl said he might have arrange for this Sydney trip with a ulterior motive. Whatever it is, something I seem to gain much from it seemingly. 9 days at Sydney makes me feel spoilt. From hosted lunches and dinners to night time party and walk about, of course, not forgetting the carefree driving around. Definitely, I'll go back there again. Photo post of VivaSydney up next!

Boredom Kills?

2011-03-12T11:22:00.002+08:00

Do you always feel bored? Can boredom kill you? Or can you kill boredom instead?

I personally dread boredom, but I feel it's inevitable it happens at any point of our life. Does lonesome equate to boredom? Sometimes, we associate the involvement of a certain lifestyle altering periods where one is suddenly left to get accustomed to a completely new way of lifestyle, be it temporary or permenant. However, turning the table around, we could replace those missing 'links' with something else.

Ask yourself, what do you do when you are bored? Some will just dread and whine and dwell hardly on the fact that boredom is killing them. Whereas some will simply just let it occupy the time as the clock ticks away. Some will then choose to occupy themselves with something else to kill boredom away. Which do you belong to?

Boredom is a form of mental fatigue which is unlike physical fatigue, and boredom can actually drive some people to depression.

Boredom and lack of activity in a person's life can lead to depression. Thus, being bored and depressed are closely linked and if one is not careful, one can slip into depression without realizing it. Therefore, it is important for to learn to cope with such sudden or drastic changes in lifestyle by keeping oneself occupied as much as possible.

Boredom is a state of mind. stimulating your mind in this case will ensure all boredom disappears and make good use of all the energy that is lying unutilized within the human body. Thus, as long as one is occupied both physically and mentally, there would be little scope for boredom.

It's not how it deal with you...it's how you deal with it...

What's Real Courage?

2011-03-06T14:25:00.003+08:00

I don't really have an explanation or definition of what real courage is. But while watching '127 Hours', a movie that potrays how a mountaineer overcomes nearly the impossible to free himself, and eventually getting himself rescued, the two words 'real courage' was all that was on my mind.

It's dubbed a story of Man Vs Nature, yet the pieces behind that left a real impossible mission. Determination overcomes desperation. Strong willed mind replaces negativity. How a man who nearly faced death turned into a high prolific speaker who earns general a 5-digit sum per session of speech. Impressive mind I would say who even continued his mountain climbing adventure even till today.

Someone once said, "A human being should be able to change a diaper, plan an invasion, butcher a hog, conn a ship, design a building, write a sonnet, balance accounts, build a wall, set a bone, comfort the dying, take orders, give orders, cooperate, act alone, solve equations, analyze a new problem, pitch manure, program a computer, cook a tasty meal, fight efficiently, die gallantly."

But I supposed when it comes to facing the nature, none of the above paragraph would works, yet it is the versatility of being able to do the above mentioned while gaining much known knowledge that can keep this man alive. No denying how knowing more can eventually raise the chances of living when it comes to situation like the above, in a literal no man's land.

If being strong willed ends there and then, from the moment one of his hand leaves him, that's impressive. What about the life after that which to me, probably amounts to an even more impressive story altogether.

Life is vulnerable, but not our heart and mind. Agree?

最毒妇人心

2011-02-23T23:25:00.002+08:00

Just a random thought on my mind just now. Seriously, I've known and heard of countless stories on how 'black' a woman heart can be, and interestingly, I linked it to the similar concept or analogy on how females are just as evil in the animal world.

Let's take a look at Black Widows. They definitely live up to their name. They are famous for being widows because they never believe in letting their partner/s live after getting 'screwed' in another words. Black widows indulge in mate cannibalism. They kill off their mate after mating. Simply because female black widow only need to mate once in their entire life, and they simply do not need their mate after mating, therefore, killing him. Guess what happens after killing their mate, she eats him up. Easy prey indeed. Widow indulgence.

Mosquitoes. Just when you are busy smacking every mosquitoes that's eyeing on that drop of blood beneath your delicate skin, do you know the one biting you are mainly females, or if not, purely females. They survive on blood other than nectar actually. Simply because they need the blood where proteins and energy can be found so that they can live longer enough to hatch their eggs.

Cockroaches! Girl's most hated pest! It is said that only female roaches fly. I can't imagine the thought of it even now. Imagine a damn bloody cockroach flying past you, you'll probably be scared out of your wits, simply because they don't fly in a singular direction. They just ANYHOW fly, which makes everything worse because you have no idea where they'll land, making it impossible to kill them, at times, or rather, most of the times. One of my most hated female of all time. EeeEeE!!!

Female tiger. One of a popular analogy on how we human often refer a very fierce woman as a tigress. Female tiger or rather tigress are the main hunter in a family. She hunt in view of protecting her territory. Also to prevent just about any male who tries to enter the family. She will not hestitate to injure or hurt the male tiger should he force his way through.

It is said that in a bee hive or an ant kingdom, is all ruled by female, famously known as queen. Queen bee ruled the bee hive and they are the ones with real sting that could possibly sent you running towards the hospital. The male bees are usually the 'hardworking' bees processing the 'operations' inside the bee hive. The males hardly go out of the hive to explore the world. As for the Queen ant, she usually mates with different males and each time she mates, she leave her current position to find a new nest. At this new nests, she can give birth to thousands at one go. They are a specialist at giving birth. She will have 'workers' under her to assist her in her giving birth process, which includes nursing it, allowing her to form a kingdom under her very care. Sometimes, a queen ant can be so crafty that they would intrude into other species of ants and kill another queen ant to be the real queen ant of that very nest. That's how they expand as well.

However, having said the above mentioned. I'm glad to have loved and still loving two of the best females in my entire life right now, and I would strongly believe, they're far from what my subject suggest. =)

V Day Celebration

2011-02-21T23:38:00.004+08:00

Good thing this year, Valentine Day didn't fall on the first few days of Chinese New Year unlike last year, instead, it falls on the 14th day of the Lunar calendar. However, having said that, due to our busy schedules we did not celebrate it (yes, again) on the actual day.

Poor girl was made to thought she'll never get to receive anything (although she wasn't expecting anything at all), I made a surprise appearance at her house with a self-bundled of roses with a special cake she loves.

It was a simple affair this year, or at least we tried to make it just a simple affair this year. We did not specifically celebrate it, probably just spending some dates out to 'commemorate' this day. Had a wild night @ Zouk on our favourite Mambo. The night did not hit its peak all the way until near wee hours, certainly didn't even started well after we somehow witnessed a unbearable accident just across the road (we're still praying that guy's alright).

Call me old man, as I barely can sustain for long enough. Just like that, I feel I'm exhausted. Perhaps, clubbing is no longer my kind of stuff. And yet, it makes me wonder, where did I get my energy in the past.

Bought her a webcam, so that she can see my unglam self at home. It dawned on me that we could just be spending time looking for practical gifts as times passed us by...

Our dates continues the next morning where we visited Wild Honey for some anticipated yummy experience, but as it turns out, too costly and guess what's worse, THEIR SERVICE AND FOOD SUCKS! Period. I shan't go further into that.

Were supposed to continue our wonderful dates that very Saturday. Turned out I fell damn sick with fever hitting near 39 Degree Celsius. Poor girl's heart were shattered. Her long awaited Hi-Tea @ Goodwood Park Hotel has to be cancelled. So, she spent her precious time for that two days (almost), spending time to change the cold towels, ensuring I'm kept cool before the fever can even hit me real hard. Thankfully I survived the ordeal and by the next day, I'm out with her. Her springing of her present where she went miles just to ensure she wasn't empty handed was totally unexpected. Nice choice of shirts I would say.

Luckily, I would say the outing that day managed to save some hopes as she enjoyed her dinner and my final surprise for her - Gold Class experience. Indeed, it wasn't cheap, but I felt it's worth every penny spent. That satisfied smile on her face spells it all. From the start to the end, we felt special. And I really do mean special. It was definitely exclusive. Seats like business class seats, menu where you can only find @ Manhattan Fish Market, service that warms your heart and of course, the experience to ensure you enjoyed your movie, totally. That's how we concluded our so called celebration of V Day.

For you girl, all I want to say is that, I'm glad having you as my valentine and Te Amo.

PS: Ashton Kutcher and Natalie Portman was indeed damn hot!

Essential Ingredients to Healthy Relationship

2011-02-14T17:08:00.002+08:00

Read it over @ yahoo.sg and found it particularly full of sense and meaningful. Decided to share it over here.

How many of us have allowed ourselves to be caught up in the whirlwind of a romance, only to be disappointed when the “honeymoon” period is over and reality sets in? Often, our partner is blamed for not putting in the effort to make the relationship work. In every relationship, be it intimate relations, friendship or kinship, it always takes a minimal of two people to work at it. A fact that everyone is aware of but rarely practices.

How then can we maintain strong, healthy and self-fulfilling relationships with a partner, parent or friend?

Communication – “Two monologues do not make a dialogue ~ Jeff Daly”

Deep, frequent, heart-to-heart conversations are essential in maintaining any relationship. Relationships fail when individuals hold the belief that: if he/she loves me, he/she should know what to do or what to say. I don’t have to tell him/her what I’m feeling or thinking.

We have to keep in mind that we are meant to interact, and are not mind readers. If you have difficulty communicating deep issues face-to-face, start off by sharing about your day and build up the confidence gradually by sharing issues closer to your heart. The person on the receiving end of your sharing will usually be appreciative of your trust and honesty.

Make time for each other

Set specific times during the week to do something both of you (or in a group setting) enjoy doing. Make it a point to celebrate special occasions and if finances permit, why not spend a weekend away from the stressors in life? Recognise that it is equally important to make time for your family.

Recalling the good times

Remember why you fell in love the first place. There are always wonderful memories etched in our brains. Reminisce on the fun times you had together with your friends and children. Tapping on such memories will also allow you to be more appreciative of one another.

Do something nice for your loved one

Know your partner’s, friends’ and family’s love language and do something they can appreciate. Love languages are expressed by – buying gifts, words of affirmation, acts of service, physical touch, and quality time. Understand how your partner showers you with affection and allow your partner to understand how you shower him/her with affection.

Appreciate the present

It’s too late for regrets when a love one passes on. There’s no point in grieving when the person has passed on or has decided to be out of your life. Learn to appreciate the present. Life is too short to dwell on the insignificant.

Celebrate and Enjoy

Celebrate the relationships you have made and maintained over the years. Enjoy the fruit of each journey you walked with that individual. Thank the person for being your partner, friend or family. Be grateful that they are still by you this day.

Start of the Rabbit Year

2011-02-07T11:53:00.002+08:00

Like every other usual Chinese New Year since years ago, I don't look forward to them. Everytime when this time of the year is nearing, they will always ask me what are my plans for my Chinese New Year, where will I be going etc. Each time, my answer will bring them an unexpected response. 'I don't celebrate Chinese New Year'. Not that I don't contact my relatives, but somehow, my family hardly visits.

Since years ago, it has been a common practise that my relatives gather at my aunt/my house (same block by the way) on the first day of Chinese New Year. And that's about the only time I met most of everyone. Other than that, my Chinese New Year will be rather quiet. Perhaps, as we grow older, such celebrations became mundane and boring, and perhaps that's also the reason why Chinese New Year public holidays were cut down to two days from three days.

The Lunar New Year atmosphere wasn't felt right until the very last moment. Our(the girl and I) visit to Chinatown was unfortunately quite boring, other than the fact it was squeezy with lots of people.

Everything got started on the eve of Chinese New Year eve. Mildred got back in time for our MR traditional reunion dinner. TOO BAD, silly ZhiQin was injured with four stitches which cause the rest of the MR members to swallow 1 red Garoupa, 1 butter crab, 1 crab bee hoon, 1 YuSheng and 1 KaiLan (with fly). We make sure we feel fat with a dessert treat @ Ice Cube where everyone can't stop laughing at Smell's Legendary Smell DIY Ice Cream. Finally, the working ones (Me and the girl) did something rare by staying out till late with a movie to sum up our MR outing.

By the time the next day arrives, it was definitely filled with the atmosphere. I can smell mandarin oranges, red packets, YuSheng etc.. Received mandarin oranges after mandarin oranges before I hit home for my own reunion dinner. Steamboat was the 'highlight' this year. As usual, we always had two rounds (excluding my weird brother). Rain was there to pour, stopping my dad's mood to visit River Hong Bao. Too bad. By then, I almost felt numb, knowing the fact that the next two days is going to be boring. Thankfully, I packed myself with Prison Break and Sudden Attack (A Cash bought, first time for Sudden Attack).

Lunar New Year arrives its first day. I woke up and Bai Nian with my parents without fail, a tradition I'm doing since young, thanks to their cultivation of this practise, which I am glad they did. Aunt came to visit with her family this year for lunch and kickstarted everything. I was bore by boredom the whole day until evening before my cousin, Ah Bear made the first ever Chinese New Year dinner for everyone, but, it's Vegetarian. That alone is enough to turn me off, but thankfully, it doesn't taste that bad. Everyone started pouring in before our annual cousin gathering starts. Lesser attendance than last year with a lousy this year. Talk about an even more proper planning in future. Ah Bear is tasked to take on the burden next year, finally I get to rest.

Second day was just as bad. I practically laze and throw the whole day away before joining the girl and her cousin for Butter Factory, which turns out to be a rather lousy experience because of the lousy music, BUT, somehow, the girls and guys there appeared to be more decent, appearance wise. (Seems like there's no good night outing this Chinese New Year).

My Chinese New Year starts on day 3, where the girl is here to Bai Nian. My sweet parents whipped up a meal for her. Had a sumptousy yummy meal before I had a wild time dancing to the 'the roof is on fire' song that keep her laughing out loud throughout. That aside, it was a crazy long queue @ Singapore Pools. I queue for whole half an hour only to place some bets wrongly, which make me pissed even until now, if not, I could have been richer, much richer.

Blackjack with my friends saw some luck. Perhaps it's home ground advantage =p
Most importantly, our BBQ session went smoothly as the looming of the cloudy weather were just passerby. I swore I feel damn fat and unhealthy after that BBQ session and guess what, I'm the biggest winner in Mahjong after luck. Seems like lady luck is shining of me this rabbit year.

Day 4. My visit to the girl house where happily, her mum decides to whip up some dishes instead of having steamboat. Her mum was known for her delectable cooking where I feel lucky to have tasted and eaten the cooking. Totally satisfying. Concluded my Chinese New Year visits at my colleague, Uncle Bruce house. He stayed in a 7-room HDB Flat (3 room + 4 room) which is awesomely huge. Had some gathering before it's Mahjong again. Can't deny I'm kind of hooked to it, and yet again, lady luck shone on me and my wallet turned slightly fatter!

And now, it's back to reality, where I'll be busy, nothing but busy for I can only expect roadshows after roadshows, bookings after bookings...May I hit top sales once again. HUAT AH!

On a side note, Happy 13th monthsary to you girl! Thanks for the 13 wonderful months you've given me. <3 id="gwProxy" type="hidden">

兔年快乐

2011-02-03T00:03:00.000+08:00

又到了新的一年。虎年在过去的一年对我还算很好。事业，爱情，健康，财富，样样都算还过得去。也很希望兔年能带来一些好运给我。今年将会是对我来说满重要的一年，尤其是在事业上。

在此，也祝福我的家人，女朋友和朋友新年快乐！希望兔年能带给你们无穷的好运，也希望今年能像兔子一样，对你如此温柔，也希望事事都能旺和步步高升，向兔子一样蹦蹦跳！！

Soccer Isn't What It Is Anymore

2011-02-01T12:36:00.003+08:00

I remember when I was young, me and my brother would eagerly wait for Saturday to catch soccer action. Then, we need not have to pay any rubbish subscription fee because it would be screened on free-to-view channel. Those were the days where soccer matches were easily accessible. Matches played then were fantastic with teams all fighting to hit top spot. Players with beautiful skills gracefully embrace this beautiful game.

However, in my opinion, this beautiful game isn't that beautiful anymore. Long gone were the days where players play for the passion. Never mind the football in Singapore (i don't fancy watching them play even for a single time, except during the Fandi Ahmad and Steven Lim times). It's English Premier League that all eyes are set. Said to be the best and most watched league in the world, players who managed to play at the top flight has great prospects.

Today, we see money in nearly every faces of the players. Eh wait, not only the players, but also the manages, coaches, directors and even agents. Money has indeed ugly-fied this beautiful game.

For example, Qatar to host World Cup in 2022. How ridiculous can that be. Imagine playing at a middle east country under 50 degree celcius heat. Yes, you may install cooling facilities in the stadium, but how about during training? How about for the fans outside the stadiums? Seriously, it's all about money. Even comments after the result of the hosting of 2022 World Cup smells nasty. Corruption, dirty, ugly faces all were mentioned.

We see how footballers like Ronaldo, Ronaldino etc were neglected even though they won World Best Footballers years ago. Fame means nothing in this so called beautiful game today. Fortune does. Fortune rules. We see how Chelsea managed to get trohpies after being taken over by Billionaire. After spending and banking hefty sum of players, they started to perform. Many called this 'buying trophies'. Indeed, it's true to some extent. Doesn't that mean those club who's poor was be made to relegate?

We see wonderful legends and players like Ryan Giggs still making appearance for Manchester United. He once divulge, it's an ugly world in soccer because everything is playing soccer for money. Whoever pays you more, you move over. No one can nowadays hold themselves like Ryan Giggs. That in turn gave rise to whom we call traitors of the club. No one can forget how Rooney was boo-ed the first time he play against his old club, Everton. No one will forget how Owen was jeered when he scored against Liverpool. Now let's look at Torress, at dying minutes of the January transfer market, he turned from Red to Blue. Immeditately the news was released, Kops supporters burnt his jersey and termed him a traitor, for all a whopping 50 million, making him a record paid player in English football.

One word, disgrace. Beautiful game has indeed been tarnished. No wonder my passion of the English game is fading.....

$20 an Hour

2011-02-01T11:10:00.003+08:00

One day, the father reached home from work and found his son still not asleep yet, when it's already 11pm. He asked, 'why aren't you asleep yet?' The son did not say anything, but just popped a question to his dad, 'Father, how much do you earn per hour?'

The father do the math mentally and answered his son, '$20 per hour'. Without hestitation, the son asked to borrow $10 from his father. The moment the question was asked, the father went fuming mad and scolded him, 'What time is it already and you still don't want to sleep, yet you still ask to borrow $10 from me?' He continued scolding and the son just kept quiet through and quietly went to bed thereafter.

Moments later, the father felt bad for being so harsh to his son. He visited his son at his bedroom and asked his son if he's asleep. The son answered, 'Hi Dad, i'm not asleep yet.' Seeing that, the father hands him $10 to his son and apologise for being harsh. Immediately, his son took a container from under the pillow and opened it up. Inside revealed tons of coin and immediately, the father scolds the son again. He scolded his son, 'You already have so much money, yet you still want to borrow money from me.'

Tearfully, the son puts the $10 note into the container and pass it to his dad. He said, "Dad, it's $20 inside this container. Can I have 1 hour of your time?'

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The above situation are so common in today's society. Fathers working hard outside, neglecting family time and life. Sometimes, parents work so hard to achieve the tangibles in life - cars, bigger house etc, all for the thought of comfort for the family, but in fact, deep inside the vulnerable and innocent heart of the children, I'm pretty sure it's the bonding time that they prefer to have.

For this, I tell myself, if I ever have my very own children next time, I'm going to be a good father, I want to be a good father that grows up with them.

On Your Own

2011-01-31T12:16:00.004+08:00

人们常说，在家靠家人，在外靠朋友。
从十七岁就开始做工的我，也经历过种种的事面。同时也看过人性好的一面，以及丑陋的一面。在这个很现实的社会，打工的我们都自然而然的陷入在‘人人为己’的画面里。

坦白得讲，大家出来做工，都是为了养活自己和家人。如今不如往日，现实变得残酷了。以前的人，在我们父母的时代，人们打工都是为了生存，养活家人。在一起工作，讲的事勤劳努力和义气。那种场面已经不存在了。为了金钱利益，人可以不惜一切。

拍马屁，自私，懒惰，不顾他人着想，总总的一切有时候还真的让我心灰意冷。我有时还蛮厌倦打工的生活。遇到不好的同事，也只能算倒大霉。有些同时也只能维持的同事的地位。人心还真的是很难测。

Awakening

2011-01-27T10:07:00.002+08:00

Like many said, 不见棺材，不掉泪. How true can this be. I never thought it could be that serious when my headaches came knocking on, at an occasional frequencies. Usually, those headaches goes away within hours, and if it gets a little unbearable, Panadol will come to the rescue.

Apparantly, the issue aren't that simple. High Blood Pressure finally came looking for me. As genetical as it could be, it can actually be prevented. My one year absence from exercise could literally did such damage to me, and to think I'm laughing off with that recent weight gain. Definitely, it's not good news to me, not to my parents and not to the girl too.

Now, I have to watch my diet, my sleeping hours, my stress level and so many more. I have to admit, I haven't been taking the utmost care to and for myself, and should I fail to do so from now, it could possibly been so irresponsible of me.

I foresee lots of sacrifices ahead such as taking precious time off to exercise when I can actually use it to do my happy stuff, not eating my favourite hawker fare. I look forward to impose strict lifestyle for my ownself from now on and of course, the support from everyone is needed. Encourage if you can, scold if you must.

I went a little search to find out how putting on weight, even by a few kilograms can be disastrous, especially when you are not exercising. Now we should really see how exercising play such an essential and important role in our healthy lifestyle. In short, to live longer, exercise.

I briefly read through the biological benefits of exercising:-

Strengthen your heart and cardiovascular system.
Improve your circulation and help your body use oxygen better.
Improve heart failure symptoms.
Increase energy levels so you can do more activities without becoming tired or short of breath.
Increase endurance.
Improve muscle tone and strength.
Improve balance and joint flexibility.
Strengthen bones.
Help reduce body fat and help you reach a healthy weight.
Help reduce stress, tension, anxiety, and depression.
Boost self-image and self-esteem.
Improve sleep.
Make you feel more relaxed and rested.
Make you look fit and feel healthy.

With exercise as simple as doing household chores, climb stairs, jogging, swimming can all help, basically, we need to be active per say. Diet is another killer. Sodium (salt) and fats all attribute to that and it shall serve as a reminder for me from now on.

Sad to say, I've waited for it to happen before I take a turn, but I shall hang in there and move on before it gets worse. It's going to be difficult, but I'm going to try it, for it could be now or never.

Rice Adventure - Pulau Ubin

2011-01-26T12:29:00.000+08:00

Rice Adventure - a name for all outing with MR from now on, having this interesting idea on how each one of us could have been a grain of rice, 'growing up' together. Therefore, I called it an adventure.

We headed for the first rice adventure this year, to Pulau Ubin! It wasn't a long wait (rare for MR given the history of being late), before Smell came and fetch us all. Feeling drunk, he worriedly hands over the steering wheel to Uncle ZhiQin, who was termed Taxi Driver throughout our course to Changi Village for some awesome Nasi Lemak.

While praying for some rain, the other bunch were doing the opposite, in the end, their prayers got heard and off we went to that bumpy boat ride to Pulau Ubin. Took some time before we settled down on our bicycles rental and water.

I remembered the last time I came here, it didn't leave a very good impression on me with mozzies kissing me almost everywhere. That alone is enough to turn me off. But this time round, not only the mozzies did not kiss me, I even saw a wild boar on our way to Chek Jawa. Real fat, how I wish I could have it for dinner (Woops).

We reached Chek Jawa not long after and oh girl, it's beautiful. I was surprised and impressed. Never did I thought such beautiful scenary would exist in Singapore, especially of all places, Pulau Ubin. It was a whole lot fun riding around and playing with each other before we finally call it a day and had a sumptous dinner of seafood, before our tired ride home with ZhiQin snoring away in Smell's car while Mildred is noisly giving directions. Ok, we're all just shagged except for Mildred.

This adventure left me with a good impression and all that sweating and tiring out, made me feel I should really work my body a little. Although very tiring, I feel rather good after a good sweatout, so much so that I proposed to the girl to do such event more often, which she agreed.

Shopping Spree @ Land of Smiles

2011-01-25T23:28:00.000+08:00

Once again, we embark on our next trip within the span of 1 week, on Singapore Airlines. It was a total feeling pre trip as compared to the one we had one week earlier to Bali. We woke up hours earlier than our usual day we do when we had work. Thankfully for online check-in, we reached airport @ 6am (woah, damn early).

The girl by then, was already so excited over the breakfast, repeatedly wishing they're going to serve her carrot cake. SADLY, to her GREATEST disappointment, carrot cake wasn't the meal. Perhaps it was too early into the day, we basically just slept through the flight.

Barely opened less than a month, we tried out the Airport Rail Link @ the airport upon arrival in Bangkok 45 Baht (approx S$1.90) and 30 minutes is all it takes to reach the heart of Bangkok. We had a tiring yet fun time, dragging our gigantic luggage (the girl brought a luggage that has size bigger that half of her, all because of her hobby, SHOPPING) all the way from the station to our hotel. We were pretty impressed with the way we did it anyway.

I'm pretty impressed with our hotel - Grand Diamond Suites Hotel. Equipped with a small cosy living hall, which we never used at all, and a bedroom with all the necessary. Somehow, I love this hotel for its location and configuration although the girl never pretty much looked back at the latter.

First up, Earawan Shrine where Four-Faced Buddha sits nicely over there. We offers our prayers and sweet girl allows my A&W cravings to be satisfied over at Pantip Plaza (Yums!). Slowly, we made our way to Siam where the rich visits (only the rich). Nothing much there except for my KRISPY KREMES which I totally regretted not laying my hands on it. Wonders if the girl shares the same regret as me (probably she's didn't as she could be dwelling over the loss of a dress she yearn to buy). Cheers to the girl again, she brought me to this nice Japanese restaurant called Fuji Restaurant where Japanese food were cheaply priced and tastefully done. We had a yummy room service to end the first night which somehow was memorable.

Second day arrives faster than we thought. Included breakfast took us by surprise with their amazing spread, especially for that porridge that appears so silky. Lunch on the other hand was even a better meal when we visit this Thai Restaurant, although the smell almost turned us off (most of their restaurant has this weird smell). Coconut Ice Cream, probably one of the best food I've eaten for this trip. Topped over glutinous rice, the coconut ice cream is not only sweet but when combined together with the 4 toppings they provided, it tasted heavenly. Along with the Phad Thai as well as her '4 Levels of Spiciness' Tom Yum soup. It boosted us for some crazy shopping later on.

Platinum Mall, the girl's favourite haunt was enough to ache our legs, dig a hole in our pockets and cause much happiness with so many variety and cheap buys. Bags after bags filled our fingers and it didn't took us long before we had a handful of loots. We go back and fro from the hotel and Platinum Mall which is just right beside each other. Finally, we decided we had enough and we hit back to MBK, where shopping continues (the girl just can't stop shopping?!?!?!). Happily, we ended the night with some Prison Break dramas.

Rise and shine early the next day (orders passed down by the Queen) because we need to get to Chatuchak by 10am, which we really did. Phew! And boy, I don't remember it being so big the last time I came here. Probably, I should have known better who I'm with. And so, the shopping queen, dragged me and we made our way around the maze. We got lost a number of times but that definitely did not affect our shopping mood. Yet again, we filled our hands with loots before having a pit shop at an Air Conditioned restuarant. You'll never know how previous air conditioner can be until you've been to Chatuchak. The shrimp cakes and the oyster omelette cast an unforgettable memory in our head as it satisfy every aspect of our tastebud together with her Tom Yum soup (yet again) and my Phad Thai (Yes, yet again). We are loyal, period!

Shopping continues before we rush for our long awaited Spa @ Let's Relax Spa Palour. Recommended by the girl, we went through near turmoils to get there as evil taxi drivers 'tok' us off our Bahts. My first time in a couple room doing massage with the girl. It was indeed as very relaxing experience as the name of the palour suggest before the real pain comes in. However, I felt pretty relaxed after everything and they concluded the session with a wonderful plate of Mango Sticky Rice. Yums. I still can't forget the amusing moments when the girl was eating hers.

Same thing again, the taxi drivers there somehow hated Chinatown, due to the jam as well as long distance away from the city. We were bluffed, cheated off our money before we painstakingly reached T&K Seafood. Heard so much about T&K Seafood, we told ourselves to wait no matter how long is the queue and indeed, it was worth every penny we spent on it. From crab with glass noodles, to sharksfin, to prawns, to cockles, to bird nest etc...we truly enjoyed that meal, probably the most expensive meal we had spent and guess what, it's less than S$35 per pax. Awesomeness! Looted on some local chinese produce before we head back to our hotel for the very last night (sobs).

Guess what's for the next day? YES! You got it, it's shopping again. A day where the girl changed for more $$ and of course, spending more on her loots. By the end of the day, I think she got more than 20 clothings. It was however, an easy feat to fit all the loots into our huge luggages but dragging it from the hotel to airport was a hassle as taxi driver attempted to ruin our day. Thankfully, everything went smoothly as we finally reached Singapore on time.

In short, enjoyable trip, great companion (for shopping, make sure you got the right companion), cheap loots and food and great hotel. Can't wait for my next time back to this pretty land of smiles!

Club Med Bali

2011-01-25T17:10:00.000+08:00

Thanks to some, I managed to go on this trip, FOR FREE, along with the girl. Both of us paid less than $200 for a $3000++ trip. Air tickets, accomodations, all meals (mind you, it's 5 meals in total) and activities are all covered and paid for. What we need to do is simply just to ENJOY and INDULGE.

Nothing probably beats Club Med when it comes to their inclusions. Personalised greetings made us feel welcomed after that 2 and a half hours flight on Singapore Airlines. However, still on my mind was the guilt brought along when I unknowingly tipped the guy who helped us with the luggage onto the taxi with 5000 Rupiah (FYI, it's only a mere 70 cents). Blame it on the number of zeros they have on their note =p

We managed to check into our room early. Disappointing enough, the first day/night was not as good. Air conditioner was not working and we had to inform them time after time before finally, the air conditioner was working way better than we expected. The worst thing of the trip was probably the lack of track/sports shoes. Without that, we basically can't do much in the resort.

Nevertheless, we managed to make the most out of what we had. Therefore, we focused on the food. We ate as much as 4-6 meals a day and ate so much that we literally forgot how to spell HUNGRY.

Being a popular destination for beaches, ironically, we did not hit the beach. All because we had such a wonderful swimming pool. We can't helped but laid our beach towel early on the benches. Imagine having a cool cocktail, with a book on hand and sun that seems brighter than ever. Now that's life. And it seems like only the Ang Mohs know how to enjoy LIFE much better than we Asians.

And when night falls, the whole resort seems to come to life with nicely lited interior and exterior. Especially the main bar where they serve free flow of wines, alcohol and cocktails etc, even the snacks got our tummy growling. Music blasted set us into the mood and their nightly entertainment never fails to amuse or amaze us. Especially the last night where the girl insist in playing the haunted maze where she got herself so scared while I got myself insanely happy, patting and pulling on people's hair. Woops.

What's memorable is the cooking class which both us attended, learning how to cook an Indonesian dish, PEPES! I've yet to try at home but someday, I will. It's interesting to see how Club Med has everything packed together for everyone, from young to old. Imagine having petit Club, mini club for children so parents can conveniently and happily leave their children on good hands while they go and enjoy themselves and spend some romantic couple time.

It's such a relaxing holiday that make me so fully recharged that I refused to go to work where my recharged body will be burnt down again. Nevertheless, my first time holidaying on leisure purpose on Club Med and definitely, I will go back to Club Med once again. Club Med Phuket perhaps?

안녕하세요, 대한민국

2011-01-25T10:32:00.000+08:00

My virgin time in the land of idols, where hunks and babes were simply over-rated. Girl's Generation (they're still awesome, ok), Rain, Super Junior blah blah blah, the list goes on. I still thought at the very least, the babes there would distract my vision a little. Turned out, none of which are what I thought. Not that disappointing because afterall, I have to keep my eyes on 34 passengers. Not the biggest group, but definitely the worst.

Due to the peak season, itinerary were changed and off we set to Mount Seorak. I expected snow to touch ground and temperature to be harsh, ultimately, only the latter came true. Temperature was hovering between -3 to -8 degree celcius.

Although it's something special, I never like Ryokan style (Japanese Style/Korean Style) rooms. It's like I'm trapped in a huge box and I'm given a few mattress to configure around with. That makes two nights out of the six an rather eerie and uncomfortable one.

However, the disappointment left as soon as it arrives. On the 3rd day of the tour, snow greeted us where temperature plunge into the lowest I've encountered, -18 degree celcius. Contradicting enough, I remained resistant enough not to use any of the heatpacks, however, I neglected my ears so much so that I couldn't feel it anymore. I almost thought it's dropping out.

I decided skiing is not my kind of thing ever since I fell countless time back in March last year when I visited Club Med for the first time in Hokkaido, Japan. Funny to see how first-timers would walk like a turtle/crab in their ski suits.

Babes and hunks remains nowhere to be seen (I still refuse to believe my eyes), all that was around me are single eyelid-ders who really look like they're from China. Apart from the people, I really got sick and tired of seeing Kimchi for each and every single meal. Plus the numerous side dishes, I must I'm pretty impressed with what Korean cuisine has to offer. Of them all, the BBQ meat as well as the Ginseng Chicken with Abalone stole my heart totally.

Food aside, the scenary that places like Jeju has to offer, it's totally awesome. It's a pity I didn't managed to get on to any rides @ Lotte World or Everland, even though, I badly want to get myself into that thrilling gigantic roller coaster @ Everland. Enough of regrets. One thing I'm glad I did was the NANTA Cookin' Show. I missed it the other time, and was full of regrets. Thankfully, this time round, I managed to catch it in Korea with much enthusiasiam, delight and excitement. The whole near two hour show was nothing but comedy and laughter.

Finally, I hit Seoul, the long awaited capital of Korea where babes and hunks are supposed to exist. Yes, indeed they filled the malls and streets but I reckon most of them went under the knife and are probably plastic. Back @ the shopping areas, I got my hands full of bags as I desperately fight against time to grabs any possible loots I can find, from posters to metal chopsticks to food. Awesome!

In short, I've climbed mountains, seen snow, tasted the best orange in Korea (suposedly), seen Liger and wild mammals in a different way, experienced the coldness and loneliness, the plastic people and of course the ugly side of the travel industry in Korea. So people please, if you are travelling as a group tour to Korea and being introduced to Ginseng, and whatnots, chances are, you will be 'chopped' and have a crazy hole dug from your pockets. Imagine me earning a bountiful $1.5k just from this trip. It's a hideous scheme behind the beautiful pictures alongside.

Happy First

2011-01-10T22:28:00.007+08:00

Just like the picture above, lovebird live up to their name and definitely not 浪得虚名. Affectionate in nature, they are famous for their pair bonding and the long periods one couple spend sitting together. However, aggression can be easily aroused and biting or hurting of each other can occur unless a bond is establish with gentle handling. When provided with adequate space, appropriate nutrition and bonding, a lovebird can be a cherished companion to the other.

It applies totally same to us Human Beings. We could well be no different from those lovebirds when it comes to the word love. How one couple can weather through ups and downs and how the basic ingredients of a relationship are so essential to it, such as freedom, trust, understanding etc. This amazing thing called ‘Love’ to me, feels like something unexplainable that could impact one’s life. No longer do you put only yourself before yourself.

So much has happened in the past 12 months and I could not be happier to have loved and be loved and still do now, to have learnt how imperfect I am as a person and how important is ‘giving unconditionally’. Many times, many said wooing a girl is like an uphill task, because you have to impress her, you have to ‘not be yourself’ or to be the super nice guy she wants you to be, etc, and once you got that girl, it’s a job well done and finally, the boulder of love on your shoulders are down. But, I beg to differ, to a very very large extent. Not that she’s easy to woo, but because I feel maintaining the relationship is the tougher job. I’ve read through the ‘so true’ 5 stages of a relationship (http://ezinearticles.com/?5-Stages-of-Committed-Relationships&id=528343). It nicely sums up a couple’s love life basically. Maintaining a relationship is by means no easy feat. It takes a lot to stay committed, to keep a balance between all aspects of life and of course, to love yourself before you can even have the capability to take care of someone.

She taught me a lot. My imperfections, my strengths, even to the most nitty stuff like baking. In short, we compliment each other. I guess chemistry just sparkles more as bond grows along the way. Little wonder why they call the closest thing after magic is love and I can’t help but agree more on that. With that, Happy First. =)

Ending this heartfelt post, with something I chanced upon somewhere which leaves one with more room to ponder....

Life is short
Break the rules
Forgive quickly
Love truly
Laugh constantly
And never stop smiling
No matter how strange life is
Life is not always the party we expected to be

How Deep Is Your Love?

2011-01-06T00:08:00.001+08:00

From the very beginning, the girl's family objected strongly on her dating this guy. Saying that it has got to do with family background, and that the girl will have to suffer for the rest of her life if she were to be with him.

Due to family's pressure, the couple quarrel very often. Though the girl love the guy deeply, but she always ask him: "How deep is your love for me?"

As the guy is not good with his words, this often cause the girl to be very upset. With that and the family's pressure, the girl often vent her anger on him. As for him, he only endure it in silence. After a couple of years, the guy finally graduated and decided to further his studies in overseas.

Before leaving, he proposed to the girl: "I'm not very good with words. But all I know is that I love you. If you allow me, I will take care of you for the rest of my life. As for your family, I'll try my best to talk them round. Will you marry me?"

The girl agreed and with the guy's determination, the family finally gave in and agreed to let them get married. So before he leave, they got engaged.

The girl went out to the working society, whereas the guy was overseas, continuing his studies. They sent their love through emails and phone calls. Though it's hard, but both never thought of giving up.

One day, while the girl was on her way to work, she was knocked down by a car that lost control. When she woke up, she saw her parents beside her bed. She realized that she was badly injured. Seeing her mum crying, she wanted to comfort her. But she realized that all that could come out of her mouth was just a faint moan. She has lost her voice...

The doctors says that the impact on her brain has caused her to lose her voice. Listening to her parents' comfort, but with nothing coming out from her, she broke down.

During the stay in hospital, besides silence cry, ... it's still just silence cry that companies her. Upon reaching home, everything seems to be the same. Except for the ringing tone of the phone. Which pierced into her heart every time it rang. She does not wish to let the guy know and not wanting to be a burden to him, she wrote a letter to him saying that she does not wish to wait any longer.

With that, she sent the ring back to him. In return, the guy sent millions & millions of reply, and countless of phone calls, all the girl could do, besides crying, is still crying... The parents decided to move away, hoping that she could eventually forget everything & be happy.

With a new environment, the girl learn sign language and started a new life. Telling herself everyday that she must forget the guy. One day, her friend came and told her that he's back. She asked her friend not to let him know what happened to her. Since then, there wasn't anymore news of him.

A year has passed and her friend came with an envelope, containing an invitation card for the guy's wedding. The girl was shattered. When she open the letter, she saw her name in it instead.

When she was about to ask her friend what's going on, she saw the guy standing in front of her.
He used sign language telling her "I've spent a year's time to learn sign language. Just to let you know that I've not forgotten our promise. Let me have the chance to be your voice. I Love You."

With that, he slipped the ring back into her finger. For a change, the girl dropped tears of joy.

Understanding Quarrel

2011-01-03T16:08:00.004+08:00

A word which everyone dislike and would avoid at all possible cost. Yet, it is inevitable in our daily lives. However, as much as one hate it, one can only avoid quarel but can't prevent it.

There are tons of reasons why a quarrel may occur. Some of the reasons make good sense while some don't. However, the fact remains that when we are swept away in this moment of dispute, there is really little both can do about it until the entire process has run its course. However, if all this can be prevented and still achieve what is desired, then that will be a bonus.

Often, we splurted out hurtful words in heated argument, we talk and fought a verbal word in tense moments and say out things that doesn't tally with our intentions and don't really mean it. But sometimes, we simply just allow things to get over our head, resultiing in alot of unnecessary consequences. The after effects of that most of the time usually proved damaging or fatal. It take minutes to quarrel and splurt out all the unnecessary words, but it could just take hours to heal from it.

I have my fair share of quarrels which most of the time, I regretted. I must say quarrels are necessary in every kinship, relationship and friendship. It provides a basis as to why it even happen in the first place. Many times, we neglect the intentions while participating in the process, causing lots of bombardment. I must say, none of which would however still, be enjoyable. But I do learn from every quarrel I had, and I certaintly regretted each and every single one of them, be it beneficial or not. I go on to share my afterthoughts after each quarrel.

Remorse
This is the first thing that will hit me each time after each quarrel, especially with people I loved alot. Usually, it's from a 'hand on head' scenario. Looking back at the moment and regretting my actions.It certaintly helps for both to come out and talk things out peacefully. Perhaps they always mentioned 'Sorry seems to be the hardest word'. True? It's however still important to be apologetic and admit your actions. Remorse shows humility, maturity and wisdom and reiterates the fact that we aren't perfect. None of us wishes for a quarrel and none of us wakes up with a need for one. However if this can come of it then we have learned something from it and it was necessary.

Distance
Some quarrels lead to people staying apart of each other. Involved parties tend to keep a distance. Be it cooling down first, or prevention of aggrevation of the argument. Distance could be preferred. However for some, it might seem difficult on both sides because they may have been used to having each other around. I definitely belong to that latter. The fact remains that a quarrel might just be the solution to avoid involved parties from taking each other for granted. But I must admit, distance could just be necessary for the resolving of an argument at times as one take a step back, calm the heart down and reflect it well.

Honesty
I can't stress how important I think this can be. In most quarrels we are likely to lose control of what we say, perhaps even the harshest word that we don't even mean it at all. Perhaps sometimes, we might say what we believe is the truth because during this time we are angry. It is better to say this truth under different circumstances, however if it takes a quarrel to present this truth then it has served its purpose.The truth needs to be heard to solidify a relationship or understanding between people. And of course, 'follow-ups' has to follows and assurance or clarifications is necessary to prevent further misunderstanding. If one continuously walk in circles round each other we would never get to know who we are. By being honest, either during or after, it will eventually make the quarrel worthwhile, I suppose

Silence
I totally can't stand silence. Although I must admit, this is important. Some people might say that a quarrel leads to hatred and silence, people not talking to each other because of the experience of the quarrel. The unfortunate point about quarrel is that it took a quarrel for the truth to present it self. If silence exists after the quarrel, it could meant it much needed for both sides to understand what they want out of the relationship. But of course, silence has to come to a stop eventually because halting the entire issue or situation would just worsen it instead of the other way around.

Fear
The worst effect I deemed. There might be the fear that the next time this happens it could lead to something worse and harmful. I reckon it could just be a bad feeling or thought, however, it can still be to the advantage of both sides. Each would be afraid of letting a quarrel be the solution to their problem and both sides would be aware of what precautions they need to take to protect themselves from this being carried to the next level. But while going through fear, it's still important to keep faith and eliminate this fear slowly.

I do wish that I will not have any quarrels with anyone but I jolly well know that it is impossible but I do believe everything happens for a reason. May this year be one with least quarrels.

Horoscope for Year 2011

2011-01-03T14:55:00.002+08:00

Your health passes above all by your emotional life, more than ever, this year. Indeed, your sensitivity binds you more closely still than usual with those which you like and your general state will be closely related to the "good health" of your relations. By putting all your heart in your bonds you will be curiously more easily in form. Many doctors will get lost, you will see to disappear digestive dermatoses, concern by finding a family and/or sentimental balance! The impulses of Uranus will support certain allergies, especially caused by pollution and in the broad sense, with all that is related to metals. Combined Saturn with Jupiter into trigonal indicates a strong probability of dental or osseous concern. Take care not to make dead end on the dairy products, particularly.

Courtesy of (http://www.divinologue.com). May this year be a wonderful year for all. Stay/Be positive, smile always (be happy) and take things at your stride. All will be wel for everyone.

Goodbye 2010.

2010-12-31T09:20:00.004+08:00

Year 2010 is ending sooner than I thought. Just like that, time catches up with us. I thought it’s a rather good time and ‘excuse’ for me to reflect on this year and as I do, read up my blog post of the past near one year, I realized it had been a fruitful year. A few milestone reached which probably contribute to a good conclusion to the year.

As I reflect on, I'll summarise this year based on the 7 'wonders', like how I attempted to last year back in 2009, namely:-
- To See
- To Hear
- To Touch
- To Taste
- To Feel
- To Laugh
- To Love

To See
The world - I’ve made a record number of trip once again this year as I’ve traveled to several countries for the first time. Sahoro, Taipei, Penang, Korea, Batu Pahat, Bintan and Batam. One of my greatest wish in my life, is to see the world, to see the culture of others, to experience their living, to eat their food and lots more. Sad to say, the global world today is going through a common globalization with the need to progress, causing the authenticity to decrease. Nevertheless, I’m privileged enough to have travel to the above mentioned places with many of my loved ones. The braised meat rice in Taipei, the oyster omelette from Penang, the pure white snow in Sahoro, the raging cold in Korea, the authentic olden lives in Batu Pahat, the serene Bintan and lastly, the Kumpung Batam, I must say, I’ve been lucky to see what I’ve seen.

Myself - I’ve at the same time, seen myself growing up. For the first time since entering into 20s, I see myself as an older person. I’m starting to feel the pressure of being 25 years old. It’s no longer like the yester-years where I am still a small little boy with nothing to worry. Now, I spend what I earn. I save what I’m left. I’m finally graduated after years of studies which sees my parents and the girl coming together to witness this milestone, something I’m very proud of myself, and I think it’s high time I move on from where I am now.

To Hear
Them ‘LIVE’ – Music has always been a very part of me. I’ve watched a few concerts this year and I must say it’s all money well spent. Muse, MayDay are just the mere few I’ve been, yet it cast such a great impression for me and it’s still staying as a memory so wonderful to me. Please please pleasem bring Nickelback, Greenday and The Killers here next year, I’m dying to see them. I’m still eagerly waiting to find out what’s the standup line for the Big Night Out next year.

Wedding bells are ringing – Friends around me are starting to get married and I’m attending more wedding dinner and ceremony as days pass. It dawned on me that being 25 years old is no joke, especially when you are attached. Anyway, I’m happy for friends who got married this very year, my closest classmate who got married with his wife, my girlfriend’s friend who got married and we had to travel to Malaysia for their wedding dinner (something so so interesting) and not forgetting my colleagues and all, are in their 20s. Oh gosh.

To Touch
Our hearts – I would like to make a dedication to my beloved pets – my beloved hamsters. Miu Miu, who had passed away long ago, was finally joined by Shoobing late this year. The fun, the joy, the happiness they brought us, is something we will never forget. Never mind the tears that following after their demise, because they’ll always stay in our heart always.

To Taste
Despair – The last time I felt this turmoil was back in Year 2006 when I failed my driving umpteen times. The tremendous pressure was not to be taken lightly and it mounts on it. Yet again this year, I’m forced to go through this again. I narrowly failed my final paper, one which determines my graduation and that got me into despair. It’s so hard to pick myself up after so much effort being put in. Imagine having to fall when you are near the peak. Pain, pure pain. BUT, I’m glad for all the support I got from my loved ones that gave me the strength to carry on, and finally…..I did it.

To Feel
World Cup @ South Africa. I'm glad it happened this very year. Subscription fees has gone way up but that did not stop me from watching the matches. I'm glad to have hung out with friends over that span of one month. Watching those matches @ Hooters, Mac, Pubs, Bars etc all just summarise. All my money eventually went to those restaurant outlets, pubs and bars and of course, Singapore Pools. Argentina's loss was a total humiliation but nevertheless, Spain managed to revenge. The whole excitement and togetherness from this World Cup could possibly make this the best world cup ever, in my entire life.

To Laugh
To Laugh. I realised how important it is to just laugh. Going through the woes this year, makes me realise laughing is really no laughing matter. Whether one moves on or not, it's all in the mind. Being positive and to laugh things off, is probably an essential part of my life already. Taking things seriously yet at the same time, with a light-hearted mind definitely helps. Like I've said again, nobody dies from positivity anyway.

To Love
I fell in love and got together with a long time friend of mine. Very unexpectedly but blissful ever since (quoted from the girl). She made me believe in LOVE again and it's indeed truth as it brings back the saying, 爱与被爱是幸福的.

No new year resolutions because deep in me, I still believe one should just take one step at a time, come what may. I've counted my blessings and I'm thankful to all who have walked through this wonderful year with me, making this moment a possible one.

Have a Happy New Year and may we bid goodbye to 2010 with good memories and welcome 2011 with positivity. HUAT AH!

안녕하세요 (An nyoung ha seh yo)

2010-12-15T17:28:00.002+08:00

In few hours time, I'm going to fly 6 hours to South Korea with much uncertainty - the terrifying weather (at least it's very terrifying to someone who's so afraid of cold like me), the environment, the language, the culture, the place, the tour guide, the tension between the two Koreas. But whatever it is, let this be a peaceful and good one, before I happily reach back to this Hot Hot Singapore for my festive seasons of joy!

Come to think of it, it's nearly 40 degree celcius difference between the two lands..Brrr...can't imagine the -11 Degree Calcius there...God Bless.

I'm Lucky

2010-12-05T14:11:00.009+08:00

I'm lucky to have and be with who I'm blessed with. They always say, it take years to bond a relationship, but all you need is for that mere few minutes to destroy what was built over the years.

We don't get to choose our parents, neither do we get to choose our siblings as well. That could be possibly the best thing on Earth. I owe it to them to where I am today.

My mum was definitely the silent pillar behind me. Always supportive, motivating and concerning over me. Her shower of concern towards me, expressiveness of naggy-ness as well as unconditional effort and love is there. Seriously, to think that I could still make her sad at times. I realized that she finally accepted the fact that her son could not spend as much as time with her anymore, unlike how when I'm young, I'm like a Mama's boy. Sticking with her 24/7 and any sight without her will send me tearing. This in fact is a joke still teased by my mother.

My dad was a stern figure. Not a man of much words. He gave me the support I most desperately need at unexpected moments. He's the man behind the entire family, keeping us intact and ensure both me and my Bro don't go astray. He used rewards to keep us motivated in our studies. Unfortunately, he has a son who doesn't like studying, and failing him when I was 15 years old but still, I'm glad on the day I stood on the stage with that Mortar Board on my head, he appeared the happiest man on Earth, I knew, he was proud of me.

My brother on the other hand, was the silent supporter. If anyone of you has a childhood sweetheart, I'll gladly deem my brother as one. He's the one who brought fun and love to my childhood, though fights, quarrels and of course from all the nitty gritty things. The growing up never seems boring with him around. We grew up learning from one another, fighting with each other, competing with each other and finally now that both of us has grown up (something my parents are very glad about), we led our very own lives, own directions but I must say our relationship is still going strong, in a very solemn way.

As the saying goes, 在家靠家人，在外靠朋友. Nothing can be more true that than. 知音能有几个? Not alot. I must say I've been fortunate though my life surrounded by true friends who has stood by me all along.

Primary school was a nightmare in school, pretty much due to the introvert me. I didn't understand how having friends really feels like. Secondary school life was instead, on the total opposite - it made me realize and understand the word 'friends'.

Best friend, there can only be one, if not, you can't really call it Best Friend. There's lots of reasons why it's best. The things both do, both crazy and wacky, the crap they've been though, the thought and memories that trails behind, yet follows silently. To me, best friend is one who never fails to send me 'goodluck' when I'm having exams, 'bon voyage' when I'm flying off, lending me his precious ears when I'm in need, standing by me when I'm falling, it's just as simple and yet as difficult as that. I'm indeed lucky to be fortunate to have such a best friend with me.

Of course, I'm blessed with alot of other good friends who've walked my life with me together. Unfortunately I've seen how friendship can fell apart just like that, and I seriously hope my turn will never come because I really do treasure all my friends, and I mean FRIENDS.

Last but not least, I must say I'm lucky to 'lost and have found'. I found this special person. The unconditional love. A good girlfriend isn't one who's there to praise how much you love her. A good girlfriend isn't one who always pretend to be nice just so you would love and dote on her more. A good girlfriend isn't one who demand you to spend every single minute and every single day with her. A good girlfriend isn't one who treats you nice just because she thinks you should do the same to her as well.

A good girlfriend is one who tells you off when you did something wrong and praise you when you did something right. A good girlfriend is one who nags at you and make sure you won't repeat your mistakes. A good girlfriend is one who remembers what you love to eat and would go all out and buy for you just because she knows you love it. A good girlfriend is one who does not matter if you don't have the time to spend with her because you have work to complete. A good girlfriend is one who gives yet does not expect anything in return. To me, my special someone made me realize what a good girlfriend should be, because she is.

So in life, it's not what you own, it's not what you don't have, it's not what you've achieve, it's not what you've done but it's who's with you when you're going through your ups and downs. I take this chance to thank you all for being there for me always, and deep inside my heart, although I know it is impossible, still, I hope for it...and that is...we can be together forever and ever....